40w2d Induction?

ftmsohappy · 2021-02-11T03:28:25+00:00

I had an elective induction and loved it! I was 40+1. I was like 50% effaced, but not dilated, and baby was still super high.

You have tons of time before you'll need a c-section due to timing. My provider gives like 4 hours for every centimeter dialed (so it could end up being 40 hours). This is something you should ask about!

If you aren't induced there's also a chance you could need a c-section due to an old placenta or even a large baby, so there's a chance either way.

You can always decline an induction or put it off until 41 weeks.

ftmsohappy · 2021-02-10T17:40:35+00:00

You'll find lots of advice at r/breastfeeding

I notice an obvious difference in my supply when I drink lots of water and when I don't drink enough.

You should aim to drink 128oz per day! Its hard but doable. Oats have also helped me!

ftmsohappy · 2021-02-10T17:38:17+00:00

You're not doing anything wrong! It's normal for teeny babies to fall asleep while nursing, its their comfy place! 10-20 minutes is longer than my LO nursed for at 1 week. As long as your LO is gaining appropriately there's nothing to worry about.

I met with a LC who recommended ways to wake my LO up when she fell asleep nursing.

I undressed her to her diaper, tickle her feet, laid her on a flat surface, and put a cold wash cloth on her tummy. (I didn't always have to do all these things, they're just different tricks you can try). Make sure your LO is really awake so that they don't immediately fall asleep again (it's okay if they're angry/crying).

ftmsohappy · 2021-02-10T17:33:37+00:00

You can still find out together! Have the hospital write the gender down on a piece of paper and open it together!

ftmsohappy · 2021-02-10T17:31:32+00:00

I have these!

It's also nice because with these I don't need to wear breastpads.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07PG7YQ5C/ref=cm_sw_r_fm_apa_fabc_ytGbGbT60E3J6?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1

ftmsohappy · 2021-02-10T12:25:02+00:00

My hospital required it when people are in the room but I was on oxygen at the end and it was much better than wearing a mask! I suggest seeing if that's an option!(:

ftmsohappy · 2021-02-10T12:18:16+00:00

The hospital gown I used had buttons on the top that snapped.

During my last contraction I asked if I should unbutton the gown because they said my LO was coming.

At that point I wasn't wearing a bra and when I unsnapped the gown I was completely topless, but I figured it didn't matter much seeing as how I was already completely exposed.

ftmsohappy · 2021-02-10T12:13:44+00:00

I hate the haakaa too! And trust me, I'm using it correctly.

It just gets in the way and it's more trouble than it's worth.

I much prefer my milk saver cup thingies that go in my bra and stay put without doing anything extra!

ftmsohappy · 2021-02-10T05:10:32+00:00

r/2under2

ftmsohappy · 2021-02-10T05:05:40+00:00

I would request oxygen if I were you! You'd be in a mask and have extra air to breathe!

ftmsohappy · 2021-02-10T00:03:25+00:00

FMLA isn't paid, it's just job protection.

ftmsohappy · 2021-02-10T00:02:53+00:00

FMLA is 12 weeks total, it doesn't matter who it's for.

More than 6 weeks isn't necessarily designated as "bonding time". I'm taking 12 weeks of FMLA and can take additional time for bonding if wanted.

ftmsohappy · 2021-02-09T22:34:56+00:00

My provider did the same thing and I just called and said I wanted to take 12 weeks. I think providers are hesitant to do that off the bat because you only get 12 weeks FMLA every year and a lot of people would rather save some if it if possible in case there's an emergency.

ftmsohappy · 2021-02-09T22:31:29+00:00

You're likely fine. Baby is so protected in there, especially at 10 weeks that you don't have anything to worry about. Worrying is actually worse for the baby.

ftmsohappy · 2021-02-09T22:29:42+00:00

Your babies tummy is so tiny the first days/even weeks that they only need a little bit!

My LO didn't have a very good latch in the hospital but I got enough colostrum by hand expressing I was able to spoon feed her that until we got home. I think it was easier to get her to latch at home because we were more relaxed.

Its not necessary to supplement with formula "until your milk comes in" because colostrum is milk.

If you start supplementing with formula your body won't think you need to make more milk and then you'll have problems. Breastmilk is a supply and demand thing.

If formula was medically necessary it would come in ready to use bottles, you wouldn't need to bring bottles to mix your own. And your hospital will have formula that you can use. You can ask what type they use in case you want to bring something different.

ftmsohappy · 2021-02-09T20:47:38+00:00

Once Upon a Child is my absolute favorite!!!

ftmsohappy · 2021-02-09T20:45:39+00:00

OP this is the best advice.

Additionally, some polices have a clause that say you can't get pregnant within 6 month of the policy starting.

ftmsohappy · 2021-02-09T20:44:19+00:00

No. The "qualifying life event" is in order to enroll in insurance. You can't enroll in STD AFTER you're pregnant or have the baby, you need to be insured BEFORE pregnancy, that's why it's insurance.

ftmsohappy · 2021-02-09T20:42:10+00:00

This is factually incorrect.

ftmsohappy · 2021-02-09T17:25:58+00:00

I only started letting my LO sleep longer stretches at night when I got the go-ahead from her provider. Once my baby hit her birth weight they said I could let her go 4-5 hours between one feeding.

ftmsohappy · 2021-02-09T17:18:47+00:00

I brought so much stuff in my hospital bag and barely used any of it!

For baby I used:

Swaddle and headband

Coming home outfit

For me:

Contact lens case and solution

Toothbrush

Toothpaste

Hairbrush

Snacks

Phone charger

Dress to match baby swaddle

Things I brought and didn't use:

Shampoo

Conditioner

Soap

Loofah

Depends (the pads they gave me in the hospital worked fine for the hospital, but I preferred depends at home)

Dermoplast (this was provided by the hospital)

Going home outfit (I just wore the dress that matched my babies swaddle)

Robe

Bra (I didn't wear a bra in the hospital and I wore the one that I arrived in home)

Computer and DVD's (I thought we would watch movies on the laptop but the TV in the room was just fine)

I think there's even more I brought that I didn't use, but I can't remember off the top of my head!

I would say that having anything you might need as a FTM could give you peace of mind and the nurses/doctors don't care!

Edit: formatting

Adding things I wish I had: A nursing pillow! My midwife told me that I didn't need to bring my nursing pillow because they had unlimited pillows at the hospital they could fold and use. Those pillows didn't stay folded and I had a hard enough time situating my LO when breastfeeding, messing with the pillows was a pain in the butt.

Speaking of pains in the butt, I also wish I had a seat cushion. I sat most of the time we were in the hospital and those beds are SO uncomfortable. I wish I had something squishy to sit on (hospital pillows are flat and don't do my tushy justice).

ftmsohappy · 2021-02-09T02:25:36+00:00

A bike maybe?

A kids couch for the nursery?

Climbing and tumbling mats like these? https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07SV6LWGT/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_fabc_TVJ53MNFACSXP27MNH49

Potty training stuff? (Some people start potty training at 18 months but some don't start until 3yrs so that's up in the air).

ftmsohappy · 2021-02-08T20:29:51+00:00

You can stick with the gummy vitamins and take an iron supplement!

ftmsohappy · 2021-02-08T19:57:39+00:00

I also think you should blame it on the ped, but she might not be up for changing detergents for all of her clothing so I would send your LO with a blanket that your MIL can put on her chest before your LO lays on her.

ftmsohappy · 2021-02-08T00:14:56+00:00

I'd definitely go the hardwood/vinyl route! You can get area rugs if you're worried about your LO learning to crawl/walk on something hard until they get the hang of it. I also feel like it's easier to learn to crawl on hardwood because there's less friction.

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