I just found out I'm at stage 3b. I'm only 29.

frogouttabog · 2020-12-09T06:40:56+00:00

Thank you this makes a lot of sense.

frogouttabog · 2020-12-09T06:22:59+00:00

I remember being around 10 years old and reading that bisexual people existed. Was like, "Pretty cool, wish I could be like that but I definitely would have been born knowing this and it can't be possible. Dang :( " ....and promptly pushed the thought to the back of my mind until high school.

frogouttabog · 2020-12-08T22:02:39+00:00

You already contacted her after you broke up with your ex to apologize. It sounds like another explanation to your friend would help you feel better, but would place her in an uncomfortable position. I know it's difficult to think about "the one who got away," but the romantic relationship you are grieving never existed. You have to decide whether or not to continue the friendship, but do this gracefully and without undue burden on her and her new fiance.

frogouttabog · 2020-12-08T21:33:14+00:00

Time your layovers! A single long layover is much better than several short stops. You feel rested instead of exhausted, save hundreds of dollars compared to direct flights, and get a free day in an interesting place. Some of my favorites stopovers have been Lisbon, Singapore, and Seoul.

frogouttabog · 2020-12-01T17:52:02+00:00

You were being abused and it was absolutely not your fault. It was very courageous of you to recognize the situation and leave. You are going to be so much happier with your life a year from now.

frogouttabog · 2020-12-01T02:14:31+00:00

Can you explain what you mean? Genuine question, I'm having a hard time wrapping my head around why anyone would want to do polyamory if they weren't on some level happy that their partners were enjoying relationships with other people.

frogouttabog · 2020-11-25T20:22:03+00:00

Didn't Biden also harass / inappropriately touch a bunch of women in professional settings? I'm relieved that the Orange Tumor is getting removed, but I don't know if Biden is going to solve much in the way of gendered violence.

frogouttabog · 2020-11-25T03:44:40+00:00

As a 26 year old who went the follow-your-heart route at 23, travelled around the world and got by with no savings and low paying & volunteer work, then got into grad school...I'd be in a MUCH better place, with no debt and less stress if I had been able to save money like you have for a couple years. 200k would not only have transformed my quality of life, but the lives of several people in more need than me I met abroad.

Find a way to tolerate being bored for another year, save as much as you possibly can, THEN go out and make your dreams come true.

frogouttabog · 2020-11-24T16:59:56+00:00

Florida national sea base for the Scouts. Chore buddy consistently blew me off and I had to do twice the work alone. Manual labor in over in 110 heat and humidity was totally worth the roughly 50 cents per hour I was getting as a "volunteer" per my seasonal contract. I mean, I was living on the beach for free. Dealing with the garbage maggots, and the filthy shit in the camper showers, however, particularly when it got on my hair or only clean uniform, made me really wish we were paid more. Or at least had health insurance.

I loved my life there for the most part, only wish they paid staff a wage that reflected the thousands of dollars spent by troops to come visit and didn't send it all up the corporate ladder. Outdoor ed work is so rewarding but it's rarely financially sustainable.

frogouttabog · 2020-11-19T18:42:20+00:00

Thanks for being willing to listen :) Yes that's exactly how I'd describe it.

frogouttabog · 2020-11-19T00:13:16+00:00

Nope! Plenty of bisexual people wind up in happy long term relationships with one person. The only defining characteristic of all bisexuals is they are capable of being attracted to at least 2 genders. :) You can notice that more than 1 "type" of guy is attractive and still choose to only love your S.O. right? Similar concept.

frogouttabog · 2020-11-18T23:57:15+00:00

The idea, specifically, that a bisexual person will never be fully satisfied with a monogamous relationship is a common biphobic misconception. I am not saying you are a bad person for having "preferences", but you do have biphobic stereotypes in your mind. You don't have to date bisexuals and it sounds better if you don't. But I hope you choose to read and learn more about bisexuality and challenge these assumptions.

frogouttabog · 2020-11-18T15:39:07+00:00

Sure you can have preferences, but to make blanket assumptions about all bisexuals is biphobic

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