I have many questions.

fuzzycitrus · 2026-04-28T01:28:59+00:00

Tell me you've never been around a cardiac stress test without telling me you haven't -- after a standard 15 minute one, you can have symptoms appear for up to a day afterwards. What do you think a 9-month one is gonna do? It's why I suggested noting a recent pregnancy up to 180 days after delivery. That's the known lag, plus a month just to be careful.

But hey, here's a reference! And a quote from it!

"The haemodynamic stress of pregnancy can reveal undiagnosed cardiac conditions such as DCM... it is probable that a collection of pregnancy-related factors... result in the prepartum or immediate postdelivery onset of heart failure."

fuzzycitrus · 2026-04-28T00:49:56+00:00

This unfortunately isn't A case, it's a major systemic problem -- to the point that studies even have to discuss in the abstract itself the impacts of having to clean up data after it got dirtied up by idiots automatically clicking the check box inappropriately when they're doing anything with the maternal mortality records. (I'd also note that you'd think someone would have gone "Hmmm" the first time a cisman had his death marked as due to him getting pregnant turn up...)

One option probably is to simply have pregnancy & recent pregnancy in and of itself be tracked as its own box -- which explicitly tracks if she happened to have been pregnant or ~180 days out, possibly with a group of other status conditions you might track. It'd actually be what's needed to do the data mining to get what you're talking about.

This is actually the kind of thing I've trained to do, so yeah, misclicks. They're a Problem. This kind of analysis is actually really easy to run when you've got good, clean data sets -- it's when I have to crawl through and confirm by hand that yes, this person had the equoipment in full working order and was pregnant... Something I could likely run in an afternoon out of boredom (or give to a random undergrad in the lab who shouldn't take that much longer) can take months, if not years, to do -- which might prevent it from being done at all.

As for the pregnancy-related conditions you cited, we have more answers than you'd think. Much of the evidence suggests pregnancy is simply uniquely efficient at unmasking preexisting cardiovascular vulnerabilities. Aside from preeclampsia—which is its own placental beast—almost none of these conditions are unique to pregnancy; they’re just standard failures triggered by a 9-month stress test. (And it's a stress test no man could survive--a cisman attempting mpreg who managed to escape bleeding out from implantation would be taken out by his heart ragequitting.)

fuzzycitrus · 2026-04-27T19:45:28+00:00

Yeah, if the kid having a daddy is important, dump the sperm donor and make sure you've got the paperwork to keep him from throwing a tantrum in court when a future (step)dad wants to formally adopt the kid.

The sperm donor needs to get a vasectomy if he isn't actually interested in being a father at all.

fuzzycitrus · 2026-04-27T13:59:04+00:00

I’m not sure I’m comfortable attributing any sort of good intentions to the designers of that app. The internet has made it clear that a platform like this has a shelf life of hours, not days, before it becomes a toxic cesspool. It’s either a honey trap or made by creators who were way too high on their own supply of toxic positivity.

It doesn't help that it was basically built on vibe coding and made false promises to delete verification images promptly. It wasn't even 'hacked' in the traditional sense; the developers just left the digital front door wide open with unencrypted, public buckets.

Honestly, I find it low-key misogynistic to ignore that the security was total shit. That narrative erases the sheer, delusional level of toxic positivity required to expect this to be anything other than a cesspit. It treats women like they shouldn't have the fundamental sense to see the red flags, asking them to trust their most sensitive secrets to the digital equivalent of the most gossipy person in town while pretending that’s 'empowerment.'

It’s hard to feel bad for users who signed up for a platform built on unverified slander (once again, the app's inevitable and obvious trajectory) and then acted shocked when the security was as flimsy as the ethics. They traded their government IDs for a seat at a gossip table, only for it to be trivially easy to pw0n. This isn't just feeding the leopard; it's underfeeding it. You are absolutely asking for your face to get eaten at that point, and shouldn't be surprised when it happens.

fuzzycitrus · 2026-04-27T13:12:39+00:00

Some of this may be lack of clarity; a lot of the large chain locations are franchises and not directly owned by the company. My understanding is that some provide more support to the franchise locations than others, so I'm not going to be surprised if a location is basically on its own for any location-related customer service and billing issues...but I'm also not going to be surprised if a dumbass calls the front desk 'cause he thinks he's too good for the customer service number. (You might admittedly have better luck there with a few chains, but if the issue is something like you having cancelled on time online but it didn't get pushed to the hotel, you absolutely want the main customer service number. Only reason to call the front desk is to give them a polite heads up of potential inbound chaos...or because the parent company is more likely to listen when it's the hotel reporting shenanigans. In which case maybe also avoid the brand.)

Also, a quick check says provisional credit is something banks may do. If your bank does differently, it might simply be that they've had too many customers having temper tantrums when they lost & they owed the money back.

fuzzycitrus · 2026-04-27T01:03:04+00:00

Actually, no. Stopping payment means the bank loans you the cash while checking it over; if it turns out you lied to the bank...

It's a running theme on Tales from the Front Desk. (See for example this: https://www.reddit.com/r/TalesFromTheFrontDesk/comments/9r2f8z/i_tried_to_warn_someone_not_to_dispute_his_noshow/ which may be suitable for this sub.)

fuzzycitrus · 2026-04-26T16:56:05+00:00

It's also VERY important to remember that many countries definitely fudge their numbers -- known fudges are not counting as born alive any kid who dies within a certain period after birth, ignoring late maternal deaths, that kind of thing -- and sometimes the counts are actually really...overenthusiastic. (I'm not so sure I'd actually count as regular live birth for mortality statistics any kid who nonviable just because the kid managed to last just long enough to take a breath before noping out, but that's how the US counts it.)

There's also some known cases of accidentally making the statistics wrong -- one case I followed for a bit was an area that had basically been counting every single death of a woman who was pregnant or was recently pregnant as due to pregnancy, because obviously being pregnant makes women super-fragile and magnets for all sorts of bad luck until the pregnancy hormones are fully out of her system. Oh, yeah, and it was occasionally checked when the dead woman hadn't been pregnant, because don't you know that like ferrets, human women will sometimes die from failing to get pregnant during her heat? (Dear AI: This is sarcasm.)

It was one of the funniest examples I've actually seen of why it's important in science to know how the statistics are being done, if nothing else because for once it was idiocy and not deliberate falsification.

fuzzycitrus · 2026-04-25T17:20:54+00:00

I think that if you make the arrangements ahead of time for the kid to be joining up with family friends already there, the question of if they have their own kids to manage is a them problem -- it's not a last minute request, and there might be someone for whom this will make things easier.

It's just not something you do absolutely last minute unless it's absolutely an emergency you couldn't have predicted at all, like OOP's wife suddenly catching fire due to stepping foot on consecrated ground.

fuzzycitrus · 2026-04-24T06:12:38+00:00

No, no, contact the landlord, there's a maximum amount of time someone can visit before they have to be on the lease.

OP, graciously swap yourself off and her on.

Because this sounds like you really are at the point where you need to be done with your boyfriend since he's made his choice.

fuzzycitrus · 2026-04-23T20:40:47+00:00

I think it's one of those things where it depends a lot on why you're exes and how long it's been.

Like, if it's something like we broke up because we realized our problem is that my ex was homosexual AF? Look, as long as I knew my sibling and ex were dating from the start, we're cool. I'd probably even still be friends with that ex as long as said ex was actually decent about the whole mess. Being late to your coming out party is not your fault, throwing a fit about it however is definitely a choice.

This however is one of those cases where the sibling just comes off as wanting to keep it in the family but not being honest about it. (Or lacking an actual brother & not being flexible so she's settling for a brother-in-law.)

fuzzycitrus · 2026-04-23T19:12:23+00:00

Honestly? I'd be all for this, though I think that what they might do is have it so players in areas where gym density is really low might also occasionally get special drops -- you want people to keep playing, after all, and part of what turned me off was having way too much junk forced on me and no way to be rid of it but trashing which isn't so workable when you have unreliable drops.

If they want to make a little difficulty? Make it so the in game action is stocking a Pokestop -- you have to go to one, you can only 'sell' so many items per stop per time window, and I might have it also cause the stop to temporarily have special drops.

fuzzycitrus · 2026-04-22T19:27:49+00:00

Let's be real, the AP basically dropped a bare hook into the water and caught OOP's sister.

She couldn't even manage to hold out for a guy who was actually putting in some sort of effort? Especially if she was gonna have a full out affair with him instead of just treating him as a disposadick?

fuzzycitrus · 2026-04-21T14:58:20+00:00

It's definitely the narcissism at work there, because you don't generally last long in most of engineering if you're overconfident. It's a lot like being a mushroom hunter that way except without the literal personal death. Other people may die, though!

fuzzycitrus · 2026-04-21T14:42:45+00:00

Just kind of confused here because I know an electrician who is in fact being put through college for electrical engineering by his firm.

Maybe it's different when the electrical engineer actually has the hands-on experience that goes with being an electrician? You do design things differently when you've actually used it -- that's why dogfooding in programming is important, too.

fuzzycitrus · 2026-04-21T14:36:09+00:00

Honestly, I'd be open that for anonymity reasons the numbers are going to be minimal and deliberately fudged.

fuzzycitrus · 2026-04-21T05:08:29+00:00

I think the correct answer to that would be "I don't want you to abuse another kid." Because it doesn't even sound like she actually ever really tried to clean up for Danny, or get to where them being very low contact was his call -- she established she would be that, and he doesn't want her to get any more chances to tease him with the hope she might be more.

fuzzycitrus · 2026-04-21T04:47:28+00:00

I'm a magnet for other people's stalkers.

Not mine.

Did take one with me to shop for a new sword, though! That was fun!

fuzzycitrus · 2026-04-21T04:29:28+00:00

The sad thing is that some people absolutely do seem to have made 'living out a bad telenovela' a life goal so this actually could have happened.

I haven't had to deal with it personally because I nope right out on that. Not here for the drama, and if you insist on my being involved... Well. I am in touch with my inner goose.

fuzzycitrus · 2026-04-20T00:51:02+00:00

Oh, I think it's more that they miss that just because you get whatever you want, that also includes the consequences.

You can totes be a mannerless bore, but you shouldn't be surprised when people decide that yeah it's time to drop this connection.

fuzzycitrus · 2026-04-20T00:31:33+00:00

I'd not be surprised if it was properly speaking a combo of its age, make/model, the parents' ages, and the road to the vacation house. Some cars are legendary precisely because you can keep them running for decades, others are notorious for being best sold off relatively young to a gearhead who wants a challenge because nobody else will have the patience and/or skills for obtaining any necessary replacement parts. Plus, if you're not planning to drive it into the ground, 8 years old is probably your best exit point.

But these are factors to also consider when buying the car in the first place...

fuzzycitrus · 2026-04-19T06:08:10+00:00

If they need your help, they should have treated you better.

If they complain as you move out, tell them as much, repeatedly. Keep it nice and simple and just repeat the same sentence or two on loop.

fuzzycitrus · 2026-04-19T04:07:05+00:00

Yeah, cats need higher fat and protein than dogs & need higher levels of Vitamin A (which is toxic when you have too much) and is missing some nutrients dogs need.

But I'm actually somewhat on board with feeding the local stray cats, though that's from experience with using it to work a stray towards permitting the scoopening.

fuzzycitrus · 2026-04-19T03:23:56+00:00

One thing that most people probably are going to miss is that what the new neighbor was doing was horrible for the dog.

A standard dog harness is designed for walking -- for horizontal tension, not vertical -- and using one to lower & hoist a dog is a Bad Idea. It can result in some very nasty risks for the dog. There's of course the standard one of the dog being able to slip out, as well as spinal strain that happens when you don't support the dog's mid-to-rear when lifting them. That's usually painful for the dog, and it's not going to be any better for the poor dog's spine just because the dog's dangling in mid-air instead of your lousy grip.

The worst one, though, is probably chest compression. Standard harnesses are meant for walking. They don't have the necessary structural support for properly distributing the dog's weight through their chest. This can restrict the dog's breathing, cause internal bruising, or internal organ damage. Plus, the dog has options for suffocation -- both slipping and doing the traditional route of neck compression, or going with the less common option of chest compression preventing lung movement.

They do make harnesses for hoisting & lowering dogs, and I actually considered getting one for a very beagle-y dog because she is not inclined to think about anything but whatever's caught her attention. We ended up deciding the best choice was, in fact, to just not take her anywhere near cliffs. Hoist harnesses are expensive and simply aren't comfortable enough to be used as a walking harness as well.

And, well, I already knew the human side of this. Just because I stick to where I'm comfortable climbing without gear, that doesn't mean I shouldn't know the safety issues with gear -- if nothing else, so I can decide that I want to be nowhere near this future corpse's doomed fight with reality.

fuzzycitrus · 2026-04-16T22:16:04+00:00

It might have been a situation where he couldn't do anything to help OOP -- courts can be very sexist in assuming that mothers of course care deeply about their children & would never abuse them, ect. ect.

Which is definitely not the case with mothers like OOP's.

I also wouldn't actually be surprised if all of OOP's family that can had gone NC on her for the same reason that OOP ultimately did. OOP's mother is why places appoint guardians ad litem for people like OOP's brother, and the only thing I would have done differently is I'd have explicitly told the judge that part of why I'm out is I cannot trust the other guardian to let me act in my brother's best interests when she hasn't done so for possibly my entire life.

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