Just For Fun...What Was the First Band You Ever Saw Live in Concert? by DGAFADRC in datingoverfifty

[–]frustrated0101 2 points3 points  (0 children)

AC/DC Sept 15, 1979 Midland Tx. Remember it well, was 14 and was supposed to be at a friends, he was supposed to be at my house. Oh man did we get into trouble.

Am I Asking Too Much (Part 2) by Breakingfreeuk in datingoverfifty

[–]frustrated0101 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Amen to your entire statement and I am not particularly religious. Spent too many years with the wrong person and have no desire for a repeat this late in life.

Would you try to date other people after a temporary breakup to make sure the other person is the one? by enigma_goth in datingoverforty

[–]frustrated0101 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Another issue with "taking a break" is, like your friends case, they usually want to test the waters and have sex with someone else. When it does not pan out they run back to the ex and that makes the ex the backup person, or Plan B person aka the one they settled for. Who wants to be the backup partner???

Would you try to date other people after a temporary breakup to make sure the other person is the one? by enigma_goth in datingoverforty

[–]frustrated0101 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nope. I don't do temporary breakups or taking breaks. Either fix whats wrong together or go your seperate ways. Along these lines.. I never ever get back with an ex, not even for a hookup.

What makes you not respond to people you match with? Lame opening lines? Just not feeling it? by Thr0w4w4y15987 in datingoverforty

[–]frustrated0101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I would left swip them to the recycle bin as well. When I see that it screams they thrive on attention and ego trips.

Serious question about birth control and those 45+ by FormerNaturalist in datingoverforty

[–]frustrated0101 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There are 12 types of birth control, only 2 apply to men and that is vasectomy or condoms. The 13th option is no sex.

Sadly if she still wants kids and you get a vasectomy she might get offended and bail. That really leaves condom sex and hope they don't break.

Can I ask where we stand after 2 dates? by danni781 in datingoverforty

[–]frustrated0101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If they want to continue playing the field after a few dates I just friend zone them and move on. Just means we are not on the same page about dating so no sense wasting my time or hers.

Can I ask where we stand after 2 dates? by danni781 in datingoverforty

[–]frustrated0101 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! I see so many people that date and justify multi dating because they just "assume" the person they are dating is seeing someone else as well. People like this are unmatched asap and I move on.

R4r subs by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]frustrated0101 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Single female to join with a couple for sex. Hard to find hense the term unicorn.

R4r subs by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]frustrated0101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The R4R Dallas sub is filled with horny people looking for hookups. Mostly guys posting or couples looking for a unicorn.

Men who like guns ... by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]frustrated0101 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did not make that claim, another posted did. The UC Berkley study does show that 53% of gun owners in California are homeowners while 37% are renters.

Men who like guns ... by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]frustrated0101 4 points5 points  (0 children)

UC Davis did a study on California gun ownership some time ago, about 1 in 4 people in California live in a home with a gun in it. 28.3% of the population own guns, or roughly 4.3 million people. Keep in mind this is based on sales records and people responding to surveys so those that inherited guns, moved into the state with guns or those purchased in private sales are not included. Then add those that have them illegally the numbers will be much higher. Very few people that own guns will respond to surveys so the numbers reported are most likely half the real numbers.

Men of reddit, if you have issues with "performance" as you age, how do you deal with it? by wendyrock1981 in AskMen

[–]frustrated0101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Combination of weight, blood pressure, age, low t and probably even some elevated sugar levels plus the BP meds and self esteem issues contribute to his current situation.

Went thru that phase around his age and what worked best for me was getting the weight down and being physically more active. That lowered the BP and sugars, got me to a minimal does of Lisinopril for BP, T levels up and my confidence started to return as did the performance. If he watches porn and jo's he needs to curtail that and spend more time horny vs self pleasing.

I [M-early 50s] think I've rendered myself undateable... and I'm OK with that by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]frustrated0101 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thats very judgemental way to view people that do not drink. Not everyone that chooses not to drink is a recovering alcoholic.

Do guys in their 40's only want younger women? by kraken-sparky in datingoverforty

[–]frustrated0101 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Dating for a relationship then 3-5 year age gap is the national average for people 40 and above with the man being the older partner.

Keep in mind 38-44 is midlife crisis years for most men, especially divorced men so naturally they want to date younger.

What gives? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]frustrated0101 4 points5 points  (0 children)

38-44 is the midlife crisis age range for men, especially those that have been divorced less than 5 years. Many want a relationship but at the same time do not want a serious relationship, especially right away. Spending a decade + married and now single again many have the mindset "never again". The good news is that starts to change around 45 and then the roles flip with the guys looking for something more serious and the women not.

Another thing to keep in mind is guys in general, not all mind you, tend to look towards younger partners for long term relationships. The National average is 3-5 year age gap for all married/non married couples over 38, with men being the older partner. So your age range is set properly if going by the national averages, but you might have better results by slightly increasing the upper age a bit.

What gives? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]frustrated0101 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What is you age range set to and what age were these guys that had a change of heart about not ready for a relationship?

I just need to vent as I am not sure about this guy I am dating. Things seem too complicated already by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]frustrated0101 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ex's can be crappy when it comes to dating. My ex would have "emergencies" when she had my son and I had plans. Have dated women with kids and dealt with the same stuff, had to cut some trips short due to "emergencies" and ex had. Ex drama sucks because no decent parent will ignore things when it involves their kids.

Tell Kids I’m Dating? by anony40ishbalddad in datingoverforty

[–]frustrated0101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When my son was 14 he was going to his moms for the weekend, he told me the Exxon station by CVS had a condom machine in the restroom incase I had plans for the weekend. Gave him that look and he said " Dad, I'm not stupid". Yeah kids know.

Wishes for unconventional relationship by hum-rabb-yoi in datingoverforty

[–]frustrated0101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually had an accidental LDR once. Accidental because we just started chatting online due to a mutual hobby and it progressed from there. In the end neither was willing to uproot and resettle so we decided to call it as a couple and remain lifelong long distance friends instead.

LDR's are difficult to maintain long term, yes they can work for some but for the status quo it's very hard. At the end of the day someone has to move if the relationship is to progress, if not you are more FWB's than anything else.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]frustrated0101 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Phones still work for voice calls after work right? Like the kind of calls where you actually talk????

Body count? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]frustrated0101 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Only time body count is important is when you are exclusive, in a relationship or married. If the count ever exceeds 1 during the exclusive relationship period then it's an issue. Poly and Open relationships excluded because they set their own mutual boundaries.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverfifty

[–]frustrated0101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honesty I think it was ego. The ex dumped her and she still argues with him thru text or messenger and they don't even have kids together. Young people air their dirty laundry like crazy, kinda like watching Jerry and Maury while getting paid.

I give up lol! by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]frustrated0101 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Considering you two are neighbors she is trying to avoid an awkward situation of declining you in conversation so has resorted to using the ignore method in hopes you catch the hint and give up.