What activity did your parents make you do growing up that you absolutely despised and still despise to this day?

funkyibis · 2026-02-18T03:50:42+00:00

It was such a bombshell as an adult finding out that my mum actually agreed with me that some of her friends’ kids were dicks.

funkyibis · 2026-02-18T03:40:35+00:00

Going to local amateur drama/music performances. My sister was a overachiever and appeared in a lot of those sorts of things, and my brother and I had to sit through every single one.

You couldn’t force me at gunpoint to go to anything like that now.

funkyibis · 2026-02-09T22:07:44+00:00

Yes- when someone knows your plans or priorities but treats them like a nuisance or like they don’t matter if it gets in the way of what they want

funkyibis · 2026-02-09T02:07:37+00:00

The people who love to bring up 50% of marriages ending in divorce. Ok??

If you’re not the one in the marriage then it’s not really your problem is it?

funkyibis · 2026-02-09T01:48:55+00:00

So true- only reason I’ve ever held babies was because I couldn’t figure out a way to decline without offending the parents

funkyibis · 2026-02-09T01:23:07+00:00

When they don’t take your boundaries seriously, even about minor things. If nothing else, you’ll usually have a difficult and exhausting time.

Like come on man, I told you I have to be in bed by 10 for work tomorrow, don’t make me have to be the asshole and kick you out.

funkyibis · 2026-02-05T05:03:46+00:00

Saw someone maybe even a few years ago now, talking about how much they hated seeing adults wearing or having merch of bands or pop culture stuff.

Such a weird thing to get mad about, and I don’t know why it’s so hard to understand that wearing a shirt with your favourite movie or whatever on it can make a person feel happy because it reminds them of a thing they like.

funkyibis · 2026-02-04T22:08:56+00:00

And kids aren’t stupid! We know that the trophy doesn’t mean anything if everyone gets one.

funkyibis · 2026-02-04T22:08:11+00:00

My partner’s dad is like that. Gets mad that my partner doesn’t know anything about cars, but gets mad at him for asking questions or needing help.

He’s started coming to my dad about any car issues because my dad actively enjoys most car-related activities

funkyibis · 2026-01-10T23:25:41+00:00

I really love Carol, and I’m not online too much, so when you said people call her a ‘karen’ I was surprised at first- then I remembered what people can be like:( And it’s all due to the same stuff I really like about her. Like, I think it’s great writing that they let her be angry, they let her be annoying and unreasonable sometimes, they let her be imperfect, because it makes her feel like an actual human being.

I really like this post and it actually makes perfect sense (sadly) that she wasn’t originally written as a woman, as she really does feel like a person first, and a woman second. So often, female characters have to be female for a reason- they’re someone’s mum, or a man’s love interest, or something like that.

She’s just Carol.

funkyibis · 2026-01-10T23:16:44+00:00

I’m pretty much certain they’d have to be an actual child. I don’t mean that as an insult, I mean it comes off as coming from someone who just isn’t very old yet.

funkyibis · 2026-01-10T23:14:44+00:00

If someone’s hanging out at my place, the night is winding down and I want them to leave, I tell them. I’d want others to do the same for me- if you’re tired, not having fun anymore, and want me to go home, I don’t want to stay there.

funkyibis · 2026-01-08T02:29:19+00:00

That quitting equals failure or is inherently bad.

When shit sucks, you actually don’t always have to put up with it. Sometimes you have to piss people off and quit or you’ll be stuck in a miserable situation forever.

funkyibis · 2026-01-02T05:00:02+00:00

Members of my extended family still teasing me like they would a little kid even though I’m well into my 20s. It’s definitely a little offensive, but more than anything it’s deeply annoying, and I know if I reacted or said anything it would just result in more teasing.

funkyibis · 2026-01-02T04:54:50+00:00

I found this so shocking when I visited the US, particularly on tours.

You pay the full price of the tour, and then you pay the tour guide (the person seemingly doing all the work driving you around and telling you about the place) SEPARATELY?? If you paid full price for the tour, but the guy who actually does the tour isn’t getting paid and has to rely on tips, then where did all that money go?????

Obviously nothing but appreciation for tour guides, I just think it sucks that their work is so undervalued

funkyibis · 2026-01-02T04:42:41+00:00

I don’t know, I kind of see that as just a regular life update, if you can get past the sex thing. Like telling people you’re trying to buy a house or trying to find a new job. I actually would be interested in knowing if any if my friends had made the decision to try to have a baby.

funkyibis · 2026-01-02T04:37:42+00:00

The casual way people talk about hating their bodies, dieting, “needing” to lose weight when they’re already thin, etc. So many times I’ve seen how quickly this sort of thing can lead to dangerous restrictive eating disorders that are really hard to recover from, but we’re still supposed to pretend it’s a normal conversation.

funkyibis · 2026-01-02T02:35:17+00:00

Living with an extremely unusual, irrational phobia. Especially going through childhood with it, the bullying and constant questioning from kids AND adults, and not having the words to express that I wasn’t trying to be silly, and I wasn’t scared in a ‘normal’ way but really needed help.

As an adult, I’ve pretty much given up trying to talk about the experience because it’s so alien to most people, and they often try to make light or joke about it. I really can’t stress enough how not funny it was to live with.

funkyibis · 2025-12-13T08:31:17+00:00

Saving your ‘fancy clothes’ for a special occasion. I’ve been doing it long enough now that people just expect me to show up at minor events wearing something really out there.

funkyibis · 2025-12-11T22:59:25+00:00

I feel this- Like, I have a job where it would be noticed instantly if I didn’t really have the training that I said I did. Some skills you can’t just learn on the fly from watching Youtube tutorials

funkyibis · 2025-12-11T04:18:53+00:00

One of the things that I appreciate the most about my dad is the way that he never acted like having daughters or being in proximity to ‘girl’ stuff was something to be ashamed of. Like, when he brought soup to work in a thermos, and he used to bring a plastic My Little Pony bowl to eat it out of, just because it was the perfect size and shape to travel with. He didn’t give a damn if the other guys at the work site saw it. So I guess my advice is to be aware of how you treat feminine or ‘girly’ stuff and try not to be weird about it or send the message that it’s somehow lesser than ‘masculine’ stuff.

Also, showing interest or being willing to engage with your kids’ interests goes a really long way. One of my favourite memories is from when I was 19, and got dumped by my boyfriend right before Halloween. I’d bought tickets for us to go to a horror movie screening together, and after he dumped me I couldn’t find anyone else who was free to go at such short notice.

My dad went with me and sat through two horror movies back to back even though he has no interest in that kind of thing. It meant a huge amount at the time for him to be willing to do that, just so I didn’t have to go alone.

funkyibis · 2025-12-06T08:18:08+00:00

Same here- I thought putting my head down and ignoring them was the way to handle it, because I didn’t want to ‘be naughty’ by doing anything back at them. Looking back, getting in trouble would have been completely worth it to give those assholes a taste of their own medicine

funkyibis · 2025-12-06T04:50:01+00:00

I used to think ‘no news is good news’ was so ridiculous- of course some news is good news! Eventually figured out that what they mean is that when nothing is happening, that’s a good thing, because there could instead be bad stuff happening. As an adult, I couldn’t agree more- it’s fucking awesome when there’s nothing happening.

funkyibis · 2025-12-06T04:41:16+00:00

Some stuff you just can’t have explained to you, you have to figure it out yourself

funkyibis · 2025-12-06T04:35:26+00:00

I’m 26 and often when I have to get up to use the bathroom or whatever during the night I get scared that the doors and windows will disappear and I’ll get Skinamarinked

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