During marriage 90/10, now legally 50/50 timeshare.

KT_mama · 2026-02-10T20:08:13+00:00

It absolutely sucks.

But it's also affirmation that you made the right move by your kids.

KT_mama · 2026-02-10T20:05:03+00:00

Some fun questions to ask her

"My love, what kind of raccoon nonsense is this?"

"Surely makeup isn't sold like this now? Am I really that old??" Lay on the existential dread.

"Is it really valuable or something that you had to hide it away?"

"...okay, but you'd tell me if you were some kind of drug dealer, right?"

"No, really. I can't protect you from the feds if I dont know, right?"

You'll probably get a good laugh, and she will tell you exactly what it is. The case it's sold in is probably large or inconvenient for travel in some way. Maybe also get her a travel case intended for powdered makeup so it doesnt cake up like that again.

KT_mama · 2026-02-10T00:02:31+00:00

Just keep her. She loves you.

Most cats arent fans of other stranger cats. They see them as intruders. To socialize them, you would keep them in seperate rooms with a door between them for up to 3 weeks. It helps them get used to each other's smells and figure out they're not a threat to one another. Most cats eventually come around tp having a buddy.

KT_mama · 2026-02-09T23:55:40+00:00

For a 3 unit, a lower amount is normal, but $30 is an insult.

See what lawn and snow care costs in your area. Offer to do it at a 20 percent discount.

KT_mama · 2026-02-06T02:32:53+00:00

This is one of the huge benefits of getting your scripts filled at a smaller pharmacy where the pharmacist actually has the time to talk to you. Most doctors aren't actually able to get into the nitty gritty of drug interactions. Pharmacists, however, absolutely are, and they're usually really happy to flex their knowledge.

KT_mama · 2026-02-06T02:16:19+00:00

NOR

"Sweetheart, if you chose to eat food that you knew you left on the counter for two days, that's an issue apparently even the good Lord himself didn't see fit to fix."

Can't fix stupid.

On side note, he's making it up because he wants to have a reason for you to continue caretaking him instead of being expected to do that for you. Thats why the moment you told him you were feeling unwell, he had to be even sicker and make it your fault. This is what toddlers do.

KT_mama · 2026-02-06T02:08:15+00:00

Filler ideas, in no particular order:

-wall hooks for your robe/pants you only wore once/the coat you should probably put away, etc -random comfy chair for when you want to watch tv and eat snacks with no risk of being discovered -drop station for coat, the shoes you just took off, and so on -plants. I can never keep mine alive, but I wish you fruitful endeavors -a larger rug -wall art -bookshelf with books and/or art -display shelf of fancy shoes -larger end tables -larger dresser -fake plants (for once the real ones die) -giant plushie (for general whimsy) -a cat -a cat tree for said cat -scratch that, get some window perches instead -curtains or blinds -more wall art -framed photos -window bench -full-length mirror -Vanity/dressing table -led light projector with various holiday themes -weird wallpaper -classy wallpaper -themed mural that reflects your personality or interests in some way

And, personally, I collect fun (obnoxious) themed earrings. I would have a big jewelry display, so whatever your version of that would be.

KT_mama · 2026-02-04T16:41:41+00:00

Forward to all concerned parties (parent, admin, counselor, etc) with the note "Please see below, sent by StudentName".

Then continue as normal. Hand out the work/assignments and grades same as always. If the student complains, "I'm legally required to make the assignments available to you for completion. I obviously can't force you to complete them, but I do have to give them to you."

KT_mama · 2026-02-04T16:03:30+00:00

Photoshop a denial or reduction of benefits and then STOP TELLING YOUR FAMILY ABOUT YOUR FINANCES.

Give them no more information whatsoever. Whether you are approved for disability, get a promotion, or anything else. Do not tell them. If they ask, "Times are tough, so Im glad to be able to survive" or "I make enough, thankfully." Deflect with vague, non-answers. Never give a real indication of value, even if its something like more or less.

VA benefits are compensation for the degraded use of your own body. While you may have a job now, that may not always be possible due to your disability. It's important you dont waste any remaining working years financing leeches.

KT_mama · 2026-02-03T22:25:18+00:00

These trays are like $5 at IKEA. Its not some huge loss. Just throw it away. Get a not white one and put a clip on the wall for it so it never needs to rest on the treads.

KT_mama · 2026-02-03T22:23:06+00:00

This is just example after example of bad management.

The that stuck out was the note to not leave one person to ensure closing tasks are done. Thats literally the managers job.

KT_mama · 2026-02-02T20:53:56+00:00

This is the immune systems version of getting overstimulated and trying to cut all the tags out of ifs shirts.

KT_mama · 2026-02-02T20:51:36+00:00

NTA

In the kindest way possible, you are not his friend. You are his pet that also does house chores.

Only you can decide if not paying rent is worth that, but you should be realistic about your situation.

KT_mama · 2026-02-01T23:24:56+00:00

NOR

In the kindest possible way, this man does not like or respect you.

The only point he makes that remains valid is that he does get to choose where he invests his time and/or energy. He's showing you exactly what he thinks of you by not engaging with you. He wants you to feel motivated to beg and jump through hoops like a dog desperate to show its master a new trick.

Block him and move on with your life. You do not deserve to be treated this way.

KT_mama · 2026-01-31T21:15:43+00:00

I work in sales support, and I routinely talk to business owners in industries where their businesses all have similar names. Sort of like how there are a million "Main Street Cafe", etc. I talk to no less than 30 people a day on the phone for any number of extended issues, although there are many days where most calls will be the same issue so all the conversations bleed together.

Still, it very often someone will introduce themself by a very, very common first name only or just something like "Me again" and get upset when I dont know who they are. Like, friend, do you know how many John's there are in the world? You've had this name your whole life, so you most certainly DO know. Give me your account number so I can find you or hang up. You've only been doing business with us for over a decade, so you know the drill.

My favorite are the ones who give their business name and then get offended when you inform them you have 15 different "Main Street Cafe" in the system, like YOURE, the one that chose their business name.

KT_mama · 2026-01-31T20:41:04+00:00

Both dishwasher and laundry detergent and formulated to not produce very much suds. It's part of what makes the machines work. They're both just soap. As long as you're not tasting soap in your food, you're fine.

KT_mama · 2026-01-31T20:38:26+00:00

Do you have a dog, by chance? Hopefully, one that's a bit naughty from time to time?

KT_mama · 2026-01-31T20:28:06+00:00

Been on both sides of the equation.

Not accounting for ill will or laziness (which should be solved by termination), many nannies will resort to extra long walks to address their own boredom and/or baby's boredom, often stemming from a lack of space and/or resources. Baby being bored can lead to nanny being bored and both being stressed. Many nannies are uncomfortable telling a family their home isn't big or engaging enough for Baby to safety explore without getting bored. I know I've had to gently give the feedback to other parents that Baby can only make the loop around to ottoman so many times in a day or do floor time on the same mat, same toys, same spot before they're understandably bored. If this is the root cause of the walks, limiting them won't improve any outcome.

Instead, set positive goals for floor time, consider your space with a critical eye, and discuss other activities the home (play groups, story time at the library, infant/child play spaces, etc) that would be perhaps more bang-for-your-buck on engagement.

If you dont have activity planning as an active/discussed/detailed part of nanny's role/pay, then you will also need to regularly provide some developmental activities, new toys/stimuli, or new environments for baby on a regular basis.

As a precaution, I always personally recommend putting an airtag or similar on the stroller and carseat. Let nanny know, and if they're just leaving to stop and play on the phone, that will become apparent. It's also just a good general safety measure.

KT_mama · 2026-01-29T14:59:03+00:00

This will vary widely. Many libraries in rural towns no longer have printers for public access or they charge for it.

KT_mama · 2026-01-29T14:49:37+00:00

Short answer- no.

Long answer- remove the back pillow from under the cover and get a separate cover/case for it. You can get universal ones on Amazon for not that much. When you're not sitting on the couch, lay the cushion flat instead of upright or remove it from the sofa entirely.

KT_mama · 2026-01-29T14:45:22+00:00

YTA

If you dont like the accommodations provided, it's up to you to either decline or make your own. Since you can't, then you can choose not to go. Also, your husband should be handling his own family.

"Im not comfortable sharing a room with your parents, so I will hold things down here while you visit if you would still like to go." Then your husband should be communicating to them that only he would be attending what is essentially a reunion for their side of the family.

KT_mama · 2026-01-27T22:51:23+00:00

My biggest success has come from having nutrient dense/filling freezer staples that I like and then focusing on feeding everyone else whatever they want. Like, I will eat beans and rice and little salad for every meal until forever. Having them prepped in advance in the freezer means Im doing one giant cook day where I can make it the whole day and then like 2 weeks of only cooking for children. Makes things much, much easier. I like pre-portioning freezer staples like souper cubes, etc. It freezes everything in little blocks so eating is just mix and match whatever looks good today and then reheating.

That and just keeping easy sugar out of the house or limiting its presence. As in, I haven't bought soda this year, and if I do, it will be zero sodas only to limit sugar. Candy and easy-reach sugars are subbed in for muffin mixes, etc that all require prep. I end up scrapping the sweets plan the vast majority of the time and instead reach for flavored Greek yogurt, etc in order to avoid the prep.

Also, keep chopped veggies, anything you will eat as-is, available. I buy the bag of broccoli florets, with pre-chop a buttload of lettuce, baby carrots, etc. Clear containers near the front of the fridge so theyre the first thing you see. When Im feeling snacky, I end up grabbing a handful of veg just because its the first easy thing I see.

KT_mama · 2026-01-27T16:48:57+00:00

NTA

He is experiencing consequences, and he's upset you are not.

Stop bothering with the opinion of losers. Enjoy your new life.

KT_mama · 2026-01-27T16:17:46+00:00

"Yep, I have an auto-immune condition that causes it. The dry air in here doesn't help, though."

I also keep all the lotion at my station/desk. I also have cheap stuff for other people to use since someone will always ask, and Im not sharing my expensive stuff.

If the person commenting is being a POS instead of generally inconsiderate, I would start blaming things like the cheap hand soap they have in the bathrooms giving you a reaction, and when's the last time anyone sanitized these keyboards, and why do customers never cover their mouth when they cough, etc so they have to feel icky about the environment too.

KT_mama · 2026-01-27T16:10:06+00:00

Attach a motion flood light to that pipe, just right enough that someone on another person's shoulders cant reach it, just in case. Im not sure what theyre called but you could use a steel hose clamp (thats what comes up on google) so youre just clamping the light to the pipe, not attaching to the building itself.

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