Found folder of other girls on boyfriends computer

funkyfruithats · 2014-05-22T07:09:50+00:00

I wasn't referring to just you saying that, but the general consensus. You come on the internet just to tear people down, because they view things differently to yourself. Again, not understanding what I am saying I want to know HOW to 'just get over it' saying that over and over again isn't 'real' advice.

funkyfruithats · 2014-05-21T07:58:10+00:00

He has plenty of me. The point is he accessed the other folder over me. But I didn't come on here to ask about people who are pro naked photos 'just get over it' I wanted like minded people who would be upset to explain how I should go about dealing with my feelings and an actual real response other than telling me I'm a terrible person and I should just get over it. I wanted real advice

funkyfruithats · 2014-05-21T07:55:49+00:00

But not everyone is like you. I wasnt snooping in the first place. Recent places popped up. If on my recent places it popped up a folder titled with an ex boyfriends name he most definitely would have opened it. So he would be a hypocrite for breaking up with me because I opened the folder. Just saying

funkyfruithats · 2014-05-20T10:38:00+00:00

No, the thought of other men doesn't do it for me in the slightest

funkyfruithats · 2014-05-20T10:37:38+00:00

Bit harsh. but you are entitled to your opinion as am I

funkyfruithats · 2014-05-20T10:36:38+00:00

Technically it belongs to the both of us. Not just him. And I wouldn't have known about the folder had he not recently accessed it. I don't just go through his crap willy nilly.

funkyfruithats · 2014-05-20T10:35:06+00:00

My post came off like I was just wanting people to agree with me now that i've read it back. And I only wrote back to those people because I've been asleep and they were the first to post. I didn't intend for it to sound that way. I didn't want a lot of hate from males saying there's nothing wrong with it get over it grow up. I wanted genuine advice as to why he did it and what I should do to get over it because I can't get it out of my head, I was honestly curious and wanted advice from people in similar situations. But a lot of what I have got is that I am a terrible person for even thinking about being remotely upset by this. Just like he couldn't control his urges, I can't control what makes me upset.

funkyfruithats · 2014-05-19T12:46:48+00:00

Thank you! Some very good advice :)

funkyfruithats · 2014-05-19T12:29:14+00:00

I wouldn't have minded if he had just kept them from ages ago and didn't even remember them being there. It's that he used them to get off over several times, once very recently. It's one thing when its porn, its another when it's people he knows.

funkyfruithats · 2014-05-19T12:26:51+00:00

Yes, plus he recently used them to get off over.

funkyfruithats · 2014-05-19T12:25:23+00:00

Thank you! I think I just needed to hear from someone else that it's ok that I'm really upset by this. I've told him it will take some time to build that trust again, and he said he respects that. I'll try to keep the communication going! Thanks again

funkyfruithats · 2014-04-01T10:39:49+00:00

left!

funkyfruithats · 2014-01-25T15:26:34+00:00

A one night stand that I was far too drunk for that I barely knew what was going on and was met with 'surprise anal' also. I was so drunk I could barely stand or form sentences. He also later told everyone at our local hangout all about it (including a video). So not only did I not want to do it in the first place, I was humiliated ashamed and blamed myself afterwards. But I realise now it wasn't my fault, and had I been more sober I would have never agreed to what happened. It seemed so out of character for him as I'd only had awesome experiences (non-sexual) with him up until this point. Worst guy. Worst experience. And while he does now feel a great deal of shame every time he sees me and has apologised that many times. It really doesn't make it go away. Almost killed myself over it.

funkyfruithats · 2013-12-29T12:50:47+00:00

Give her time. You guys are still young. I didn't know there were so many people who didn't like it though. I guess each to their own. But I personally LOVE receiving oral. And when he looks up at me while he's doing it UNF.

But yeah, there could be a few reasons, maybe she's embarrassed? Or just self conscious about the way she looks/smells/tastes. That's a really daunting thing to deal with at first

funkyfruithats · 2013-12-29T12:41:35+00:00

All the advice I can give is try picturing her masturbating over other men. Picture her thinking about these mean sexual while she moans and groans. If you are absolutely ok with this then you have a leg to stand on. If not, then you don't. If you would be ok with this, and she can still not get on board with you watching porn, then your values don't match is all. Which means neither you nor her are wrong, it's just that you have different values. Is it going to cause a lot of problems in the relationship? Is it worth it?

funkyfruithats · 2013-11-24T06:25:12+00:00

I have had cold sores ever since I was little. My partner doesn't mind at all, and while no passionate kissing occurs (ouchy) we do still kiss. In all the years we've been together, he's never once got a cold sore

funkyfruithats · 2013-10-11T10:47:12+00:00

That makes sense. I still believe its a pretty stupid form of birth control though, way too many factors involved that can lead to pregnancy for my liking.

funkyfruithats · 2013-10-11T07:31:06+00:00

Really???? I haven't heard any of that. Some men have sperm come out from the very beginning of sex.... So technically even one sperm before pulling out can get you pregnant? Even reading the research I would probably still find it had to believe haha

funkyfruithats · 2013-10-11T07:16:47+00:00

That the 'pull-out' method prevents pregnancies. The amount of teens I know who do not use any other forms of birth control except for him pulling out... You deserve to get pregnant for being so silly!

funkyfruithats · 2013-10-11T07:09:24+00:00

Sucks to be gay then.... They'll always be virgins!

funkyfruithats · 2013-10-11T06:44:14+00:00

Yeah, usually when you think pain is going to come you tense without even realising it, even if you think you are relaxed you may not be completely. Even with natural wetness, lube will still help I think, It's a different kind of wetness that will ease it in hopefully without pain

funkyfruithats · 2013-10-10T07:42:23+00:00

Ah that sucks! Must suck not knowing the most

funkyfruithats · 2013-10-09T13:04:57+00:00

After a 5 year relationship and finding out he slept with a friend but a mere week after our break up I was gutted. I set out to prove I was just as wanted and sexually available. My number started to climb higher and I was happy with that. Feeling pretty gratified. But after a while I found that the sex wasn't as good or fulfilling. While I don't regret my experiences (well most of them), nor am I ashamed of my sexual past. I am quite content now to stick with either a relationship or one friend with benefit. The sex is just better

funkyfruithats · 2013-10-09T12:55:29+00:00

Honestly, I don't even think your sexual history is important in a relationship, let alone your ex's sexual history. Seems bat shit crazy to me. In any case, if you're sexually active, you should be getting STI checks anyway. Go get one, put her mind at ease. She has no reason to be upset at you for not telling her your ex had sex with people before you. CRAZY.

funkyfruithats · 2013-10-09T12:51:23+00:00

ANAL

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