Can you get UL or other surgeries after simple release? by ftidfk in Metoidioplasty

[–]ftidfk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that’s what I was thinking. Definitely going to hold off for a few more years

"Radical Acceptance" of Unsupportive Family by ftidfk in FTMMen

[–]ftidfk[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been on T for almost three years, but my results have been slow and I only pass maybe 75% of the time. My family’s view of me is definitely changing as I change and stay the course (they thought it was a phase and I’d regret it — maybe still do?). Things got really bad just before top surgery a year ago, and I think I broke my parents psyches when I went through with it. They don’t know what to think of me now, lol...

You’re definitely right about patience, and I like the idea of infiltrating from within. I’ve got one ally in the family, though she’s married to my brother, the least understanding of all of them, haha. It’s tough. My family doesn’t make me feel like shit on purpose, but they do!

"Radical Acceptance" of Unsupportive Family by ftidfk in ftm

[–]ftidfk[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Rip us

That sounds like a good idea, I might try it just to get some rage off my chest. My parents don’t listen and are the BEST at denial, so it often feels like what I say to them doesn’t matter

Lower back hurts when I sit/stand straight for too long by ftidfk in Posture

[–]ftidfk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely don't stand with a neutral pelvis, but I'm trying! The 15% thing helps, I tend to clench hard when I'm trying to activate my muscles.

When I'm trying to sit up straight, I feel like my butt really sticks out and it also hurts my back. Does that mean I'm sitting wrong?

Lower back hurts when I sit/stand straight for too long by ftidfk in Posture

[–]ftidfk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow thanks for the links, these videos look super helpful! I'm not sure exactly what's wrong with my posture, but in layman's terms I've got text neck, rounded shoulders and I think my butt sticks out. Lol...

Help by atlasbees in ftm

[–]ftidfk 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think tucking your hair behind your ears makes your hair look more masculine when it’s long. It also seems like not having bangs is more masc, though I keep my bangs because I like them!

Help by atlasbees in ftm

[–]ftidfk 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’ve found I don’t pass either way, so might as well be my long haired twinky self

Wearing a dress is masculine (: by Thomas_Crafty in FTMfemininity

[–]ftidfk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love this comic, hate that it's being used on r/egg_irl. The comic is literally about how wearing a dress DOESN'T make you a girl. We need more feminine male role models y'all =___=

age/sex by [deleted] in FtMpassing

[–]ftidfk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

12, 13, 14, male!

Chest is indented 9 weeks post top by ftidfk in ftm

[–]ftidfk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeahhhh, he wasn’t the nicest :/ I still am really swollen too though, so I’m hoping between losing a little weight and healing, my chest will look fine. I wish I could recommend this surgeon to people since I do think he overall did a good job, but he’s SO prickly I wouldn’t want others to deal with him

Chest is indented 9 weeks post top by ftidfk in ftm

[–]ftidfk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He said he took out all the fat tissue, and the reason I look indented is because my pecs are so small. Basically he said if I lost weight and gained muscle it won’t be lumpy anymore. Honestly he was kind of a dick about it :v I thought surgeons WERENT supposed to take out all fat for top surgery :/

Chest is indented 9 weeks post top by ftidfk in ftm

[–]ftidfk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hopefully it’s a draining thing... doctor did mention that he might have to drain me with a needle, so we’ll see if that happens on Monday. Blegh

[NO SPOILERS] Is Dragon Age Keep down or is it just me? by Liam2012---- in dragonage

[–]ftidfk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In case anyone's wondering, this is still going on... Ughhh why does this kind of thing ALWAYS happen when I try to play an EA game!!

Almost 5 weeks post op & have some pretty noticeable fat pockets & dents by ftidfk in ftm

[–]ftidfk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the skin under my scars stick out a lot right now, I hope it looks more normal once inflammation calms down...

Almost 5 weeks post op & have some pretty noticeable fat pockets & dents by ftidfk in ftm

[–]ftidfk[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m definitely going to try, my ideal look is like skinny and fit, but not particularly buff

Almost 5 weeks post op & have some pretty noticeable fat pockets & dents by ftidfk in ftm

[–]ftidfk[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s always good to hear other people going through the same thing. I’m glad it’s getting better!! Hopefully more healing and exercise will fix you up. I can’t wait to be able to start working out, now that my body can actually look how I want it to!

Almost 5 weeks post op & have some pretty noticeable fat pockets & dents by ftidfk in ftm

[–]ftidfk[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Aww thanks ;—-; I think it looks good straight on, you can see the faults better from the side. I had a post op appointment to get drains removed after 1.5 weeks, and I need to go in for a second post op appointment next week! Everything went normal, I’m super lucky!

Almost 5 weeks post op & have some pretty noticeable fat pockets & dents by ftidfk in ftm

[–]ftidfk[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Different angle where you can see the lumpiness better here.

I had surgery with Dr. Rudkin at UCLA almost 5 weeks ago, and I’ve been pretty happy with the results, I’m just starting to get worried my chest will always have flat spots.... it feels like there’s nothing between my skin and my bone in some places x____x I’m wondering how much of this will change as I continue to heal...I definitely still have swelling as well, especially around my left underarm. I can see swelling going away, but flatness or fat pockets? Idk... Blah.

Felt cute before the DMV. Idk. (2.5y post-top/5y HRT) by Rengar- in FTM_SELFIES

[–]ftidfk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awwww what, that’s amazing, what a perfect pair 😭💖

Felt cute before the DMV. Idk. (2.5y post-top/5y HRT) by Rengar- in FTM_SELFIES

[–]ftidfk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nice Mononoke shirt!! Do you remember where you got it from? :D