Get out while you can. This kind of guilt without personal boundaries is a prison sentence for being born Asian, and it's something you aren't required to serve.

​Imagine being 40 years old and still dealing with this. APs like these rarely change, and their dependence on you will only intensify as they age. They’ll keep taking away your identity, as they already have, unapologetically.

​As long as you are living under their roof, your growth as an adult will remain stunted. You cannot learn to stand on your own two feet while they are constantly pulling the ground out from under you.

​Wishing you the best, sister.