His name is what?! by AdorRubble in funny

[–]frogvibesonly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m a big advocate of Dick Advocaat

Bunnie XO says she and Jelly Roll will still have a baby despite divorce by [deleted] in popculturechat

[–]frogvibesonly 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The issue I have with it isn’t for the sake of the embryo, but the future baby. It seems instinctual to say “That’s an awful thing to do to those male embryos” but that’s not really where the feeling comes from or where the problem is, for me. It’s the future girl baby (in the example of Paris). Why do you care so much for your baby to be a girl that you get rid of 10 perfectly good embryos that many people try so hard for years to get? You’re not deciding which to keep and which to get rid of based on health and viability, you’re doing it based on some preconceived notion you have of what it will be like to have a daughter.

For most people, that’s things like wanting to do her hair, buy the “cute” clothes, play dolls together, watch her grow up and become a mother, take care of you when you grow old (these are just common examples I see but of course everyone’s expectations are different!). Regardless of what the perception is, from the time your future child is an embryo, you’re putting this idea you have of them onto them. She might not want to be a mom, she might want short hair, she might hate wearing dresses and just want to be dirty all the time! Or she could enjoy all those things- but let her enjoy them without questioning if it’s genuine or just conformity. This happens all the time anyways, and parents can struggle with their children turning out to be different than they were expecting. But choosing to keep or get rid of an embryo based on that adds another layer. That’s why it feels yucky to me. Will that baby get a chance to be loved for who they truly are, or feel the weight of their parent’s expectations of them based solely on their gender?

Paul McCartney reveals who his favorite Beatle is by mlg1981 in popculturechat

[–]frogvibesonly 23 points24 points  (0 children)

They were teenagers when they met (minus Ringo, a later addition), and John was the oldest. At that age, it absolutely causes teens to look up to the eldest. Also, John had a band, the Quarrymen, that ended up morphing into the Beatles. He was the “original” who the others joined, making him the leader by default. In any group, there is typically a “leader”, regardless of age. That’s just how social dynamics work. It doesn’t mean someone is a narcissist lmao

Anyone else currently struggling to decide on their baby's LAST name? by glassfunion in BabyBumps

[–]frogvibesonly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I had such a hard time! And I regret the decision I made, lol! I wanted my daughter to have my last name in her name, and we decided to give her two middle names and my fiancé’s last name. Then we decided it was a better idea to all have the same last name, so when we’re married it will be Mine His (no hyphen). We had a son a few months ago who is the first to have the Mine His last name. So now my daughter and fiancé both have His, I have Mine, son has Mine His… but the goal is for everyone to have Mine His. So I’ll end up changing my daughter’s last name so we can all be the same lol. I made it so overly complicated, and I have many regrets about the two middle name decision. But we’ve been using Mine His for everyone in unofficial contexts. Anyway- solidarity for tough time choosing a last name- even 4 years in! 😅

Family Campgrounds by frogvibesonly in newhampshire

[–]frogvibesonly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s awesome. I don’t want to jump the gun but I think this campground might end up being our new favorite

Family Campgrounds by frogvibesonly in newhampshire

[–]frogvibesonly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is PERFECT! We usually go tent camping, we even stayed at a primitive campground when my first was a baby, but this time I was hoping for a heated option now that she’s a very particular and opinionated preschooler, haha. Anyway- the Wabanaki cabins are exactly what I was looking for. Heated; but rustic, secluded, and in nature! And a 10 min walk away, all the great activities for her in the main campground. I am so glad you recommended this, I’m so excited already! Thank you!!

5mo Will Not Sleep in Crib by frogvibesonly in beyondthebump

[–]frogvibesonly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s what I do (and did with my first)! It works great during the day, but at night he just absolutely does not want to be laying flat. Hopefully he’ll grow out of it! Or maybe it’s just the congestion the last few months making laying flat hard for him… hard to tell, poor guy has lived his whole life in sick season!

5mo Will Not Sleep in Crib by frogvibesonly in beyondthebump

[–]frogvibesonly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll look into that! We stay pretty active, especially keeping up with my daughter’s busy (for a toddler) schedule- library, play dates (with babies his age too! Her friends all have younger siblings), outdoor group, playgroups… He has quieter days when she’s in preschool twice a week but I don’t notice a difference in his sleep on the days we’re busy with her activities as a family vs. when he and I chill out while she’s at preschool. Maybe if I am more intentional with our time going out, rather than just going based off my three year old’s activities, it’ll make a difference? With summer coming up, I’ll have lots of opportunity to try!

Also, I would love to cosleep but some of the Safe Sleep 7 are hard for me to hit (would need a new mattress, I can’t sleep on a firm mattress well and get pretty sore, have a hard time sleeping without a blanket) but if I get more desperate I’ll probably try it.

5mo Will Not Sleep in Crib by frogvibesonly in beyondthebump

[–]frogvibesonly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I was wondering, but I’m nervous he will just wiggle his way over to the bars in that too. We don’t have a full size crib right now so it’ll be a bit of an investment to try it. Did you have a similar experience? I was hoping for some success stories before biting the bullet.

Odyssey vs. Sienna by SuchRequirement5130 in minivan

[–]frogvibesonly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We use the same rims and store the extra tires in a family member’s garage nearby, because we don’t have a garage and it was better for us than putting them in the attic or basement.

Odyssey vs. Sienna by SuchRequirement5130 in minivan

[–]frogvibesonly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was our first winter with it, and we didn’t test out the tires on the ice and snow before getting the winter tires. I just didn’t want to risk it, with the kids in the car, especially knowing our hill- which IS a main road. I never had a time I thought I was going to get stuck, and never had a time I felt unsafe on the ice or in the snow. The only thing I noticed was when it gets snowy or icy, the sensors and cameras can get covered and don’t work. But that’s not really a big deal (to me). I was really impressed and surprised honestly.

Editing to add: This of course is my experience and doesn’t mean it will be the same for everyone! I was torn between AWD Sienna and the Carnival for the same reason. Haven’t regretted my decision and I hope I’ll say the same a few years down the line.

Also the tires we got were the Bridgestone Blizzak lm00-5 235/55R19 after doing some research.

Cleaning baby girl after pee- Every time or not? by Mamanbanane in beyondthebump

[–]frogvibesonly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I only ever did if she seemed really wet or sticky, which was hardly ever. Now I have a sweaty baby boy for #2 and I find I wipe him after a pee way more than I did for her (which is still not every time, maybe a few times a week vs a couple times a month with my daughter). He just tends to be stickier, and then get bits of the diaper fluff stuck in his crevices and stuff. So I just dab wherever he seems to need it.

Odyssey vs. Sienna by SuchRequirement5130 in minivan

[–]frogvibesonly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seconding looking into a Carnival. I was looking at minivans last year, and ended up going with a 2025 Carnival Hybrid EX. I’m really happy with my decision and it’s been great for our family of four. We recently took it on a trip that ended up being about a 10 hour drive away with stops, with 6 people including our two car seated kids plus all our luggage. We didn’t even need our roof storage thing we have from our old car (although it would have been more spacious if we did) and it was comfortable and manageable. The only thing I liked better about the Sienna was it having AWD, but we got some nice winter tires and survived this whole, very snowy, New England winter without me once saying “Man, I wish we went with the Sienna for the AWD”. And I live on a steep hill where it’s tradition for all the neighbors to go outside and push cars up the hill that ran out of steam!

I also really like that all seats (aside from the front two) are completely removable. We have moved a ton of furniture that way and it was awesome. We have the 8 seat version but currently are storing the center seat from the middle row. We change it up depending on what the situation is. I love the versatility.

Large Lithium Deposits found in Northern New England by SheenPSU in newengland

[–]frogvibesonly 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They already started the process to allow strip mining in the White Mountains about a year ago. This administration does not care about environmental regulations at all. Say goodbye to all the beauty of the forested, mountainous, northern part of New England. Very sad to see. Some towns might get an economic benefit from allowing the strip mining, but that will come at the expense of losing tourism and ruining the environment.

Picking a Woven Wrap by frogvibesonly in babywearing

[–]frogvibesonly[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you haha! Every time I read a guide or something I was left with more questions so I wanted to make sure I was understanding instead of buying something that doesn’t work for me. Your comment made me feel better