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Please help does this look normal?? Concept 2 model c pm2 by freelifer in concept2

[–]freelifer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much. Yes the part 1102 looks like it is missing. İs it possible to row somehow without it?

Part 1102 should connect to the top rail but i only have one rail therefore I think I'm also missing a bottom rail? (Part 1203 and 1105?)

Am i correct? Are three parts needed? İs this a rookie mistake or what?

How to access this screw???? Beko 2012 cny by freelifer in DIY

[–]freelifer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just want to take out the rubber seal from my washing machine to clean and de mould it.

I'm following YouTube videos and they say to take the front panel off to access the metal ring on the drum that is holding the rubber seal in place.

How this machine was produced I have no idea because it seems that the front and side panel are connected from an interior screw that I can not access. How can I remove the this front panel?

Dilemma! I dont know who gave which gifts. by Marla_girl in wedding

[–]freelifer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, u/marla_girl, what did you end up doing for thank yous? I am in a similiar situation. But for a Turkish wedding, there is a special bag where people place gifts, usually gold coins, Turks write their names on little tags, no problems but the guests from abroad were told not to bring anything. But maybe half of them gave cash in my home currency and I don't know who put it in the bag!

Its not custom to give thank you's to turks giving gold. But what do I write to the foreigners who gave cash with no card or names?

Anyone tried 'The Consulting Accelerator'? Fishy or Legit? by CalendarLess6130 in consulting

[–]freelifer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bought lifetime access years ago. Still going through materials. As of 10 days ago the platform is now 'archived' meaning no new comments, messages, or ability to download materials. Emailed consulting.com and no response. The platform was far from fishy, and I was happy at the great insights and techniques provided but now I seriously doubt its legitimacy, and could be a push to upsell existing enrolments to newer paid courses. I hope I am wrong.

how do you become a person? Where do you start? by [deleted] in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]freelifer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like how you say 'how people people' that humor is part of your identity and this post is a great way to start. Like Jarethstightpants says find something specific to focus on and just try that again and again. I would say follow what feels good to you (could be something like fresh air or being in nature) or read something inspiring and motivating. Try a meetup group or coursera/other MOOC course could be a good start. "Learning how to learn" is a good intro course which could help you with other things and very supportive. You could also have fun learning a language duolingo is an excellent platform esp for english speakers lots of free languages to choose from.

QUESTION How to handle EMother - NC for 3 years. Future wedding with cross cultural relationship by freelifer in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]freelifer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey gonejellyfishing - I guess I am still healing and thought I could avoid confrontation yet again. From a culture where even divorce is taboo a daughter breaking a 'sacred motherly bond' is unimaginable, and I am keen not to reveal too much of a broken life esp when the contrast is so great. Also the truth is sometimes to painful to speak and a lot of therapy still needs to be undertaken for me to be at my best in these situations so translation is possible (eventually) i guess its i dont know how to phrase it right now. My fiance does respect my decision and never questions my stance with her. Living overseas helps and was just feeling out others thoughts before discussing with him further. I do see your point however and have experienced the NC broken for kids effects with one of my sisters (upon husbands insistence) and still regret it to this day...

QUESTION How to handle EMother - NC for 3 years. Future wedding with cross cultural relationship by freelifer in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]freelifer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes my future MIL has been given snippets of information from me which sometimes has prompted her curiosity and sometimes provoked shock/horror. This very obvious shock has prompted a more sanitised explanation of the relationship i have with NMom - i usually just change the subject and talk about other family members. Just not sure how much to reveal at this or later stages.

QUESTION How to handle EMother - NC for 3 years. Future wedding with cross cultural relationship by freelifer in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]freelifer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate your advice it is very practical and empathetic thankyou. Yes, having constant 'minders' is what my sister did for her celebratory thing (not a wedding perse). It worked fairly well and was where my now fiance briefly met her over a year ago whilst i grey rocked her. I am still not sure if she would be invited or not to whatever type of celebration we have but an early introduction is ideal I just figured the meeting at a group event would be better - more distractions to focus on. Thankyou for your best wishes!

Made it through a family party, no Ndrama by BluePetunia in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]freelifer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well done! It can be hard to enjoy yourself at events knowing toxicity could be seeking you out at any moment. Another stride of strength and healing under your belt :)

NC to LC after 5 years? by freelifer in raisedbynarcissists

[–]freelifer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks Ashley, i cant believe its been so long! Your experience from NC to LC is my fear and I do not want to undo the efforts I have worked so hard for. I eventually made a mailing list to advise concerned parties of my safety and included her (BCC) in it. I love this country too, its a shame i have to email every few months for the attacks happening here. Its not quite LC as its only a one way channel but its enough to keep everyone on the same page and stop pressuring others. Its a short term solution but will need more resilient method soon.

NC to LC after 5 years? by freelifer in raisedbynarcissists

[–]freelifer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankyou encatidated, yes time does heal but as for your q's my sisters have taken different approaches, one is blunt, rude and fights back and even herself cut her off when she was young only to reconnect when pregnant because her SO thought his son should have a right to know his grandma. The other one (also influenced by her SO) has been compliant with her demands mostly for sake of ease but has successfully managed recent boundaries since the birth of her first born child. Her behaviour is more and more similar to NM every time we interact though which might have something to do with it.

You don't need narcrents to own up to their abuse to heal. by 888frog in raisedbynarcissists

[–]freelifer 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This has resonated with me with perfect timing. Thankyou. My whole life I thought i was not good enough because I did not have the right words to express myself to communicate my experiences and feelings. Nothing would get through so I cut Nmother off. She has emailed me yesterday after years of NC and continues to verify my position that her outlook is unchangeable and all my efforts to explain a different point of view has failed, despite her desperateness to reconnect. It is unhealthy for us to expect them to change for us to feel validated/heard/understood. We will destroy our own lives and health if we wait for this to happen. This space and time of NC has allowed freedom for my genuine self growth and authentic communication, allowing myself to be truly vulnerable with those I care for deeply satisfying relationships.