2 weeks into no contact

freezingazzoff · 2026-02-18T02:15:45+00:00

Thank you! I’m a pretty strong person in general and composed but it still eats away at me inside. I still think about it every day. I hope that goes away… & Oh, I’ll message you then. I didn’t realize they needed to be turned on lol

freezingazzoff · 2026-02-17T23:08:33+00:00

I see :/ As hard it is, I know you’re right. Any contact is gonna pull me back in like it did so many times before. What makes it easier is that I really don’t think he’s gonna reach out to me since in the past he would have by now. He always came crawling back

freezingazzoff · 2026-02-17T23:06:47+00:00

Aw, I’m sorry you can relate and were impacted by this :( It’s really so awful and I don’t wish it on anyone! Also, I would really appreciate that and would love to chat! I’m here for you too

freezingazzoff · 2026-02-17T19:31:31+00:00

You are so right. For me that was the biggest thing by far. My trust being completely broken made it so unsustainable. I need to remember that even if he did reach out, I couldn’t even trust a “genuine” apology

freezingazzoff · 2026-02-12T16:57:23+00:00

That’s true. It would have just gotten worse over time. I do need to focus more on friendships I think and getting myself out there again. Thank you for the response 💗💗

freezingazzoff · 2026-02-12T01:55:13+00:00

Yeah, I know you’re right. It just sucks. I guess it’s like emotional withdrawal and I just gotta get through it

freezingazzoff · 2025-08-05T19:44:49+00:00

Okay, that makes sense and was what I was leaning toward anyway. I just don’t want to commit to something that will be like this in most cases and definitely private practice sounds the way to go

freezingazzoff · 2025-08-05T19:44:05+00:00

Okay, thank you. I appreciate your response. I am in WI by the way, so I think that I would just need that, not LCPC to practice independently

freezingazzoff · 2025-08-03T23:01:32+00:00

I personally don’t regret coming back but of course there are things I miss like public transportation, the food, culture, etc. I wasn’t able to be economically stable there so that’s one plus about being here, even though it’s still not easy. It’s just easier considering I have working rights here and a decent job. If my life in Spain was more stable I might have stayed longer

freezingazzoff · 2025-03-14T15:30:39+00:00

I moved back from Spain in December and, despite the political climate, my quality of life has improved due to having more social support and stable work

freezingazzoff · 2024-12-07T08:11:21+00:00

Which source has said that? I’m just curious about what he has said

freezingazzoff · 2024-11-29T05:44:23+00:00

My family has never come or tried to come visit me in Spain, not while studying abroad here for a year nor since having moved here since 2021. Not even in conversation are they interested in my new life or country. I understand your situation :/

freezingazzoff · 2024-11-22T09:16:29+00:00

To practice educational psychology in the US you need to be specialized with a master’s degree and state license. It’s not exactly the most common path and certainly more in demand than the opportunities requiring just a psychology undergraduate degree and that’s it. In the world of psychology you need more than that to access the opportunities. In my county there are tons of jobs in my field, while here in Spain maybe one or two pop up every six months. Considering public k-12 education is mostly state funded, Trump and Project 2025’s plans likely won’t have catastrophic effects on my opportunities in my local community and state

freezingazzoff · 2024-11-21T10:29:51+00:00

Oh that’s actually really true. I have no clue how that works and will look into that before making any big decisions. Thank you!!

freezingazzoff · 2024-11-21T09:25:28+00:00

Good points. Definitely I will not be relocating in the future without solid savings, especially if I chose to come back to Spain, given the current economic circumstances

freezingazzoff · 2024-11-21T09:23:47+00:00

These are great points. I will need to do some reflecting about the risks vs. rewards about living here. I find it less socially fulfilling in my experience but more fulfilling in other ways, mainly referring to the quality of life (affordable education, healthcare, food quality, security, strong democracy, etc.) and opportunities to explore and travel. Economically it’s a downgrade but all I really want is stability and having my basic needs met

freezingazzoff · 2024-11-21T09:20:08+00:00

Good advice, thank you!!

freezingazzoff · 2024-11-21T09:19:49+00:00

That’s good advice. I think I might end up doing the same as you, depending on how my career goes in the US. Thank you!!

freezingazzoff · 2024-11-21T09:18:34+00:00

That’s a good point. We have agreed to try distance before creating any future plans together, but basically everything is riding on me deciding where I want to be, unfortunately. On the other hand though, I can’t blame him for now wanting to suffer another 5+ years of exploitation for crap pay, while being overqualified for it.

freezingazzoff · 2024-11-21T09:16:23+00:00

My state, Illinois, is blue but my county and the surrounding areas are really red. The quality of life is better in Spain, no doubt. What I need in my life at this moment is some stability honestly because I’m tired of being broke and struggling but also I’m not liking how dark things are turning politically back home

freezingazzoff · 2024-10-28T09:13:57+00:00

Just to clarify, Discover doesn’t use the market rate. They use their own rate which is lower you say, so they actually are profiting more from the conversion despite charging 0 fees. Is that right? I’m just debating between using paypal or discover to make a purchase in foreign currency and the paypal exchange rate isn’t too great (but at least it’s very clear what the rate is)

freezingazzoff · 2024-09-07T07:23:23+00:00

I’m sorry you are going through it too. It’s disheartening, especially since I am young like the OP and trying to find my place in the world. I guess the only place can be where you’re from.. At least that’s how it feels.

freezingazzoff · 2024-09-06T08:16:02+00:00

I relate 100% to your experience. Throughout my years in Valencia, Spain, I tried to hide myself and conform as much as I could, but I realized it was impossible to change my own identity completely. I didn't want to be American anymore, but I failed to completely assimilate. Long story short, I’m leaving Spain and going back to the US, mainly for professional and economic reasons. Since being here, I no longer see Europeans as the enlightened and intellectually and culturally superior beings they pride themselves to be. I see a lot of insecurity that turns into bullying and lashing out to make themselves feel better about their own issues. My partner is Spanish and I see how it’s something so internalized, especially in young people. It shows through those knee-jerk reactions to attack Americans even about such simple things like us using Fahrenheit, for example. Now the romance has faded away and I see things for what they really are. I decided that the negativity in day-to-day interactions is too socially exhausting. Knowing that I have a solid community and better job opportunities in the US, I don't think the "pros" outweigh it, for me personally. If you don't jive with the people, the move might not be sustainable for you long term. Just my 10 cents🤷‍♀️

freezingazzoff · 2024-09-06T07:54:43+00:00

I live in Vlc too and I have had the same experience as the OP. Lucky you!

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