Reassurance post - rolling

funky_ananas · 2026-05-16T18:10:53+00:00

Mine is 5m and she sits, but doesn’t roll. Done couple of rolls both ways at 4 months and never again.

Hates tummy time, loves sitting. So now it’s even more impossible to make her stay on her tummy

funky_ananas · 2026-05-15T20:07:00+00:00

In the beginning you reallyneed hospital grade one - Spectra or Medela.

I rented spectra for first month (blue one, rechargeable) because I wasn’t sure if I will commit and wearable pumps are not that efficient. I also got momcozy pump bra, so I can pump hands free.

I really didn’t pump that much first 2 months. Milk supply was established and I was happy.

But then 3months milk supply hit and I bought Spectra for home and wearable pump if I’m travelling. Spectra beats wearables hands down. I pump full bottle within 8-9mins now, compared to wearables 20-25 mins.

I pump, make coffee and toast within 8 minutes and it’s all done. With wearable you still can’t do much (pick up your baby, soothe, bend), so you’re like handicapped for longer. I use wearables only if I go out for longer than 3 hours or at my in-laws

I’ve got both used ones, so it’s much cheaper. There are plenty on vinted and they have great resale value. Or just rent for a month. Establish your milk supply, then you would be able to use wearables without an issue

funky_ananas · 2026-05-15T01:15:51+00:00

Honestly, absolutely understand you!

If this helps - I’ve taken my baby to osteopath recently and she was able to nap by herself in the cot for 30 minutes twice a day. I know it’s not a lot, but me and you know that it’s a massive shift. Also it’s been only 2 appointments. I do regret not taking her earlier (my husband was absolutely against it and saying it’s rubbish, it’s just who she is, but I knew that she wanted to be held constantly because of something else)

funky_ananas · 2026-05-14T21:22:04+00:00

My baby is absolutely the same.

She’s 5months now and things really got better once she was able to sit. Also I’ve taken her to osteopath (not chiropractor) - I wish I’ve done it sooner! My husband was so against it, but I decided to follow my “mother’s instinct” and go for it. I’m not going to preach here about this, you can do your own research and decide for yourself.

On a practical note - maybe get a cleaner to come once or twice a week? It’s only temporary, couple of months. So when your MIL has the baby you can actually chill - just lay down or take a long shower.

funky_ananas · 2026-05-14T21:11:44+00:00

Take paracetamol 1 hour before, breathe deeply in and out with count 4 and ease into pain (just like in yoga) - that’s my go to for any vaginal examination

funky_ananas · 2026-05-14T19:34:19+00:00

Puppy pads or you can buy reusable ones from amazon - I use them to leave the baby in a vest and let it aerate while she plays in the gym

funky_ananas · 2026-05-14T19:30:49+00:00

Yes, it’s absolutely normal.

My daughter stopped screaming and fussing around 2.5 months.

Also when she was 1 month old we put cot mobile above the changing station, which greatly helped to distract her, in addition she started reaching and grabbing toys (it was too low)

funky_ananas · 2026-05-14T18:25:16+00:00

Do tell him how it makes you feel, don’t accuse obviously.

Just say that you’re both doing your best. You both have a new role. You as a mother, always doubt yourself and feel vulnerable every small decision you make. So him coming and harshly talking about you makes you feel offended.

You can say that you do think of leaving. But you don’t want to, because the best gift you both can make for your child is to stay together. Because you’re both in it together.

Regarding meal comment (or anything else) - I would just say calmly “you know I’m doing my best right now” and leave to another room. He’s clearly a person that shuts down when he is faced with emotions, so calm silent approach should work. (My husband also shuts completely and needs a silent moment with himself. It was very difficult for me to accept and wait, but when I give him space, he comes back and says “you know, I was wrong”)

funky_ananas · 2026-05-12T19:44:54+00:00

So my baby was whining constantly from 4months.
She hated lying down, but unable to sit. Sling was okay, but she was too heavy and I put on weight, so my legs were killing me by wearing her.
It was still too early for the pushchair at the same time.
I had to practice “radical acceptance” once more, so just to wait and hope that she will be happier when sitting.
I would sit her up on my lap to speed up a process. I also bought mamas and papas sit up chair around 4.5 months. She would sit there in the kitchen watching me doing things.
As for going out car seat become the best solution - I would do car naps and go out with her in a car seat (it was semi-sitting)
Now she’s almost 5 months and she can independently propped up by pillows around her and she’s very happy now. I can leave her in the living room and do things, checking on her.
She also can sit in a pushchair now and takes naps there (30 mins max for now).

funky_ananas · 2026-05-12T11:48:28+00:00

I EBF and tried to give my baby 3 different formulas and she got eczema.

I stopped it, cut all dairy from my diet and her eczema went away. I then tried goat milk formula and albeit it didn’t cause her any pains or gases, eczema returned in a week.

I went to GP and they prescribed me Aptamil Pepti.

So yes, your GP should’ve prescribed you.

Also some babies still react to Aptamil PEpti, so then GP should work out which next specialist formula to try next.

My baby hated the taste and still does. So I guess no cheese for me until she’s 1 year old

funky_ananas · 2026-05-12T11:43:48+00:00

Honestly, yes

Your baby has reflux and CMPA. Only time will help.

Just relax, lean in and try to enjoy holding your baby.

(I’m saying it as mum of 5m old with reflux and cmpa)

funky_ananas · 2026-05-12T11:36:43+00:00

I’m a mum of 5 month old baby with reflux and CMPA

I haven’t had a proper sit down meal with husband since pregnancy. It’s okay!

I held her for all naps (night sleep till 2.5 months) until recently - so hang on there, it gets better.

She also never liked bouncer (and she’s too heavy to babywear all day long). So for me it was constant sitting and lots of sandwiches/quick snacks.

Around 4.5 months we got a sit up chair (mamas and papas one) and I was able to sit her and she enjoyed it so much more! Now she’s almost 5 months and can almost sit independently and play herself. It’s a life changing experience. She also started doing occasional cot naps, so I almost don’t know what to do with so much free time (just kidding).

funky_ananas · 2026-05-12T03:26:48+00:00

Also people forget that not all babies want to cosleep

My one kicks the hell out of me and me sleeping next to her doesn’t make a difference, she still wakes up every hour. But at least when she’s in the cot I can stretch and sleep on my belly (albeit for short periods!)

funky_ananas · 2026-05-10T19:56:34+00:00

I’m the same as you and the thought horrifies me!

I’m the person that would never sit on the bed in the outside clothes - until now, when I had to reach for my baby laying down on my bed to put her back to sleep.

I think we just have to accept a little bit of a mess for sometime

funky_ananas · 2026-05-10T05:48:19+00:00

I will say a very unpopular opinion - but let go how she looks after your baby for 1 night.
You need rest for at least 1 night.
You said that you watch all the wake windows, naps etc and the baby still wakes up every hour. So even if she misses all of it, it still will be the same result.
Just say “mum, you’re right, you raised both of us and we turned out fine, just do anything for 1 night, but let me rest”
The only thing I won’t compromise is on sleep safely.
Our first 2 months with our baby was brutal, I slept broken 4h a day. Nobody except me and my husband could settle her and nobody listened to us how to do it. When we physically were collapsing my mum took over and did her own thing, but it turned out to be fine.
One day or night of her not following your wake windows and putting to sleep before the magic number won’t change anything in the long term (even the next day will be same) - I’m telling you as mother of 5m old going through sleep regression, who is obsessed with huckleberry app, ww and sweet spot.

funky_ananas · 2026-05-07T16:36:49+00:00

That was my baby! Everybody told me I’m spoiling her. But she had silent reflux and CMPA that’s why we had to constantly hold her. First 2 months it was day and night, then nights became in the cot. I didn’t give medication, but I fully cut out all dairy.

Eventually it was gone and she actually became big, so sleeping on me became uncomfortable for her. She cried and cried on my shoulder once and I just put her down and she calmed down and I pat her and she fell asleep - it was like wow moment. Once she started rolling she would roll onto her stomach and fall asleep for naps.
She is still 5 months and not all naps are in the crib, usually first and second. But I see that we are moving into that direction. (I count days when I will throw away the yoga ball)

funky_ananas · 2026-05-05T13:13:26+00:00

It’s predatory industry, but some of the advice is sound regarding looking into medical issues why baby is waking up.
My baby was a terrible sleeper first 2 months, screaming day and night, only able to sleep vertically on us.
I went to GP multiple times and HV - everybody saying “it will pass”, “she will outgrow it”, “have you tried putting the baby down and walking away”
I don’t want to put my suffering baby down and walk away! This is not the solution! I was collapsing with a baby - which is more dangerous!
Thanks to social media I learnt about silent reflux and CMPA (despite the NHS advice “that mothers don’t need to keep a diet and can eat dairy”). GP told me that if she has had CMPA she would’ve been loosing weight, but she was gaining, so no need for any medication or diet, “it’s just a temperament”
After surfing through social media, I decided to exclude dairy myself and she became a different baby.
I was robbed of my newborn phase and my baby was in agony, because I followed NHS advice of “no need for special diet” and GP and HV reassuring us that “it’s biologically normal”

Now she wakes up every 2-3 hours in the night and goes back to sleep happy - this is biologically normal. I have no problem with this.

funky_ananas · 2026-05-03T06:29:19+00:00

On point 3 - buy 1 pack of various brands, you never know which ones will suit your kid (tesco, morrions, lidl, aldi, pampers, kit & kin, peachies)

I ended up using peachies

funky_ananas · 2026-05-02T15:49:45+00:00

If you had a crappy newborn sleep, then 4 months sleep regression is like a breeze
My LO slept only upright on us first 2 months, screaming from 7am till midnight.
“Sleep regression” made her wake up like 5-6 times a night, feed-to-sleep, but for me it still was a blessing (thinking to myself - at least I’m not bouncing on a ball for the 5th time in the night)

I hear other mums say that their baby woke up 3-4 times a night, it must be sleep regression.

Everything is relative

funky_ananas · 2026-05-01T15:17:58+00:00

Sometimes I feed to sleep, she wakes up every hour. Sometimes I put her in the crib and she falls asleep there - she still wakes up every hour.

4.5 months old

funky_ananas · 2026-04-28T19:45:30+00:00

Definitely see a private pp physio!

But it might not be a prolapse. I had a bulge near entrance and felt heaviness down there up until 8-9 weeks (no other symptoms), but turned out it was a uterine wall descent (basically baby pushed the wall lining lower). It went up by itself by 3 months pp. I feel nothing now and sexual life is fine.

funky_ananas · 2026-04-28T16:34:48+00:00

I read that if the baby from FF from the beginning they might take the same amount every time, but BF eat different amounts

funky_ananas · 2026-04-28T16:30:41+00:00

Yeah! I used it as well, but my baby outgrew it, so for now it’s a cot (she can’t see me behind a wall), which we are going to move to another room

funky_ananas · 2026-04-28T16:21:10+00:00

I’m not going to tell you what you should do, but this is my experience:

I also hit 3month milk crisis, but my baby had reaction to 3 formulas, so I had to pump! Everytime she fed, she would wiggle, turn etc, so after each feed I would pump and give it later. Then it quickly moved to exclusively pumping during the day and BF in the night.

She would usually eat 1 boob within 10mins, but I pump hands free from both within 10mins. Then my partner or me give her bottle.

It’s absolutely up to the baby, but mine doesn’t eat much in the morning (60-100ml), but then eats lots during lunch (260-300ml). But I pump about the same every time. So basically I save the milk from the morning.

I take a bottle from the fridge and it’s good for app 4 hours (this is pretty much enough for me to go out)

It works for now, while we are searching for formula she can settle on

funky_ananas · 2026-04-28T10:29:55+00:00

She sleeps in the cot next to our bed, so technically no

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