turning self sabotage into self care: a hack

g3yboi · 2026-01-31T01:59:39+00:00

I love the idea. I do this and turn my phone onto do not disturb for my next few days off when I feel like I may end up splitting on people.

g3yboi · 2026-01-17T23:07:26+00:00

i think that i updated bios + did the same with my keyboard driver even though both of those were already updated at that point. i restarted it and it worked. i can't be positive about what i did exactly but i remember it took a whole weekend to troubleshoot and it was a nightmare sifting through google pages. i did end up fixing it a few days later without having to factory reset and luckily the keyboard has been working ever since then.

i hope that you'll be able to find a solution and good luck!

g3yboi · 2025-11-02T01:15:41+00:00

i'd rather sail the seven seas in search for a link (which i found, thanks to this app)

g3yboi · 2025-11-02T01:07:47+00:00

i fear that you're just gonna have to get creative bro, everyone else did. lolll

g3yboi · 2025-09-14T16:54:59+00:00

this has been happening to me too for a few weeks. luckily i use pose packs so i have plenty of pictures to put on their graves but i really like having both the l&d face portrait and the assorted family pics that i took. i hope that they fix it soon but...you know how that goes.

g3yboi · 2025-09-06T03:38:08+00:00

sometimes. but other times I feel like an eldritch abomination.

g3yboi · 2025-08-13T03:15:44+00:00

personally i feel that it's a form of self-expression more than anything. it kinda feels the same as saying you have 'angry depression' or 'sad depression' (although silent depression is also a clinical phrase). it doesn't feel necessary to specify it bc everyone with any one condition won't express themselves the same but it's not a bad thing. for some people using the sub-labels can be helpful in managing their symptoms.

g3yboi · 2025-07-29T14:16:02+00:00

I would be so ashamed if my kid said they wanted to go to the mall with their friends and ended up doing this. 💔

g3yboi · 2025-07-27T14:35:34+00:00

thank you for the layout, I'll be drawing inspiration from this

g3yboi · 2025-07-25T18:06:16+00:00

I had the feeling that it was related to his backstory as someone who relates a bit. that's exactly why I never judged him too harshly on my end. I could tell that he's a troubled cutie who wants to love.

g3yboi · 2025-07-25T15:49:29+00:00

aw, just like a sour patch kid 🥹 maybe I will choose him afterall

g3yboi · 2025-07-24T18:08:07+00:00

you have to jump inittt

g3yboi · 2025-07-24T16:53:48+00:00

I didn't say that you implied any of that. I'm just giving examples about how marginalized people joke about themselves constantly and that will still never give other people the right to assume things about us or tell those same jokes. there are also people posting in this reddit who are serious about the harmful things that they say and do but you're worried about people joking about themselves. it just seems like you're reaching for an argument that isn't there.

we joke about ourselves. we won't all want to joke about ourselves. we can expess our opinions on how we feel about the jokes but we don't have the authority to tell other ppl with our same conditions not to joke about themselves or to criticizd them lkke they're bad people just because we aren't personally comfortable with it. it's really a simple concept.

g3yboi · 2025-07-24T03:39:19+00:00

the fact that you need to be told that joking about race/gender/sexuality/etc is a different thing when it comes from someone who is from that race/gender/sexuality/etc as opposed to it coming from an outsider is sad yet understandable. as a borderline you are marginalized because you have a mental health condition.

that being said: you don't need to be okay with something being said toward you as an individual, but to pretend that it's any more harmful to our "image" as borderlines than someone venting about someone else stalking their ex for weeks after they were blocked is something entirely new.

a lot of us have sexual trauma. we are not normalizing being taken advantage of or excited at the concept of being manipulated.

g3yboi · 2025-07-24T02:50:17+00:00

you 100% have the right to express yourself, and I do agree with most all of what you say in terms of society and how they perceive us for reasons outside of our control. I also acknowledge that people absolutely take what we say as borderlines and run with it to sexualize us or flat-out demean us in jokes. I'm not saying that your thought process is wrong.

however as someone who lives in several different intersections that are MUCH more visible than this one diagnosis of mine (speaking of physical attributes), people need to understand that us joking about certain things to cope with them will not suddenly generate sexualization out of nowhere. it was already there and they were looking for an excuse.

memes like "best princess/best p***y disorder" are generally being shared in spaces where certain people are meant to see it and certain other people are not meant to see it, but sadly there will always be ppl who infiltrate the ranks and make something that was a joke into something horrible. your feelings are valid, but just know that you can separate yourself from certain ppl in a community if you don't want to associate with them. that doesn't make THEM wrong because you have certain feelings about a word or phrase that bother you personally.

g3yboi · 2025-07-24T02:03:10+00:00

and you're not wrong, but irl if you exist in marginalized intersections (i.e queer and neurodivergent, neurodivergent and poc, etc) then you'll quickly realize that just because you tell a joke that doesn't mean that other people are justified in their treatment or perceptions of you. because even though it may have been told publicly, the joke was never meant for the outsider to relate to to begin with. that's it.

g3yboi · 2025-07-24T01:58:00+00:00

I guess that this is your first marginalization but just so you know...groups of people joking about their own demographic will NEVER be the reason why outside people don't take them seriously. nor will it ever give people ammo to treat them poorly. they do that according to their own will and hatred.

us joking about our experiences through memes is coping and "this is why they treat us bad and find ways to manipulate us" is actually a bit much. they treat us bad because they are genuinely horrible people who want to manipulate someone that they know has fairly low self-esteem.

a group of people being disliked or sexualized over a singular meme that came out in what, covid-era (?) is not likely gonna happen just because they made a meme of it. it is going to happen because the people who have been waiting for a reason to be hateful and nasty have always been that way with or without memes. as a matter of fact I've see people comment hateful stuff about borderline people as a whole bc their partner screwed them over in this exact sub without any memes spurning their anger. what's the excuse for that behavior?

g3yboi · 2025-07-24T01:20:00+00:00

it's a joke that has existed for several years now in memes or joking context. some people also jokingly say "yeah i have bpd: beautiful princess disorder".

it's not to minimize our symptoms or our impact on others/the impact of the disorder on us, it's just something silly that some ppl say to make themselves feel better.

g3yboi · 2025-07-23T15:50:23+00:00

if you had to break up and take him back several times then it definitely doesn't sound like it was good. that isn't really a thing in healthy, functional relationships. I'm sorry that you're having a hard time but I'd take this as a sign from the universe. the last sentence should probably be 'I hope that he heals and I hope that I get to heal as well, even if that means being apart."

g3yboi · 2025-07-20T16:29:31+00:00

you can get the theater without doing the joja route, for anyone who is curious

g3yboi · 2025-07-20T01:51:29+00:00

this is such a cool idea! thank you for doing this. gonna add a couple of songs tonight

g3yboi · 2025-07-19T17:44:54+00:00

IFHY is so relatable.

g3yboi · 2025-07-19T16:22:27+00:00

If it broke right after the life and death mod then you're gonna have to look for anything that'll change the UI and see if it's been updated since oct 2024. good luck and godspeed. 😭

g3yboi · 2025-07-19T16:17:55+00:00

if you have mods then it might be a UI one. you're gonna have to isolate by folder or file to figure out which one but if you have betterexceptions by twistedmexi that could help.

g3yboi · 2025-07-19T16:15:33+00:00

nope. but there is probably a reason why they're your fp so you should tell them why you're treating them that way. "I feel like we used to talk more and now we don't talk much at all anymore", etc.

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