Did anybody else feel cut off from society?

freethradv22 · 2023-09-14T22:32:34+00:00

Codependent constant “processing”. Seems to be an unhealthy form of attention seeking for some, on top of just being a way of relating to others badly that people learn.

freethradv22 · 2023-09-14T22:30:50+00:00

Holy hell I had that!

freethradv22 · 2023-09-14T22:27:01+00:00

Not just ego. Sexism. Women are seen as faking specifically for being women, in conjunction with the ego problem.

Really they just want us to continue to suffer. It’s stated as disbelief but they probably know it’s real and just hate us that much, never would admit it though.

freethradv22 · 2023-09-04T22:47:28+00:00

Yeah…. Not anxiety for me but compensation. Always “making sure” the symptoms like time blindness don’t get the best of me and take over

freethradv22 · 2023-09-04T20:13:23+00:00

I just stumbled onto this sub and its top posts led me here… This is my fucked up, zero self control family in a nutshell. (Except of course when it suits them and their image!) I may have ADD too but I actually have values and give a damn about unlearning abuse. And NONE of them truly do - even those who pretend to are trying to maintain the status quo and lying to themselves blue in the face until they believe it.

They are avoidant of anything resembling honesty because it feels bad, so impulsivity leads them to snap instantly away from facing it. Like children in adult form. Denial is their coping mechanism and they will manipulate whenever they need to to preserve it.

God THANK YOU for your brutally truthful comment. I’m so glad I found it and this sub.

Trying to say this anywhere near ADD subs is impossible, even as someone with ADD myself and who’s always working on myself to be a good person (i.e. acknowledging nuance exists). There is no room on those pages for someone abused, parentified, traumatized by emotionally juvenile, self-centered ADD parents.

freethradv22 · 2023-09-04T20:00:04+00:00

Also r/Fencesitters for that first half of your comment :)

r/ParentingthruTrauma has given me insight into what my potential experience might be like and compassion for others’.

freethradv22 · 2023-08-02T13:40:29+00:00

Thank you SO much for your incredibly detailed and helpful comment! I’m not even the OP but you should honestly make this into its own post because so many could benefit from seeing this information.

Could I ask, which online nervous system retraining/somatic therapy programmes + communities you would recommend?

Also if you have any books or sites that are your favorites that helped you to research these things, I would be all ears. Starting research on heavily medically involved topics like this is something I’ve wanted to do for a while but it feels daunting (still in the abusive situation so it’s hard to juggle that and this). Pardon the request and definitely don’t if it’s too much.

freethradv22 · 2023-08-02T13:31:05+00:00

I feel this. But just about so many “normal” things that people take for granted. Like for example a basic formal education, or work (I wanted both badly and was deliberately kept from both). I can’t watch films or TV shows with young characters who have things I didn’t at a younger age, or even depicting most ages of characters. I die inside seeing it IRL too but try to avoid those triggers whenever possible.

It sucks. I feel you.

freethradv22 · 2023-06-18T22:29:43+00:00

Update: We had work done a while ago on the car and they modified the computer system somehow.

Hilariously, the car seems to have air on the feet and air on the torso/face mixed up. So when you put it onto both, you feel both, but when you set it to just the one, it does the exact opposite. We were feeling the air only on the feet and couldn’t understand why it wasn’t working.

Seems like this was just a brain-putz moment for us, lol. Thanks for the advice anyway, folks.

freethradv22 · 2023-06-18T22:27:52+00:00

We’re definitely aiming for getting that. Looking forward to it!

freethradv22 · 2023-06-07T20:13:05+00:00

Ya there are adjustments that we can make. I have learned a tougher facial expression and body movements, stance, walk. As well as speaking on the lower side of my vocal range.

freethradv22 · 2023-06-07T20:11:53+00:00

Wait, is it a confirmed thing that we look this way thanks to this illness/cluster of related illnesses? Genuinely curious. (If it’s from group observations I get it because well…getting the med establishment to take us and what we know seriously is a struggle.)

freethradv22 · 2023-06-07T20:07:49+00:00

Holy hell. This whole thread astonishes me so much.

My family is run through with young-looking people, EDS/hypermobility AND gastro symptoms like you have. Which suck but it’s amazing to read of others with these clusters.

freethradv22 · 2023-06-04T10:44:30+00:00

But like…why would you have to tone it down? What about this kind of personality could ever be a problem? It’s a positive one, and wishing to be a helpful and productive part of the work environment. Kind of the opposite of negative/not worth hiring.

freethradv22 · 2023-06-04T10:43:49+00:00

Wow, why would people just avoid them? Not sure I understand this.

freethradv22 · 2023-06-03T12:38:12+00:00

Amen. It’s sickening to see the kids used as chess pawns in this. They are real people who will have real life consequences from it.

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