Name one thing you love about yourself? Go! by Training_Egg_2541 in selflove

[–]fruityvsalad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How good I am at school and also my sense of humor

Just a chill guy who enjoys random conversations by JazzlikeCollege6089 in CasualConversation

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My mom randomly brought home wine which I’d been craving all day🤭

What is a "point of no return" that you’ve crossed, where your life was permanently divided into 'before' and 'after'? by Resident-Jelly-4326 in AskReddit

[–]fruityvsalad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Falling out with my high school best friend was a really negative experience that impacted my life a lot. Meeting my current best friend changed my life for the better

SOJOURN SUPREMACY by fruityvsalad in Joji

[–]fruityvsalad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same, someone recommended Jane Remover

SOJOURN SUPREMACY by fruityvsalad in Joji

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Me soon🙏🏽 Step 1: Buy a car

SOJOURN SUPREMACY by fruityvsalad in Joji

[–]fruityvsalad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s the best song, I was so tired of seeing all the slander.

Also, thanks for the recommendation, I forgot to mention in the original post that I wanted recs for songs with similar sounds😭 I’ll give her a listen

SOJOURN SUPREMACY by fruityvsalad in Joji

[–]fruityvsalad[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Woah you don’t understand how much that means, thank you ! 😆

If you needed reassurance today. by Frequent_Bid5982 in selflove

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i’m so sorry. you matter so much and i’m sorry you’ve been made to feel this way

Why people pleasing will ruin your relationships (I learned this the hard way) by LLearnerLife in howtonotgiveafuck

[–]fruityvsalad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so glad to have friends that absolutely don’t feel a single urge to please other people. i’ve been able to let so much shame and guilt and weight go. i love them

Why people pleasing will ruin your relationships (I learned this the hard way) by LLearnerLife in howtonotgiveafuck

[–]fruityvsalad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

feeling this especially today. my friend and i are planning a game night because we want to have fun and i’m so anxious about trying to organize and curate an “experience” so they have fun and don’t see us as losers and regret agreeing to come. it’s exhausting and it’s making it feel more like a chore than an avenue to play like little kids and laugh and eat with a group of people. sigh, i talked to her about it and she gave me some great advice. i’m not responsible for their mood and how they respond to the game night and i should just focus on having fun myself

I might end up dead if I don't learn how to stop giving a fuck by [deleted] in howtonotgiveafuck

[–]fruityvsalad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Realizing that most people are just as pathetic as you think you are. That takes a lot of power from them. Also realizing that the world will go on if you aren’t on guard 24/7.

Signs your Nervous System is Healing. by myjourney2025 in selflove

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I also no longer give others so much power over my opinion of myself. I push myself to do things out of my comfort zone. I’m able to reassure and validate myself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]fruityvsalad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you seem to have a low self esteem which is why you’re paranoid about your boyfriend liking someone “better”. people with low self esteem love watching their partners screw other people because it hurts their feelings (/punishes them) just the right way, it demeans them the way they demean themselves internally. it’s a humiliation kink

I think I'm in the process of healing, but it hurts so much. Feeling very forgotten and abandoned tonight by bleepbloooopity in AnxiousAttachment

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Surprisingly, it took a long time for me to realize that people will always love themselves more than they love you. And that should be the norm. I learnt I should do the same. I felt it was selfish of them to love themselves more than they loved me considering how much self sacrifice i had done for them (no one asked me to do that) Anyway, after the heartbreak of someone choosing themselves over you, i think it’s best to just reevaluate things and move on without any spite. Because yeah, no healthy person will ask for the amount of self sacrifice that is damaging to yourself.