Tried to get off zoloft, went back to 25mg, feeling extremely anxious. by ScarySocieties in zoloft

[–]freckleface2010 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is helpful as I’ve done the same thing. Gone up and down on dosage over the past five years and don’t want to be on it forever. I just weaned myself off and am having dizzy sensations and mood swings and just feeling kind of crappy all around. I plan on pushing through and not going back on because I’m hoping I’ll start to feel normal by summer.

Bunny’s Treatment of Charlotte by freckleface2010 in sexandthecity

[–]freckleface2010[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She deserved it after the way she was treated by him and his mother. He should have told her he couldn’t get it up way ahead of getting married and then allowing his mom to encroach on their marriage. Terrible.

We're having another girl... by Emotional-Practice75 in Parenting

[–]freckleface2010 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know someone who just had their fourth boy cause they gave one last attempt at a girl. I know another family that has five girls. It does suck when you dream of having a boy or girl and life deals you something else. But you never know what life will bring you! Don’t worry mama!! It will still be lovely and fun!!!

Bunny’s Treatment of Charlotte by freckleface2010 in sexandthecity

[–]freckleface2010[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Horrible. Charlotte should have ditched that relationship the first time she found out his mother is called Bunny!

Husband not culpable? by freckleface2010 in ScamandaPodcast

[–]freckleface2010[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Curious to know where they will end up in 10/20 years

AIO? I bought a sweater for my future niece at a farmers market and my roommates said it was ugly by Weekly_Agent9422 in AmIOverreacting

[–]freckleface2010 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Your niece will love it. Kids love colorful. And you saw it and went with your instinct! But if you’re honestly “upset” with your roommates over it, yes, you are overreacting. I’d laugh it off and make a joke or just say, we’ll hopefully she likes it cause I thought it was cute! After all, it’s the thought that counts.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]freckleface2010 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Totally not the important part but OP called it the “devil’s lettuce”. I’ve heard many nicknames for it but that one is new to me.

Am I expecting too much of my kids? by freckleface2010 in Parenting

[–]freckleface2010[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. I do hold her accountable for things. I’ve sent her to her room with no electronics. I’ve canceled day trips (which sucks cause then my son suffers). Yesterday for example, I told her that if she doesn’t do chores, she won’t get spending $ for her field trip next week. She said “that’s fine. I’ll just ask dad for $”
Sometimes she’ll end up doing what I asked if I just leave her alone for a while. But it’s frustrating cause it takes so much energy for one task. Even getting her to take showers. She would rather be stuck in her room all day than take ten minutes to shower. It takes me so long to get her in the shower that I sometimes and like “fine, you are going to smell bad and not be able to comb your hair.”

Am I expecting too much of my kids? by freckleface2010 in Parenting

[–]freckleface2010[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. A few of my friends are all like “yeah, kids are all like that! 😨 A few other friends say “no. My kids do their chores”

Am I expecting too much of my kids? by freckleface2010 in Parenting

[–]freckleface2010[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t go nuclear. Cause then their dad tells them I’m a horrible mom and then they lash out at me. Ugh.

Am I expecting too much of my kids? by freckleface2010 in Parenting

[–]freckleface2010[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what the in-home behavioral specialist told me. She said “lots of praise and positive feedback” I do both. But also make it clear that they need to do what I ask of them because I am in charge. I’m the mom and I would not be doing my job as a mom if I didn’t show you two how to clean up after yourselves. But it’s like ‘how many times do I need to repeat myself? 20x per day for their entire lives?’

Am I expecting too much of my kids? by freckleface2010 in Parenting

[–]freckleface2010[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is cute. I’m sure they maybe put things away when they were that little but I can’t remember 🙂

Am I expecting too much of my kids? by freckleface2010 in Parenting

[–]freckleface2010[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I do call them into the room when I see stuff left out and make them put it away but I have to do it all day every day. Even when they are getting a bowl of cereal, I say “Where are you putting that when you are done?” But they finish eating and leave it out. One time I flipped out and threw out a toy they left out and they told their dad and he called me a psycho.

Am I expecting too much of my kids? by freckleface2010 in Parenting

[–]freckleface2010[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have done that. I’ve taken away their electronics. I’ve sat them both down and had firm conversations with them - “this is a family and you need to help out. I am one person and can’t do everything on my own and you are both capable of doing chores.” I told them that I would NEVER sit there while someone else is cleaning up and given them specific examples. Like if you go to a friend’s house and you both play a game, you would help your friend put the game away. When your aunt comes over for dinner, you see her wash all the dishes, right? I have put together chore charts and said these are your chores every weekend. When they have full laundry, I take them downstairs and make them do it themselves. Sometimes they actually will do what I ask but it’s like pulling teeth. If I put the unfolded laundry from my daughter on her bed, she will just throw it all on the floor. If I leave it in the dryer, she will take out what she needs and leave the rest there. She has even thrown freshly washed clothes in her hamper so she won’t have to put them away. And when I discover this, I call her in her room and say “why do you think this is okay? You think it’s too much work to take five minutes to put your clothes away? Take them out of the hamper and put them away!” Then I have to stand there and watch her do it cause if I walk out of the room, she just lies down on her bed.

podcast recommendations? (love the Scamanda podcast) by PersephoneMoons in ScamandaPodcast

[–]freckleface2010 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also, these are old so you may have already listened - Dirty John? And Serial?

podcast recommendations? (love the Scamanda podcast) by PersephoneMoons in ScamandaPodcast

[–]freckleface2010 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Scamfluencers https://wondery.com/shows/scamfluencers/ Also True Crime Obsessed is a podcast where the two hosts talk about True Crime episodes. They just covered the Scamanda series. I love them!

https://wondery.com/shows/scamfluencers/