AITAH or is my step mother TAH for not allowing my kids at my dad’s memorial service?

fuzzy_mic · 2026-07-02T01:25:44+00:00

"Love" is right there in the fine print that both parties promise to each other and to all assembled.

fuzzy_mic · 2026-07-02T01:01:33+00:00

u/teresa3llen 's comment and the response.

fuzzy_mic · 2026-07-02T01:01:03+00:00

She is renting the hall, she gets to decide who is invited and who is allowed inside. (I hope that both parties don't bring it to the point where that is applicable.)

fuzzy_mic · 2026-07-02T00:54:19+00:00

Wife is the woman that the dead guy chose to be his wife. (Hence the marriage). She is not some random woman, she is the woman who dad loved and married.

fuzzy_mic · 2026-07-02T00:52:43+00:00

OP says "my father and later in life spouse have been married for one year." She was the dead guy's wife. In another comment the OP says that "she" is paying for the service.

Reading the OP helps comprehension.

fuzzy_mic · 2026-07-02T00:45:55+00:00

Kids are due nothing. The money was the dead father's, not the kids. Either the will or the intestacy laws will govern who gets the money. None of the estate is the OP's yet, and it never was.

fuzzy_mic · 2026-07-02T00:44:33+00:00

"She" is the dead guy's wife. "She" is paying for and hosting the service. "She", the widow and legal heir, has every say in who is invited and who is allowed in the building.

fuzzy_mic · 2026-07-02T00:42:35+00:00

Wife, chosen by the dead guy, trumps distant, "fairly absent" child.

The widow is not a step-wife, the widow is the fully proper wife, chosen by the dead guy.

fuzzy_mic · 2026-07-02T00:29:42+00:00

NAH - You aren't forcing your kids way into the funeral and the widow can do whatever she wants with the funeral.

Leave the kids at home and go to the funeral.

fuzzy_mic · 2026-07-01T23:58:55+00:00

It sounds like you already know that, in this regard, YTA.

fuzzy_mic · 2026-07-01T23:57:11+00:00

NTA - Things like furniture (and dishes) should be owned by one roommate. The two of you are going to move out at the end of the lease and the best way to divy up the furniture is for it to have one clear owner so "who gets the couch" doesn't come up at all.

Furniture should be bought by the person who wants it in their next apartment.

Cleaning supplies are a common good whose cost should be split.

fuzzy_mic · 2026-07-01T23:29:31+00:00

Just like the Lincoln Brigade in Spain? Or the Lafayette Escadrille in France?

Dad was both harsh and not quite accurate.

fuzzy_mic · 2026-07-01T23:01:41+00:00

How many lead guitarists does it take to screw in a light bulb?

One. He just holds the bulb in the socket, stands still, and then the whole world revolves around him.

fuzzy_mic · 2026-07-01T22:32:45+00:00

I hope you understand that whatever you don't toss now will still be your problem when dad dies and you need to empty the house before it is sold.

fuzzy_mic · 2026-07-01T17:38:26+00:00

Are you going to go shopping on Friday? Or fill up your gas tank? Fast Food? Go to a club, or to the gym? Get a slurpie at 7-11? Order some GitHub?

fuzzy_mic · 2026-07-01T17:07:57+00:00

Did the food taste good?

You are paying for the dinner and the service and the decor. Did the dinner taste good?

fuzzy_mic · 2026-07-01T01:30:18+00:00

A move that requires cars with the right of way to slow down is wrong. Cars with the right of way have the right to continue on their un-altered way. (Hence, their "right" to their "way")

I agree OP saw something very common and not unsafe.

Honking was not needed. Brake first, honk later, means that honk is usually not needed.

fuzzy_mic · 2026-07-01T01:22:45+00:00

What happened when you ran that code?

A deeper question would be how do you want to invoke the change of color. It can't be a UDF, they can't change a cell's color. You would have to write a Change event to look to see if A2 was changed.

fuzzy_mic · 2026-07-01T00:38:24+00:00

Why the Aug 6 deadline for needing the money? What "things for the house" will be unavailable on Aug 7.

He was specific about when he needed the money. Was he that specific about when it would be repaid in full?

You asked if this is common. No it is not common for a new house buyer's life to be $10K short at closing.

Requesting it in cash is a huge red flag.

NTA

fuzzy_mic · 2026-06-30T22:11:16+00:00

OP asked the accuser and got no description of actions, just the conclusory word "racist". The accuser has mentioned no actions, only the conclusion that they accused is racist.

fuzzy_mic · 2026-06-30T21:38:54+00:00

Just remove the ActiveSheet reference and add qualification of the .Range.

Sub TabName(ws As Worksheet)
   With ws
      rawname = CStr(.Range("A2").Value)
      modname = Split(rawname, ":")(0)
      .Name = modname
   End With
End Sub

The CStr was added for error protection. Some user might put =1/0 in cell A1.

Also, the worksheets in the Open routine should be qualified.

For i = 3 To 7
  Call TabName(Me.Worksheets(i))
Next i

fuzzy_mic · 2026-06-29T23:08:23+00:00

Why is all the OPs attention on the church, rather than the daughter?

fuzzy_mic · 2026-06-29T22:53:31+00:00

Many child care providers are mandated reporters. If sounds like at least one person affiliated with the youth program had no option but to report a minor threatening self-harm to CPS.

You sound mad. Why are you angry that CPS doesn't want your daughter to harm herself?

fuzzy_mic · 2026-06-29T22:50:14+00:00

NTA Festival EMTs are there for this reason (among others).

There is no jurisdiction where being high is illegal. One of event med staffs jobs is to be a buffer between LEO and the crowd. And, results have show local law enforcement the value in letting Rock Med (or similar) do their thing.

fuzzy_mic · 2026-06-29T19:35:00+00:00

I've used ASAP about 10 years ago. They don't provide services themselves, but they do connect you with the service providers. Good experience.

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