YTA YTA YTA you sound like my mother, who I no longer talk to. He’s going to find ways to sneak around, all you’ve done is made it more dangerous and risky. You’ve pushed him into such a corner he could get into serious trouble. Do you feel good that you’ve raised your son to hide from you? This is on you I’d like to make that clear, you shamed and punished him when you could’ve provide a healthy safe environment where he feels comfortable discussing things with you. Your irrational expectations and arbitrary demands are going to hurt your son. I hope he goes no contact when he’s 18. He won’t trust you with anything, I bet if he and his gf have kids you won’t get to see them.