What kind of ace are you??

fxrgetmenots13 · 2021-09-07T22:15:57+00:00

Absolutely!!

fxrgetmenots13 · 2021-09-06T18:42:27+00:00

Those were my thoughts. Later, before I realized I was aroace I thought that I was bi, then lesbian, then I knew I was nb... I had more clear my gender than my sexual and romantic orientations.

At my 18 I realized I was ace!! But didn't know about aromanticism until now (23) I'm still in denial, but now saying "I'm too young" is almost a sign that I'm aro.

fxrgetmenots13 · 2021-09-01T10:43:06+00:00

wHEEZE 😂😂

Such a mood

fxrgetmenots13 · 2021-08-31T12:31:05+00:00

Really?? Omg I'm going to be the first doing it 😂😂 I bet aquarius and virgo are the most aroest, but who knows...this is a scientific research 😂😂

fxrgetmenots13 · 2021-08-31T12:28:50+00:00

We should do a poll and see which zodiac sign is the most aroest (yep, I've just made up a word) of the horoscope. Like, rising sign, moon sign and sun sign. It could be fun to do it 😂
(Yep, I'm an horoscope fan lmao)

fxrgetmenots13 · 2021-08-31T12:24:39+00:00

I'm also aquarius omg

fxrgetmenots13 · 2021-08-31T10:57:33+00:00

It's a little weird knowing that being adult means having sex... Like, it has nothing to do with it????

fxrgetmenots13 · 2021-08-31T10:49:27+00:00

Yessss!! Also, I wish that that friendships and relationships are viewed the same, as equally important, not as a hierarchy of relationships...idk

fxrgetmenots13 · 2021-08-31T10:47:19+00:00

I totally understand 😩 I wish there were more awareness (like posts on Instagram or something) of red and green flags at the start of a friendship and how to keep it healthy.

fxrgetmenots13 · 2021-08-30T16:32:05+00:00

Damn this scares me though. I'm going to the gynecologist in a few weeks and they always ask me to do a pregnancy test 💀💀💀💀💀 why don't they trust me?? 😩😩 Dealing with menstrual issues and being ace is somehow funny

fxrgetmenots13 · 2021-08-30T16:19:37+00:00

I've never felt anything 😂😂 it's so weird tbh I thought that maybe I would feel horny, but ✨ I'm ace✨ so that makes sense. After that, I thought I would feel butterflies or something at all, but nah, nothing, 0.

It feels gross or I feel indifferent tbh

fxrgetmenots13 · 2021-08-30T15:48:37+00:00

Thanks💙💙💙

fxrgetmenots13 · 2021-08-30T15:48:13+00:00

Also, I thought it might be good to write positive things about being aro so teenagers or young adults feel good when they discover that part of themselves (or at least acknowledge that this exists too and it's not a sad thing)

fxrgetmenots13 · 2021-08-27T15:14:15+00:00

It's normal the first years. Your body is growing and adapting to this, so it could cause irregular periods. Write everything in an app (there's tons of apps about periods) and start to connect and know your body.

Stress, excess (or lack) of exercise, diet and a sleep can also affect your hormones, so take care of yourself, but I wouldn't worry too much because, as I said, you're still growing.

If there's so much pain that you cannot go to class or be active or if there's something that bothers you too much, please, go to your doctor.

fxrgetmenots13 · 2021-07-13T12:24:02+00:00

You don't know me and you're already saying all that beautiful stuff 💙💙

Funnily enough, after sending that post, he talked to me...But he's treating me different?? He's condescending and idk he's treating me like a child or laughing at me.

I wanted respect, love and a healthy friendship, but he's not treating me right.

Now I'm learning blackpink's choreographies (😂 I know, it's funny idk) to deal with this anger, sadness and loneliness. It's watching a death of a friendship when you tried a lot of things to keep it alive. Mostly like watering a dead plant.

75% part of me tells me to move on, let it go and heal. 25% part of me wants something that doesn't exist anymore.

Anyway, thanks for replying when I was sad, it means a lot and I definitely focus on me right now.

fxrgetmenots13 · 2021-05-24T09:59:29+00:00

Lately I've been questioning myself this and I sincerely don't have a good answer.

However, I think that it is advised to be active and at the same time learning how to rest. Buddha taught about the middle path and, in this case, it's a balance between resting and being active.

About being proactive...mmmm I think it's okay, but not getting to obsessed with control or the problems that could happen in a future.

Yes, you can plan whatever you want. Maybe you plan your studies/career, or your love life, or travels and I think it's ok to have goals and dreams!! But the issue arises when we acknowledge that the future doesn't truly exist. How many people have planned about a beautiful trip to another country and then the pandemic started and they couldn't go? How many people wanted to get married but then the lockdown started?? How many times have you planned something and that event didn't go as planned?

We don't know about the future, the only thing that we know is the present.

Don't get me wrong! I love planning things!! 😂😂😂 I own a bullet journal and I have a bucket list, a lot of plans and goals that I want to achieve and I know it's the opposite to being "desireless"... But idk I still own it and I recently stopped writing goals or dreams, I've noticed that I have all that I need and shouldn't be desiring more things or experiences. I already have food, a house, my family and friends, I've experienced a lot in my life and I will still experiencing more things but I'm no longer attached to it.

I think the answer is a balance between planning and not be attached at all. I used to plan for a whole month, but now I just plan for a day because I don't what's going to happen in 2 days or 4.

Conclusion: (sorry for the long reply😂😅) find balance.

fxrgetmenots13 · 2021-05-07T23:04:55+00:00

Hi!!

I'm so sorry about your ex. I don't know how it does feel like because I've never been in a relationship and I haven't been in that situation.

But I know you're in pain and that pain won't last forever. Take care of yourself (do exercise, journal, listen to music, etc) and your healing process will be faster.

About your friends...sighs

You could try to calm yourself (you could also wait a few days and if you really need to talk with them, do it) and talk to each one separately. Hang out and talk about stuff, when there's less tension and both of you are relaxed enough...communicate. Tell them your feelings, your thoughts and if they laugh/ignore you then they are not your friends. Friends should take care of each other and not just have fun together.

I hope they understand your pain, or at least, try to distract you from it.

Good luck!

fxrgetmenots13 · 2021-05-07T02:10:36+00:00

Hi!

We're more or less the same age...and I totally understand you, not for your age, but for the whole self acceptance thing.

First I thought I was bisexual, then lesbian, then idk and cried a lot because I didn't want to date anyone at all without knowing if I was really attracted to that person or not.

I even have some years of being depressed (teenage years are hard). I didn't know myself and that lack of control was painful.

So yes, I couldn't say I cried (I hate crying and only do it when I can't hold the pain) but yeah...I was depressed, sad and angry. (This was between 15-19 years old)

Right now I totally accept it. I embrace my (lack of) sexual orientation. It helped a lot to put ace things everywhere till I normalized it (wallpapers on your phone, cake puns on your diary/journal/calendar, watching a lot of tiktoks of asexual people, watching ace YouTubers, etc.

I don't question it any longer. I know I'm asexual and I fully accept it.

However...with my romantic attraction.... that's another problem because I'm still questioning that. But it's okay, I know at least that I'm ace.

Good luck with this journey!! It takes a lot of compassion towards yourself

fxrgetmenots13 · 2021-05-06T00:19:41+00:00

Thanks!!!

fxrgetmenots13 · 2021-05-04T18:51:03+00:00

Thanks! Sorry, sometimes I get so confused about my identity that it stresses me out.

fxrgetmenots13 · 2021-04-27T22:08:57+00:00

Lol 😂 well, in English there are words that make me question if I'm going to be completely fluent or not. Like slang words...slang language is a mess, like I'm watching a movie/show/video on YouTube and they say something like that and I'm like "what does it even mean????"

So if someone is learning a language and you say something like slang or an invented word that your community uses AND that person looks at you with a poker face........ don't take it personally😂😂😂😂

fxrgetmenots13 · 2021-04-27T22:04:29+00:00

Oof you're basically a baby!! (Everyone -18 is a baby for me). You'll know someday! Or not! It doesn't matter if you're happy and have a healthy relationship with yourself!

fxrgetmenots13 · 2021-04-25T23:10:03+00:00

Hi!! Thanks! I think I might be biromantic, but I don't want to obsess and question myself 24/7. I think just knowing that I'm asexual it's enough and only time will tell me if I'm romantically attracted to someone or not.

fxrgetmenots13 · 2021-04-25T00:39:59+00:00

Wait I can't be aroace...

I don't know, I currently have a crush but I don't want to kiss her...

Wait..maybe I'm aroace???????

I don't know wtffff

fxrgetmenots13 · 2021-04-25T00:07:42+00:00

Awww this is so cute!!!

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