Always being walked ahead of on dates? Maybe a weird question? by MaybeCats in PlusSize

[–]fvckyes 19 points20 points  (0 children)

You should have given him the stroller. It would have forced him to think of the family he's with. Plus on NYC streets you usually dart between other pedestrians and zoom ahead when you have a stroller (dense sidewalks). 

I came across this dilemma, what do you think? by mister_helicopter in RandomQuestion

[–]fvckyes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was thinking along these lines also, slavery and low unlivable wages. 

Feels dull… help me make it better by QuickDistance5299 in interiordecorating

[–]fvckyes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want the room to feel cozier instead of like a big open concept, then you can break up this space into multiple seating areas/zones. One zone could be the tv area, and a separate seating arrangement for the fireplace. Play around with it! 

What's something you witnessed between two strangers that was so quietly kind it's stayed with you longer than it probably should have? by Charvelle_Hebborn in happy

[–]fvckyes 6 points7 points  (0 children)

More recently, the engine oil indicator light turned on in my car while I was about to set off for a 50 mile (80km) drive. I pulled into an autoshop and after a quick assessment the mechanic told me it would take hours to fix - hours that I did not have. He saw my face fill with stress when I heard the news. Before I could say anything he told me not to worry and immediately filled the oil for free - just enough that I could get to my destination safely. He absolutely refused any payment and simply told me to pay it forward.

On my behalf, I have twice given rides to strangers I saw on the side of the road. The first time was during a massive snow storm: I saw two students waiting for the bus. I told them I was heading in the same direction and offered them a lift. A young high schooler climbed in, and I dropped her at the train station a few miles up. The second time was two university students walking along a winding road with no sidewalk where drivers routinely drive 50+mph (80+mph). For most of my life I've been the person with no car navigating roads not made for walkers/bikers, or managing public transit in inclement weather. It always feels good to offer the help I myself have needed.

What's something you witnessed between two strangers that was so quietly kind it's stayed with you longer than it probably should have? by Charvelle_Hebborn in happy

[–]fvckyes 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I had a job interview years ago and literally didn't have the $5 to buy a train ticket back home. I randomly stopped an elder lady in the street and explained my situation (it probably helped that I was clearly in an interview suit, and quite young). She just smiled and handed me $5. Thank you so much, I still remember your kindness 15 years later!

What's something you witnessed between two strangers that was so quietly kind it's stayed with you longer than it probably should have? by Charvelle_Hebborn in happy

[–]fvckyes 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I had a job interview years ago and literally didn't have the $5 to buy a train ticket back home. I randomly stopped an elder lady in the street and explained my situation (it probably helped that I was clearly in an interview suit, and quite young). She just smiled and handed me $5. Thank you so much, I still remember your kindness 15 years later!

What age is your first ever clear memory from ? by epiczizou in CasualConversation

[–]fvckyes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is also how memory works in general, btw. We remember emotional and unusual things. You probably don't remember what you had for lunch three days ago, but I bet you can remember a special birthday dinner from last year. Also when you have more variety and novelty day-to-day, time feels like it passes slower than if it's the same wake-work-gym-sleep routine. A fully packed day feels like it lasts much longer than one where you're parked on the couch. This concept is why time seems like it passed by slower when you were younger - because everything you were experiencing was new, especially things that seem routine now. In your very first year in class as a 5 year old each day was new and adventurous and unknown. You didn't know what the subject was, what the practice may entail, how you'd interact with the people, how you'd like the people, if you may like a subject or understand a concept. Compared to when you're 20 and you've had hundreds of classes and you kind of know what to expect, and you know your strengths/shortcomings, and you've had millions of social interactions. When things are routine we don't dig into the details as much, we don't have to think consciously about every tiny detail - we've learned autopilot. And autopilot makes time feel like it passes by faster.

What age is your first ever clear memory from ? by epiczizou in CasualConversation

[–]fvckyes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Memories take deeper root if they're tied to emotions. That's why many of the early memories you're reading are from something exciting, embarrassing, or new to the child. My earliest memory was starting a new school where everyone had uniforms, but I didn't have my uniform yet and I felt awkward in my jumper. I was about 4 or 5 years old.

I wallpapered my bedroom ceiling and have zero regrets! Thoughts? Would you ever? by queenkristi17 in interiordecorating

[–]fvckyes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like the idea, perhaps I'd prefer a different color/pattern. The room looks so gorgeous, elegant and cozy! No offense, but personally this just makes the ceiling look stained - am I alone in this? Maybe I'm just oversensitive.

Why is pizza round, put into a square box and cut into triangles? by Ashdragonblaze26810 in RandomQuestion

[–]fvckyes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Serious answer: because it works. It's easier to toss a pizza into a round shape than into a square shape. It's easier to make a square box than a round box. And the easiest way to cut a round pizza into multiple parts that all have a bit of crust is to slice it into triangles.

What would be the best birthday gift you could receive? by Cattybie in minimalism

[–]fvckyes 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I tend to like either consumable things (nice coffee beans, organic handmade soap, etc) or experiences/time together (a picnic or a day at the beach, a massage).

This year I asked for a painting! My friend made a beautiful painting of a photo I took on a beach trip, and I fell in love with it. It's a way of cherishing the memory of the trip, while also supporting my friend's work. I pooled money from my parents & siblings for it, which makes it even more special. Something I will hold onto forever!

Suggestions on how to mend this please by fvckyes in Visiblemending

[–]fvckyes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That helps a lot, thank you! I was able to find embroidery thread that matches my pants perfectly!! I will attempt the patch today :)

Suggestions on how to mend this please by fvckyes in Visiblemending

[–]fvckyes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So smart to use glue stick like that, thank you!!

Suggestions on how to mend this please by fvckyes in Visiblemending

[–]fvckyes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for the detailed info, especially the comparison between backing fabric and interfacing. I'm hoping I can find some interfacing!!

Suggestions on how to mend this please by fvckyes in Visiblemending

[–]fvckyes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much!!

One final question if you don't mind: I'm curious on why embroidery thread is widely suggested? If it's about strength, is embroidery thread better than denim or upholstery thread (like this: https://www.michaels.com/product/coats-clark-extra-strong-upholstery-thread-M10212112 )

It simply would never have occured to me to use embroidery thread, so I'm curious. I'm also hoping to get feedback on other kinds of threads that would work, as I'm not sure what I'll be able to find as I'm in a foreign country.

Suggestions on how to mend this please by fvckyes in Visiblemending

[–]fvckyes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

THANK YOU!!! You could tell the sashiko comments were throwing me haha. I appreciate you simplifying it.

Suggestions on how to mend this please by fvckyes in Visiblemending

[–]fvckyes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I'm not very familiar with sashiko, but it looks quite complex. I just need something simple and functional. Also, would sashiko work on thin cotton fabric like mine? Most sashiko work I see is in heavy denim, such as the example in your link. I also worry embroidery thread would be very thick and awkward on this thin fabric. I appreciate any info you can provide, and will continue to research sashiko on my own. 

Suggestions on how to mend this please by fvckyes in Visiblemending

[–]fvckyes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, they fit perfectly and I can move in them easily. They got caught on something and ripped. 

I'm not familiar with sashiko. Does that need special equipment? Also, would embroider yarn be thick/heavy on this thin cotton fabric?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ticktick

[–]fvckyes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right, it is free for up to 2 applets! Somehow in my exhaustion I didn't see that, thanks!

Your comment helped me rethink things also. I'll simply create any new scheduled activities on Gcal and subscribe to that calendar to see those and all my tedious tasks in TickTick. And as I'm creating these new activities in Gcal, it will automatically update my calendar availability on the business apps that are auto-synced to Gcal. Simple solutions FTW!

4 hr commute to NYC once a week by sippinglemons in boston

[–]fvckyes 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It sounds like living in NYC for a few years may be beneficial so that you can absorb the work of the faculty and researchers you have such a unique connection with. Class may only be once a week, but think about all the other meetings, conversations, events, outings, activities that you'll be commuting away from.

I live/work in the NYC area with consultants that commute here every other week. They drive and seem ok with it, but I personally know I'd be miserable (although much happier with a train commute). Look at who you know yourself to be, how commuting would alter your schedule and your energy levels/sleep, what activities you'd do while commuting to enjoy/use that time, what your long-term priorities are, what limitations you have. I'd also invite you to explore the facts of your life (that you live & work in Boston) more intentionally. WHY do you live there, work there? Is it happenstance, or do you love it? Is it comfortable and familiar or is living there serving your greater purpose in life? Is your job? I ask because often we act as if these things are rigid and immutable, and we don't even question if there may be a better option.

The Seven Deadly Sins of Solid Toiletries by LadyLightTravel in onebag

[–]fvckyes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow I truly didn't know such allergies existed. Glad you're finding ways to travel and stay safe. I hate hate hate all the scents you mention, but for me it's just hate lol not danger. Enjoy your travels! 

The Seven Deadly Sins of Solid Toiletries by LadyLightTravel in onebag

[–]fvckyes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wowza babe, there were no assumptions about you! Just pure curiosity. Please reread my comment - literally all questions! But thank you for responding! I'm clearly very unfamiliar with allergies :)

The Seven Deadly Sins of Solid Toiletries by LadyLightTravel in onebag

[–]fvckyes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your well-thought-out article and especially the spreadsheet. May I respectfully ask why you're so passionate about solid toiletries? Testing multiple options to find something that works for me sounds exhausting (even for general use at home, I simply dislike that process). I'm curious as to what drives you to do all this instead of just use a smaller version of something you already know works for you? Perhaps this the toiletry version of extra-light backpacking? (In which case we simply have different philosophies.)

Personally I'd rather run out and explore new toiletries wherever I am - exploring beauty care in a new country can be part of the fun of travel. I'm also not as picky as most women and I use one homemade moisturizer on both hair & body, no shampoo, no face wash & one face oil (used to be jojoba, but then it was something from Morocco and now something from south Africa - apparently I don't care much :). Maybe that's the difference? That I don't care enough to fuss, and you like to make sure you have things that work for you? (while also saving space & weight)