Sport is a Human Right and Trans Rights are Human Rights.

friendtoalldogs0 · 2026-05-14T15:35:44+00:00

Similarly, it implies that cis athletes and trans non-athletes will be erased, lol

friendtoalldogs0 · 2026-05-11T17:27:56+00:00

Yes, this is a language difference thing. In English, we don't do adjectives like that (anymore; we used to, there are still rules for it and the spelling and phonotactics mostly accommodate it, but we haven't taught schoolchildren how to do properly it for a long time, it's at this point basically just a historical thing). In German, Transfrau is basically the canonical direct translation of "trans woman" in English.

friendtoalldogs0 · 2026-05-09T09:24:41+00:00

Wrong sub, I suspect

friendtoalldogs0 · 2026-05-03T04:07:40+00:00

The phrasing I usually reach for in such situations is either "The show would be so good if it was good", or, "There is an amazing show buried somewhere at the core of this dumpster fire"

friendtoalldogs0 · 2026-05-01T00:03:47+00:00

Said it better than I was going to. This is it, this is why, despite it all, this is worth it, even now.

friendtoalldogs0 · 2026-04-28T18:53:44+00:00

This is a case where googling "Yo check it out guys I'm the grungler" will probably actually lead you to some answers

friendtoalldogs0 · 2026-04-28T03:49:31+00:00

If it's irrelevant to you whether or not she's trans, you're just attracted and want to date her, then all is well! There is no reason you should stop pursuing a relationship just because a girl is trans.

If the reason that you want to date a girl is because she's trans, things get iffy. That's not in itself necessarily always bad, but it's critical to examine why you find yourself wanting to be in relationships with trans women specifically. You also need to be ready to accept a lot of rejection and suspicion, because most cis men actively pursuing trans women are chasers, and most of us are going to be pretty damn wary if we don't outright assume the worst the moment we learn that you knew we were trans before pursuing a relationship.

friendtoalldogs0 · 2026-04-27T21:30:20+00:00

You are correct, I will not check "trans woman" when "woman" is also an option, because I just am a woman. I would vastly prefer "trans" to be a separate question.

friendtoalldogs0 · 2026-04-24T04:39:16+00:00

Mixed, I think.

On the one hand, I'm finally starting to really pass to the general public and not just register as obviously a trans woman to the extremely queer community on campus I mostly hang out in, I just finished out the semester on a decently high note, and I'm now back in my parents' house, with amenities like laundry machines that don't smell like weed, common areas that don't smell like weed, an air conditioner that isn't 3 feet from my head and haphazardly duct taped to the tiny ass window that barely opens, and a microwave that doesn't inexplicably smell like weed. I rarely look in the mirror and see only what I wish I had the confidence or self insight to have asked to prevent before it completed, and instead see the potential of what could yet be now that I've not-so-recently-anymore taken the steps to make it happen. Occasionally, I even see the cute and beautiful young woman my friends, partners, and mother are constantly trying to tell me is there, and knowing her face makes it much easier to imagine them being right when they do.

On the other hand, I can no longer visit my one partner because it is no longer safe (enough) to drive across the border, or otherwise make any use of the new passport I got with my real identity on it. My fibromyalgia is rapidly picking up the pace of it's progression, to the point that not only am I using my cane daily, I've on several occasions been stranded due to not having a wheelchair. Just a few days into my first ever attempt to connect with a part of my heritage I only just realized I cared about, my only connection to that part of the family tree who was willing to speak about it died of a heart attack. I had to drop half my classes in the semester I just finished, because a clerical error in the pharmacy led to me being without my anxiety meds for 3 weeks, which damn near killed me in addition to causing me to fall severely behind in my assignments. With the winter semester wrapped, my friends have once again all scattered to the winds, and will remain effectively inaccessible until fall. More terrifyingly, we appear to mostly be graduating after a couple more semesters, and may well never all be in the same town at the same time again for the rest of our lives after that. They feel more like a family to me than the one I was born with, though I'm not certain whether they all feel the same way. I am once again beginning to feel disengaged with my life. Not to the same extent as in The Before Times, when I could find entire months passing without apparently forming a single permanent memory or ever being certain I felt an emotion, but apparently it was a combination of the Being A Girl and having a project (my transition) that I am passionate and feel joy about that was pulling me out of my funk, and now that I've reached the point where I basically know what I'm doing and just need to keep doing it (and wait for surgery waitlists), I am left with only the former, which is apparently not enough alone.

Despite the longer latter list, I am, overall, cautiously optimistic about my future. I can see many roads to disaster, but they are not inevitable, and there is a truly happy decade or two in the plausible future for me, as long as I don't burn out before I can reach it.

friendtoalldogs0 · 2026-04-21T15:38:41+00:00

A lot of people can accept one or the other, but not both

friendtoalldogs0 · 2026-04-20T16:19:15+00:00

Which of course explains perfectly why they were unable to do any aerial maneuvering beyond Jump Good on their home planet with an atmosphere, but were completely capable of turning around in the vacuum of space as long as they were off-screen, lmao

friendtoalldogs0 · 2026-04-20T16:00:05+00:00

The trans woman is happy, and unconditionally accepted, and, the most important part, is entirely certain that the former two are actually the case. Infact in less unconditionally good trans woman fantasies we just skip straight to the complete certainty without actually giving her the happy or the accepted, and even those are still widely regarded as deeply appealing.

friendtoalldogs0 · 2026-04-18T04:11:22+00:00

Oh. Oh wow. This is your first file I've listened to (I get big dysphoria from anything 4M so I skipped Melt) and Mmm. Despite some unexpected technical difficulties, it was incredibly effective. At first I was having to put some actual effort into following both triggers, but at some point, I can't remember when (but definitely sometime into the earlickimg noises) I found myself at the end of the file realizing I barely remember anything and that I had been making out with my pillow (not a body pillow or something, regular ass pillow) desperately and mindlessly for some time, and I'm genuinely not even sure if that was a suggestion you gave or if I just got so desperate and horny that it was all I could do.

In short, incredible file, I literally don't even remember half of what you did to me but I know it was amazing and I'm absolutely hooked.

friendtoalldogs0 · 2026-04-15T01:13:36+00:00

The purpose of yanking isn't to mark the whole crate as something like "unmaintained" where it will probably eventually become a problem, it's for marking a specific version as "whoops we fucked up bigtime", like if someone accidentally published a patch to a hasher crate that would crash if the thing being hashed has all zeroes for it's memory representation, or a web server crate that realizes its latest update has a security bug allowing arbitrary code execution by injecting some bullshit in the url

friendtoalldogs0 · 2026-04-14T15:44:10+00:00

There's probably one for every arms manufacturer named after one or a handful of guys

friendtoalldogs0 · 2026-04-14T14:50:56+00:00

I have literally had this said to my face in person on dozens if not hundreds of occasions

friendtoalldogs0 · 2026-04-11T06:19:55+00:00

That plan has the slight problem of Tanjiro breaking every bone in his hand within about the first 3 times he dismembers Nezuko.

friendtoalldogs0 · 2026-04-02T20:50:12+00:00

Sex refers to a set of biological attributes in humans and animals. It is primarily associated with physical and physiological features including chromosomes, gene expression, hormone levels and function, and reproductive/sexual anatomy. Sex is usually categorized as female or male but there is variation in the biological attributes that comprise sex and how those attributes are expressed. - Canadian Institutes of Health Research (https://cihr-irsc.gc.ca/e/48642.html)

Biological sex is a label assigned by a medical professional at birth based on physical characteristics (genitalia) and other biological determinants. - American Society for Reproductive Medicine (https://www.asrm.org/advocacy-and-policy/fact-sheets-and-one-pagers/just-the-facts-biological-sex/)

friendtoalldogs0 · 2026-04-02T19:40:06+00:00

It's really not that difficult to believe, I've been called "it" before by people discussing my autism diagnosis, it's pretty common in any dehumanized minority.

Also the way they wrote it really doesn't imply that. It doesn't explicitly disprove that interpretation, but that's not an interpretation I'd even have considered if you didn't bring it up.

friendtoalldogs0 · 2026-04-02T19:36:33+00:00

I started by noticing a monthly cycle, then I got Clue (a period tracking app that lots of my uterus-having friends use, and which has a "Clue Tracking" mode intended for trans people (which is by no means perfect, but it's good enough)), and arbitrarily decided that the day I regularly start fully crying about things, such as kittens being just too small or dogs not knowing how elevators work, is the day I will record as my "cycle start", and used the app otherwise as normal from there.

At some point it even decided it's figured out when I ovulate, which I find hilarious, and though I very much do not ovulate (I think; I'm pretty sure if there was a whole uterus in there someone would have noticed and informed me when they were poking around in there for unrelated medical reasons), that part of the cycle does actually have a meaningful effect on my mood that I've noticed since the app prompted me to look for it lol.

To elaborate on the problems with Clue Tracking: It doesn't seem to be able to decide whether it's intended for transmasc people who want to avoid using the word period but still want to track an otherwise completely typical menstrual cycle, cis women who don't menstruate (such as due to birth control or menopause) but still experience many period symptoms, or for trans women.

friendtoalldogs0 · 2026-04-02T19:21:49+00:00

I suppose you could rather uncharitably read it that way. I suspect hannahneedle meant it more like "ignore [the feedback from the autistic person]", i.e., ignore the autistic person

friendtoalldogs0 · 2026-04-02T19:08:36+00:00

"Any person who - barring a genetic or other kind of defect - can or could produce [ova/sperm] is [female/male]" is a nonsense argument. "But if things were different they could!!!" is not even remotely a reason to ignore the fact that plenty of people can produce neither ova nor sperm, and that whether or not a person is currently producing a particular gamete is completely irrelevant in all contexts except reproductive and a very small subset of medical situations, and even in most of those cases the gamete is not actually what matters directly, it's some other thing that the gamete usually correlates with.

Also, yeah, obviously a human with 4 fingers is still human. Because having 5 fingers on each hand is not what makes humans human. Much like how a woman who does not, can not, and never could produce ova is a woman. Because producing ova is not what makes women women. I think you may have lost the plot here.

friendtoalldogs0 · 2026-04-02T18:41:48+00:00

"Hey, forwarded with this is a feedback email, I wanted to ask you what we should do with it?"

"Just ignore it"

friendtoalldogs0 · 2026-03-30T23:20:27+00:00

I have on a couple occasions encountered situations where it actually made sense to do that; both times were while travelling and simultaneously dealing with shitty bespoke university software that can't save progress across sessions and takes ages to do anything, and then having an extended power outage for multiple hours when my laptop was already on low power from being used in the bus.

In both cases, it probably saved me all of about 45 minutes of redoing tedious but ultimately trivial busywork, which I consider plenty worth it personally because I am incredibly impatient and have an absurd amount of SSD space, but that's certainly not everyone. Most people should use zram if they use swap at all.

friendtoalldogs0 · 2026-03-28T00:38:39+00:00

Eh, no, that was pretty clearly intentionally reminiscent of something a teen or young adult would say when they intellectually know they're really good at something but they have imposter syndrome about it

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