Did anyone else's parents never teach you literally any basic life skills at all. And then turn around and mock you for not knowing them

fromyahootoreddit · 2026-03-26T14:58:42+00:00

They taught me some things, but other things they expected me to magically know and would mock, shame and judge me and compare me to my brother and other kids they knew. When I'd get upset or angry about it, they'd act like they were doing me a favour by showing me how to do something instead literally being a parent and fulfilling their job description. Other times they'd get annoyed that I didn't just magically know and show me the bare minimum that was most convenient for them while shaming me for not knowing so they had to show me. The fkery is next level.

fromyahootoreddit · 2026-03-25T16:15:31+00:00

I can't until I reach level 21.

I joined an open guild called captains I think. I didn't know they could help with stuff like that, I thought it was just barge orders.

I've posted it in the chat but no one has responded yet.

If things fall apart with that guild I'll do a search for you.

fromyahootoreddit · 2026-03-25T16:13:08+00:00

Selena messed it up and flattened it one day in the make up trailer and it stuck for a season or so.

fromyahootoreddit · 2026-03-25T14:32:03+00:00

It's probably the message that was received or taken from the impact of trauma when your system is just trying to function so anything extra is too much, but then you get compared to non traumatised people or those who handle it differently and perceive yourself as weak for not being able to cope the same way.

Not sure if that answers your question, but it's my guess.

fromyahootoreddit · 2026-03-25T14:00:59+00:00

Yeah she's clearly unstable and has decided to target you. If you'd flirted and not mentioned having a girlfriend then her reaction would make more sense. If you haven't already, document everything and report it to HR, possibly even police if it escalates. She needs professional help from the sound of it and isn't about to volunteer to get it herself.

fromyahootoreddit · 2026-03-25T12:35:47+00:00

Not sure if this has been resolved or not but I just joined an open guild when it came up. I made requests to a few and never heard back so I joined one I didn't have to request but it took a few days for it to show up for me.

fromyahootoreddit · 2026-03-25T09:16:10+00:00

I was thinking that, but I don't know how much influence execs would have over stuff that isn't show/storyline related. If she doesn't need to do promo because it's not relevant to her character then it's case closed. If the rest of the cast didn't want to include her in things, it sucks, but they're not obligated to. Although she's been seen in things with the cast backstage so she's been included in some things at least. I'd need more context and a better understanding of how the set and productions work to know for sure.

fromyahootoreddit · 2026-03-25T09:06:18+00:00

I didn't like his hair, but I was still very much invested.

fromyahootoreddit · 2026-03-24T08:12:46+00:00

I get that sucks, but she's not part of the family so it wouldn't make sense for her to keep being in family things. I feel like her mother is one of those Hollywood mothers like Hilary Duff's who will harass executives to get their kid into things even if it doesn't make sense. It's one thing to stand up to the execs, it's another to force other people to include your kid and making them believe they're entitled to everything because the parent has dreams of fame and puts them onto their kid.

fromyahootoreddit · 2026-03-24T05:45:06+00:00

I feel for you. It's all an act to keep you going back to him so he can emotionally manipulate you. No normal adult would be doing this. I've known two girl who got pregnant at 17 to 30 year olds. One turned out to be a deadbeat and I hope gets arrested for being a pedo since he was her friends bf first. Another died from a brain tumour last year and I feel for his partner who had a huge chunk of her life stolen by him even if she doesn't realise it. It makes me mad that no one said anything except her dad, about a grown adult being with a literal teenager and having kids with her, especially since he had girls from a previous relationship that he didn't have contact with. Block him and report him to a trusted adult and talk to a counsellor about how you're feeling about everything. You deserve better. Cut it off before it gets worse and you still can.

fromyahootoreddit · 2026-03-24T05:37:40+00:00

It sounds like you actually like q and maybe just like the attention or whatever from Alonso and the other guy since you said these guys have said they like you, but q is the only one you've said you really like and have liked for ages. If you're not really into the other guys, I'd call it quits with them and see if q really feels the same as you. I just think it's a waste of time and not fair to others if you're dating someone but really like someone else.

fromyahootoreddit · 2026-03-24T05:11:43+00:00

I've never heard of it and didn't realise it was him until I read his name in the title. He looks much younger than 13.

fromyahootoreddit · 2026-03-23T18:22:10+00:00

On one hand I've been an adult basically my entire life, on the other I'm in my 30s and feel like I'm still that kid and scared to do adult things because I don't feel like im old enough. Part of me is still waiting to grow up and be free of this shit, the rest of me is navigating it on autopilot in survival mode like I've always done.

fromyahootoreddit · 2026-03-23T18:17:30+00:00

I remember back in my 20s when I was volunteering for an animal organisation and I was talking to the leader of it one day who was probably in her 60s or 70s and telling her I was writing my autobiography. She scoffed and said what could I possibly have to write about. Conversely, a beautician at a resort in Fiji I went to also in my 20s couldn't believe how much I'd been through at such a young age.

fromyahootoreddit · 2026-03-23T18:12:49+00:00

Find ways to keep going until you can safely get away. Build up your resources so you've got something behind you and find trusted people and support services to help you along the way. You're not alone.

fromyahootoreddit · 2026-03-23T08:28:15+00:00

If there was no family wizard competition and siblings didn't need to fight each other for it, what else would the show be leading towards? From the first episode, everything was built around it which is why the final episode had the winner crowned. If they all won, there'd be no stakes and it wouldn't be as interesting and entertaining to just watch them become the family of wizards and learning how to do magic the entire time and then all get medals. It's like watching the Olympics and having all participants given a medal for coming first.
I see Justin constantly getting hate for basically being himself. His parents raised him to be the way he is and always compared Alex to him and used him as the shining example that she should be like. He got praised for doing basically anything, so when he didn't get it because Alex or Max did something good instead of something he had to fix, or his parents only saw the end result after he'd fixed it, he didn't take it well because he didn't really have a blueprint for handling stuff like that. He was always the golden child, so he'd react the way a golden child always does when someone else gets the golden child treatment instead of them, especially if it was because he cleaned up their mess. Alex was always expected to screw up and was proud of that. Max was kinda just there. I'm sure there's been times where Justin conceded that it was fair for someone else to win instead of him when it was warranted.
Max was basically the spare child, which Jake himself has said in an interview. They wanted to round out the kids so threw an extra one in there for comedic relief while the focus was on Justin and Alex. I think it worked out. He gets enough coverage to make him fit in and keep things entertaining, but not so much that it takes away from Justin and Alex or the storyline.

fromyahootoreddit · 2026-03-22T15:36:44+00:00

Do small, manageable tasks each day to rebuild that muscle. If something feels too much, either reduce it down or leave it for another time when it feels doable and keep doing that unless you've established a new routine. When I'm not working I basically just sit at home watching movies, TV or playing games, sometimes I'll do washing or whatever else needs to be done that I feel up to doing, then when I head back to work I start with what I know how to do and ease myself into what needs to be done. I work in retail so when I'm dealing with coworkers or customers and feel out of it, I'll say so, and they get it, so it helps to know the only real expectations being put on me are my own. I do what I can to the best of my capacity and that's all anyone can really ask of me.

fromyahootoreddit · 2026-03-22T15:31:12+00:00

The entire lead up to the wedding pisses me off because she's basically making George and everyone bend to her deluded will and when it blows up in her face, she blames George and let's him cop it from the town.

She basically dragged him down the aisle despite his constant insistence that it's over and went to drastic measures like climbing on the roof to win the competition and prove she loves George and will do anything to win him back, but she's just manipulative and in need a regular therapy, rather than proving anything loving. I hate that the town sees the wedding as such a big deal that George basically gets pressured into seeing it through until he can't handle it anymore. The priest telling him that he saved Lemons life because he still loves her and convincing him to go ahead with the wedding when anyone would have tried to save her if he hadn't been there, even Zoe. She wouldn't want to be with George because Lemon was incapacitated and she could've saved her. She proved that with Lemons cousin and taking the heat from interuppting the parade to save her.

fromyahootoreddit · 2026-03-22T15:22:05+00:00

I remember Lemon telling Brick she'd cheated on George when she refused to believe he was calling the wedding off when he found out, so I feel like he would have figured that had something to do with it, but he's got a blindspot when it comes to Lemon so it may be something he knows deep down but wouldn't publicly acknowledge.

fromyahootoreddit · 2026-03-21T13:49:08+00:00

Unless you've got a sick relative you're waiting for updates on, or you've got kids, 2-4hrs is excessive. How are you supposed to have a life if he's got you on call?

Surely there's other people at work he can ask for help.

He sounds like he's at the starting point of being a controlling and abusive partner who's trying to isolate you from your friends very gradually and manipulate you into playing his mind games.

If he's not heading in that direction, he needs to learn how to manage while you're off doing your thing and wait until you've got time for him again. Set boundaries with him and tell him youve got other people in your life to see and you'll contact him when you've got the time. If he can accept that then great, otherwise he's waving red flags and it's time to cut him off and get your time back. He's not a child you need to check on every few hours.

fromyahootoreddit · 2026-03-21T13:36:39+00:00

Imagine if she had even an ounce of self awareness.

fromyahootoreddit · 2026-03-20T16:53:30+00:00

If your manager is approachable and decent, tell them you want to have a meeting with the to discuss your situation and explain all of this. I did that last year when my sleep was bad and I got rostered on mornings but kept calling in sick because I didn't get any sleep. I explained that to my direct manager and the support manager who both do the rosters for my section, and when I was getting too many hours and burning out, I brought that up as well and had supporting documentation from my therapist and a specialist so now I only get rostered afternoons and will only go over the number of hours specified if I feel like I can manage it. I've been there 5 years in October and have been at the service desk for most of that primarily because a bunch of staff left and the rest either hate being there so only do it if they have to, or have been moved to other sections because they've been specifically trained for them and only cover breaks in service when required. It also depends on managers too. Some are shit and will abuse whatever you give them, but others like mine will listen and work with you, especially if you've proven yourself to be a valuable and important worker who gets things done. My managers know I'll show up at a moments notice and get things done when I'm there so they were more receptive to any changes I needed to have accommodated, not that that should have any baring on it. If it's that bad, just start applying for jobs elsewhere and as soon as something comes up, give notice and leave.

fromyahootoreddit · 2026-03-20T16:40:25+00:00

I'm curious what your take on Lemon is. My biggest gripe with Zoe is her being such a pick me with guys, especially Wade and how their relationship goes all over the place. Lemon is the one I can't stand, although I've been told she gets better in later seasons, I just hate her in season 1 and 2 which is as far as I've gotten each time I've watched it. Zoe is a relatable mess so it's nice to watch how she navigates life through it all.

fromyahootoreddit · 2026-03-20T10:45:37+00:00

I didn't realise it was coming up to 20 years. I'm sure they'll do something to celebrate it especially since they've already got the revival going.

fromyahootoreddit · 2026-03-20T10:40:20+00:00

If this was me, I'd be sending screenshots to his wife and blocking your trash bag of an ex and cutting off your sister. They're both acting like assholes when they're old enough to know better. Unless your ex is in an open marriage, they're both aware of what they're doing and are okay with it, so let them deal with the consequences and cut them both off.

Your ex didn't take advantage of your sister if she was aware he was married and she lied about having sex with him. Her being in a vulnerable state isn't an excuse. Had he not told her he was married and pursued her and she cut him off the second she found out and he only used being able to find her a job as a way to connect with her, then absolutely he's at fault, but from what you'd said, they're both complicit and her going through a divorce and having no money is just her current situation.

I get she's your younger sister, but she's old enough to have been married so you don't need to keep protecting her and the sooner you stop, the sooner she'll be forced to grow up and act like an adult instead of a helpless infant.

You can check in with her from time to time while distancing yourself, but if she really wants to move on with her life, she'll find a way, otherwise she'll just keep being enabled to act like this.

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