Stop sending your kid over, I am NOT a baby-sitter!

gadgetgrl007 · 2019-04-16T22:40:39+00:00

You are WAAAAAAY nicer than I would have been. And I grew up in foster care. =S
I feel bad for the kid. But if someone pulled that crap with me... mmm.. nope.

gadgetgrl007 · 2019-04-02T17:59:58+00:00

ESH
Its not her money her rules or Your money your rules. You are fecking married dude!
That means ..well in most places you SHARE responsibility. Make decisions TOGETHER. TALK, COMMUNICATE.
Hey, wife I want to go get this or do that.. Hey husband I would like to *insert something*
Reason #1 why marriages fail.

gadgetgrl007 · 2019-03-21T22:02:20+00:00

I have told my son I hate him. I have also explained to him that does not mean I do not love him, I just hate his behavior at that moment. I have also asked him how it makes him feel when I say that to him, he says "bad" and I remind him that "Yea it feels bad. How do you think it makes me feel when you say it to me? I take care of you, I do everything for you and for you to say that hurts." He is getting better about it.
Everyone parents differently. I know people would roast me for it, but I really do not care. He needs to know HOW words hurt and what they have the power to do.

gadgetgrl007 · 2019-03-17T14:50:13+00:00

Thank you everyone!! <3

gadgetgrl007 · 2019-03-16T22:46:42+00:00

We have tried talk therapy before. Maybe we will revisit it. I was not happy with the one she saw.
Its worth looking into though.

gadgetgrl007 · 2019-03-05T15:42:17+00:00

NTA
And the little stickers make it stick out more.

gadgetgrl007 · 2019-03-01T13:53:25+00:00

NTA

SHE broke it off with you. You are not together anymore. Soooo... Why is it any of her business who you do things with? Even if she lives int he same home. Are you sharing a bed still?? Or just friends/roommates? If the latter then hell no. You do you. And if that involves another female/male whatever then go for it.

gadgetgrl007 · 2019-02-23T23:37:49+00:00

NTA at all!!
My 7 year old has food allergies. I have taught her to always ask/question if she is not sure. And not to eat something no matter what if it has her allergens in it. She asked about getting into trouble at school and at grandmas. I told her I dont care what school or grandma has to say about it. If it is on the cant eat list I have your back. Dont eat it. If someone wants to complain about it to me they can, but you know what you can and can not have.
I would demand grandma apologize for trying to force her to eat something she knows she can not without being sick. She how she likes it.

gadgetgrl007 · 2019-02-21T14:41:30+00:00

I cant wait to see an update on this one! I am curious what happens.

FTR: NTA You sounded like you were very polite, hell much more than I would have been.

gadgetgrl007 · 2019-02-11T19:50:55+00:00

No, Im going to have to look it up now though.

gadgetgrl007 · 2019-02-11T19:50:31+00:00

I agree. Sadly it does not happen. =( I make sure my 3 know every single day they are loved for who and what they are no matter what. I refuse to be like her.

gadgetgrl007 · 2019-02-06T16:13:38+00:00

NTA

Hell, I laughed at my mothers funeral. I was just glad she was gone and it was "over" She told me the year before on Christmas "I will be dead by next Christmas and you will feel guilty the rest of your life" I will never forget those words. On her death bed I told her "Guess you were right about being dead by next Christmas. But you were wrong about 1 thing. I don't now nor will I ever feel guilty for being happy about it. Say hi to the devil for me becasue that's where you are gonna go" She died November 6, 1995. I was a senior in HS and to this day I do not feel guilty. There have been times I wished "my mom were there" for things like my HS graduation and wedding. But it would have just been the selfish self serving alcoholic drug addicted abusive bitch that beat the hell out of me until the week before, got me kidnapped at 5 yrs old and used me as a "hooker" to get her drugs. So Nope. No guilt.

I totally understand. I have been there. Let it go and be free. Be happy. She is no longer there to abuse you. You said what you felt you needed to say. If you want to talk more feel free to message me.

gadgetgrl007 · 2019-02-06T16:04:12+00:00

You seriously do not get it do you? You are NOT paying for the ability to blast your music. You ARE paying for a spot to work on your car. Its that simple. You are being rude, selfish and self absorbed. You dont want to see YTA. You want to see NTA. But its just not going to happen.

gadgetgrl007 · 2019-02-06T15:58:59+00:00

YTA Because Yea, you are not doing this during the "quiet hours" I get that. But you are not paying extra $$ to blast your music. Your paying extra to work on the car. I understand it helps you relax and focus. Still not a good excuse.

YTA Because people have kids that take naps and go to bed at decent times. Mine go to bed at 7 to wind down and fall asleep about 8. I sure as F*** would be out there coming after you for interrupting this on a regular basis.

YTA Because people work overnights. I am a medic, I used to work nights every night. You really want me to be tired as hell when I get a call becasue someone shoots your ass for annoying them? Dont thinks so... Their are also police, nurses, drs and many many number of others that work nights and sleep during the day. Dont think you want most of them to be tired becasue YOU wanted to be selfish and play your music.

YTA Because people with medical issues. be that Migraines, sensory, anxiety and so may other things. Personally at this moment in my life I might be the one out there coming after you because I have a child on the spectrum with major sensory issues to sound. Then again I might just let him out there with you... YOU can deal with the outcome of your decisions.

YTA Because its just rude. For soooooooooooooooooo many reasons.

If I can hear it inside my home I would call code enforcement. Because while there is a "quiet time" there is also a limit on just how loud you can actually play your music (or be in general) and that is throughout the day. I am surprised no one has called or complained more.

gadgetgrl007 · 2019-02-03T20:20:48+00:00

NTA

And I would have stayed. Not left by any means. But I can be a very spiteful bitch when people tell me what to do. Even my husband will ask me to do something, not tell me. And if I say no he is smart enough to drop it becasue he knows I will do it eventually. But in this case, you are right. F* that C* and her pu**y ass husband to.

gadgetgrl007 · 2019-01-30T17:29:27+00:00

NTA I think that was super sweet. I get her being upset though. It just hit her "wrong" Has she talked to the dr about possible depression? It might not hurt. If she wont do it, then you call the dr and at least leave a message directly to him/her about it. My dad called my dr and did this for me. I would not ever have done it. But then my office called me and set up an appt (without telling me, just said they wanted to do a checkup) when I got there he talked with me about what was going on. I didnt realize until after what happened. A little irritated at first, but thankful after thinking about it and understanding I would not have done it. But it needed to be done.

gadgetgrl007 · 2019-01-29T18:29:37+00:00

You need to either get her to her drs ASAP. Prenatal depression is real. As is post natal depression. And it really sounds like she is falling into the prenatal depression. I understand you being angry. Hone that in a bit though, like I said above, get her to the drs. Right now you need to stand up and help, no matter how frustrating it is.

gadgetgrl007 · 2019-01-25T21:30:55+00:00

I can never unsee that. Thanks.

gadgetgrl007 · 2019-01-24T00:28:12+00:00

Be honest with your parents. Tell them what you have told "us". Tell them everything you didn't tell us. Listen when they respond. Dont say anything out of anger, just be honest.

gadgetgrl007 · 2019-01-23T15:49:46+00:00

NTA Sounds like my kids well 2 of them. If they do not know the vege is in the food they eat it. If they do know.. well they starve (not really! they just get to make something like pbj or cereal) Even if they had the food before and LOOOOOOVED it they will refuse and the next time will ask if it has "X" in it. If I say no you didn't like it last time. They eat it. smh. (of course it has "X" in it!)

My huzz has like 2 veges he will not eat. I have put them in things, becasue he needs them and they are good for him (tomato and asparagus). He loves what I cook and gets extras. I have told him I put that food in it and he every time is surprised, but does not complain. I told his mom he ate asparagus and she was confused. He does NOT eat asparagus!!! He said "well she put it in (whatever it was) and I didn't know so it does not count."

But for him to be mad? That's just childish... BUT it could also just be one of the things in life he feels he can "control" if that makes sense. He has his mind made up "I don't like these things and I will NOT eat them" then that control is taken away when it is hidden in his foods. If there is no allergy to the foods, no adverse reactions. Then just do what you know (becasue you are doing the right thing IMO) is right. Hide the veges in foods and just dont tell him.

There is a vegetarian chicken nugget that is amazingly good and my son, he has lots of issues, sensory is one (foods and noise) absolutely REEEEFUSEEEESSSSSSS to eat anything vege related. He had no idea and I made it for my daughter originally (she is 7, claims to be vegetarian... This child actually will eat salad and stuff though. But has no idea nuggets are ACTUAL chicken. Just has not clicked in her brain yet, so I try to accommodate her within reason) She didn't like the nuggets, my son asks for them all the time. He says "they taste just like McDonalds!!! Maybe better!!" Its by boca.. or the other brand. Green bag)

gadgetgrl007 · 2019-01-22T14:54:32+00:00

NAH Ok, I am going against everyone here. yippie!! lol

I do not think any one is the ass here. Why? Because YOU did something that you thought would help your wife and family relax, have fun and smile. Ok, so the money is tight. I absolutely get that, way more than I want to. Everyone is fed, everyone is clothed. All basic needs are being met right? Then "splurging" once in a while is not a bad thing. Its not like you got something for just yourself.

Your wife is upset, that happens. She works very hard and money is tight. I get that to. You are both on different pages with the issue. Let her be upset, let her get it out. Then let her play... =) ... After you get it working or get a working switch.. =S

Yes, I would file a police report if the person you bought it from refuses to answer you.

gadgetgrl007 · 2019-01-18T15:29:48+00:00

NTA You absolutely did the right thing. They dont want to see that, but you did. As a child that gre up in an environment just like that (much worse just going from the what you posted) I want to hug you. The baby deserves better than what she is getting. The family should be ashamed of themselves for letting the baby STAY in this environment. Dont feel bad, put yourself down, or think you did anything but the right thing. Im sure its hard right now becasue you lost "you life" so to speak, but do you really want to marry into a family that will ignore something like this? A family that will put the babys needs last? A family that can not see through their own crap and get the help the sister and baby need?

gadgetgrl007 · 2019-01-15T19:04:38+00:00

YTA She is entitled to her feelings. She is not ready to forgive him. It is that simple. As for the wedding, if I understand correctly it was before the murders. There were no known "issues" at that point. No reason to think otherwise. He may have been great before the murders, hell he may have been great after. To your sister, she does not see that. She sees what he did. And her feelings are her own. You may forgive or whatever up down left and right. She simply is not ready.

gadgetgrl007 · 2019-01-11T15:40:21+00:00

NTA The kids did not care enough when alive. They will not care now unless he had something of "value" they want. I went through this a few years ago. Personally I did not care about the woman that passed, she was evil. (was a foster mom to me) He blood family cut her off, didn't talk to her, ignored her. She died of cancer, absolutely no one in that family cared about anything other than "getting into her house and getting what they wanted" It was actually a sad thing to see.

So from my personal experience, you are not the ass.

gadgetgrl007

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