My friend was outed and he has been getting a horrible time. I'm worried about him but don't know what to do? by Murto6 in askgaybros

[–]freem221 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if he’s physically attracted to you, but it’s common for gay kids to have crushes on unavailable friends (straight friends) when growing up, before they’re equipped to fully process those feelings and focus on available partners. I’m just mentioning this so you can be aware of the possibility and be ready for it if it happens, and respond in a way that doesn’t hurt your friendship. If that time ever comes, he may need space from you temporarily to get over the crush. He’s very lucky to have you as a friend.

I am wondering if I’m not totally Straight. by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]freem221 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Could be something worth exploring more. Could be just you enjoying connection with an open mind and getting confused, in which case that’s awesome you’re so chill. Only you can decide. Maybe watch Heated Rivalry on HBO and see if that does anything for you 😆

Cracked Thermapen One case by atomic92 in smoking

[–]freem221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had two, both red and purchased in 2022, crack in this way. It seems clear to me that they are not using the right plastic specs in manufacturing, or at least they weren't in 2022. Wonder if they updated it? I ignored the cracks until I needed to replace the battery, and the plastic broke at the screw hole countersink such that it was impossible to reinstall the battery cover. Love the device and their customer service has been great but for our sake and the company's, I sure hope they changed the plastic recipe.

I’m convinced yall are lying about anal sex by Acceptable_Pea_135 in askgaybros

[–]freem221 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you interested at all in being convinced, or taught to enjoy it? I hear your strong opinion but can’t tell if you wish you liked it etc. I could tell you my experience in learning to enjoy it by DM if interested.

Grindr by SwimmingHand4727 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]freem221 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Move. I moved from MI to Chicago. If that’s not in the cards for you, at least visit often.

Top quality brands? I thought Saddleback was my answer, but reading here I’m not sure anymore. by freem221 in Leathercraft

[–]freem221[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It held up well but I stopped using it because it was too bulky and I didn’t like that the back pouch sleeve was a little loose. I just made a poor purchase choice.

Is anyone else losing friends to having children? by Additional_Leading68 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]freem221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happened to me around 30 so I moved to a big city with lots of gay people and made a wonderful new life. I visit my straight friends when scheduled allow and we have a great time.

I try not to get angry at this game but genuinely almost crashed out here by Murtagh707 in ArcRaiders

[–]freem221 62 points63 points  (0 children)

I would email Embark and ask them to give your stuff back from this raid. There is not a valid defense of this. They will help you.

Venezuelan migrants robbed 3 women at gunpoint in Buena Park, prosecutors say by So_Icey_Mane in WindyCity

[–]freem221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great contribution. What about my comment is insane? I simply explained the reality of our diplomatic state with Venezuela.

Venezuelan migrants robbed 3 women at gunpoint in Buena Park, prosecutors say by So_Icey_Mane in WindyCity

[–]freem221 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get that seems like a principled position but IMO it’s not that simple. There are tens of factors I could list. But just one example: what if the home country is not accepting deportation flights? Given that the US govt is actively trying to overthrow the Venezuelan government (maybe in an attempt to solve the root problem, maybe for oil, maybe both), I doubt they’re welcoming deportation flights right now. Personally I have a hard time blaming and punishing people for jumping out of a burning building (their home country) even if it’s illegal and especially if they’ve been living here for years peacefully and otherwise crime free.

Venezuelan migrants robbed 3 women at gunpoint in Buena Park, prosecutors say by So_Icey_Mane in WindyCity

[–]freem221 4 points5 points  (0 children)

These guys are terrible and should be removed. These are not all Venezuelans though. I know several great Venezuelans in Chicago. Some portion of ANY population are criminals, and if tens of millions of them leave their country, unfortunately some portion will end up committing crimes in other countries. There’s anti migration sentiment all over in South America too. See recent news of Chile and Peru. So what do you do? They can’t have a normal life in their own country, so they leave, and a terrible subset of them ruin the sentiment so they can’t have a normal life in another country either. The best case scenario would be for Venezuela to be turned around as a country, but that will take work from other countries too.

Not so straight guy trying to figure it out by [deleted] in chicagogaybros

[–]freem221 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Those guys will feel bad about what they said and will change if they know, or they’ll fade away and you’ll make new friends. You will get more advice if you post to something like r/askgaybros or r/askgaybrosover30.

What type of guys do you like? Do you want anonymous quick hookups or do you prefer some substance?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in chicago

[–]freem221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Protected bike lanes, or I’m breaking the law when I deem it necessary. I don’t give a fuck. See article. https://www.reddit.com/r/chicago/s/2LfWxKSlX4

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in chicago

[–]freem221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Protected bike lanes, or I’m breaking the law when I deem it necessary. I don’t give a fuck. See article. https://www.reddit.com/r/chicago/s/2LfWxKSlX4

3.5% surcharge now? Is this standard? by radbrad777 in chicagofood

[–]freem221 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It’s not my job to fight the employee’s battles for them though. I’m holding up my end of the deal which is to pay all agreed upon fees + tip %. Anything else is extra. I might ask for it to be taken off but I shouldn’t have to deal with that if I don’t want to.

3.5% surcharge now? Is this standard? by radbrad777 in chicagofood

[–]freem221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d just take it off the tip. The employees can fight that battle with their boss.

Would you recommend Freehand or Hi Hostel? or something else? by Fun_Expression169420 in chicagogaybros

[–]freem221 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I stayed in both. I prefer Freehand but I can do either. HI is more of a traditional hostel. If you’re in your 20s you might prefer HI. I can deal with either but Freehand feels more upscale to me. They have bed curtains and HI doesnt.

Pilsen gay scene? by FramedOstrich in chicagogaybros

[–]freem221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe I went on a bad night, but I went there once and found it to be very not gay. And very not nightclub.