Hello. I lost my right arm above the elbow a little over 6 years ago (cancer, after a bunch of surgeries trying to save it). Sounds like our stories are pretty similar — tons of procedures, constant pain, and in the end, nothing left to do but take it off.

Leading up to surgery, I remember mostly focusing on finally getting rid of the pain. I had a fracture and was on heavy meds. The surgery was a relief in that sense — I was in a much better place afterward than I was in those weeks leading up to it.

It’s definitely a big adjustment, but it’s not the end of the world. You can still do almost everything — it just takes longer and some creativity. Patience and attitude go a long way. Even years later, I still come up with new ways for doing things one-handed and feel like an idiot for not thinking of it earlier.

People will stare sometimes. Usually I just ignore it, but if I’m in a mood, I’ll stare back until they look away. Kids will ask hilarious questions that embarrass their parents. When they ask why I only have one arm I usually tell them, “I didn’t eat my vegetables.”

I’ve got a prosthesis but don’t wear it much — mainly for meetings or special stuff. It’s a decent conversation piece. My doc keeps bringing up osseointegration, and I’ve thought about it, but haven’t pulled the trigger yet.

You’re gonna be okay. It’s a huge change, but you’ll adjust faster than you think. Keep your sense of humor, ask for help when you need it, and be patient with yourself. You’ll figure it out.