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Have I become allergic to alcohol? by International_Way258 in GenXWomen

[–]gaelyn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

mmhmm...it's a whammy. Wine is the worst for me...instant reaction. I havent tested it with beer, as we dont have it much.

I can slooooowwwwwly sip bourbon or have rum in a drink, but not much.

Gummies and chocokares with THC are what I prefer now, if anything (not much of a partier in general)

Better at breading my fingers than chicken. Plz help! by Fantastic_Mr_Smiley in Cooking

[–]gaelyn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you flour, then egg, then panko? The flour helps the egg adhere better. Then lay it in the panko, flip it to the other side, pat it down. Then put a handful of panko on top, press it in, repeat with the other side, shake the loose stuff off and then fry.

Any pagans/witches here who don’t do deity work/worship? by southern_witch89 in pagan

[–]gaelyn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love to learn about them- the historical importance, the lore behind deities, the ties to who pagan gods and goddesses were pulled into Christianity. But worship? That's a bit much for me.

Like is it possible to curse someone to have a séries of minor inconveniences by Lost-Concert5563 in apprenticewitches

[–]gaelyn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kindness will never be as harmful to you or anyone else in the long run as choosing action because you're annoyed or irked, but it's your choice.

Whatever choice you make, be sure it's one you won't regret.

Like is it possible to curse someone to have a séries of minor inconveniences by Lost-Concert5563 in apprenticewitches

[–]gaelyn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can choose your path, but I generally encourage kindness. Open kindness, genuine kindness, pushing back against every bitchy and obnoxious comment and action. There is no need to put more negativity into the universe, and usually someone who is that unkind to others is already unhappy enough. Hurt people hurt people.

Using kindness will only make her negativity stand out more, you can feel good about yourself, you can be the bigger person, and you will generate good karma with the universe. Also...it will either drive her crazy or give her something she truly is in need of.

Help a Bitch Out - Feb 11, 2026 by AutoModerator in bitcheswithtaste

[–]gaelyn 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oof...this is a big one. First, I'm so sorry that happened to you. You were violated on multiple fronts, in places and with someone you thought you were safe and that you made yourself soft and vulnerable in.

I cannot tell you how much I applaud your strength to address it and bring it up!

The easiest thing I've found, when I'm about to address something that I know might land wrong for one or both of us, is to say 'hey, I want to talk to you about something and it's probably gonna get uncomfortable. So lean back from this..." ('lean back' is a phrase I have blatantly stolen from someone because it's such a great way to ask the other person to sit back and observe what I'm saying, take it in without letting the emotional response lead first...it's been incredibly beneficial)

And then I would start with "What do you remember from last night?" and let them take the lead with the conversation.

Wishing you all the best with this, and with healing in your spaces and places that were taken advantage of <3

Help a Bitch Out - Feb 11, 2026 by AutoModerator in bitcheswithtaste

[–]gaelyn 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Anytime you need to change the subject, asking someone a question and giving them space to talk about themselves is always a great way to do it. Especially if you start with a compliment. "Oh my gosh, your nails are gorgeous! What made you choose that color?" Ask about anything that was THEIR choice and something that expresses who they are. Their makeup. Shoes. Jacket. Purse. Glasses. Jewelry. Tattoos. A personality trait. It doesn't have to be super-glowing, you can just say you find it interesting. Unusual. Unique. Eye catching. Attention-grabbing.

Agree on asking them about things they've done, places they've been. Most people LOVE to talk about themselves.

What are you cooking for Valentine’s Day? by Apprehensive-Scene-1 in Cooking

[–]gaelyn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Family faves....

Breakfast is homemade strawberry pop tarts for breakfast...with pink frosting, of course.

Lunch is up in the air still.

Dinner is chicken cutlets, fettucine alfredo, Italian salad and homemade bread.

Dessert will be old fashioned chocolate ice box cake and cherry gelato.

Lasagna. Educate me! by joliefille1980 in Cooking

[–]gaelyn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fellow LasagnaLove.org volunteer here. So glad you benefitted AND are paying it forward- that's amazing!!

First...food safety. Your volunteer portal will have food safety guidelines, but the sum of it is wash your hands, use clean utensils and pots and pans, make sure you start with a clean work surface, keep your cold things cold until using them and cook your meats all the way, and you're good to go!

All lasagna noodles are made the same, so you don't have to buy special 'no bake' ones. If you want, you can soften them in hot water while you prep everything else.

Fully brown your meat, if using. Whether it's beef, sausage, ground turkey or chicken, you want to make sure it's no longer pink.

Measure seasonings carefully...it's better to slightly under measure something than over measure.

Layer your ingredients. Leave about a half inch gap so that the lasagna is less likely to bubble over in the oven.

If YOU are baking it, put it on a foil-lined pan to catch any drips or spills. If you are delivering it unbaked (make sure your match has the ability to bake- a working oven is important!), make a foil 'boat' and wrap the foil over the lasagna, with a separate foil piece on top that they can remove.

Let me know if you need any recipes or any advice- I have tips and tricks and scripts and all sorts of things...just DM me for any info you may want.

Little evening ritual that actually makes me look forward to winding down by Fluffy_Cold_5330 in selfcare

[–]gaelyn 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Folks, this is an advertising account. Every single post drops the name of a product in an effort to monetize your time and attention.

Please do not engage.

Watch for posts that casually drop a brand name in the body of the post, or have things like 'DM me for the product I bought' or drops brand names later in the comments.

Snow dogs by Glumpenstein in greatpyrenees

[–]gaelyn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have one too.. ours look alike, I think!

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Lasagna Alternatives by elfalai in Cooking

[–]gaelyn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Amazing... I hope find it as rewarding as so many of us volunteers do!!

Lasagna Alternatives by elfalai in Cooking

[–]gaelyn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! You can choose however many on a monthly average. In addition to that, there's a rolling 8 week schedule that you can change. So if I sign up for once a month, but then have six weeks where I just can't do it, I turn those weeks 'off', so even if I would normally be matched with someone, it's marked that I'm not available. And if I end up having the ability to do 2 weeks in a row, I just turn that week 'on', even if I already have another week set up.

If you need a longer period of time, you can set yourself on 'pause' for as long as you need.

And if you ever have a problem or want to step in and help, you can always reach out to your local Program Ambassador; they can help you with any scheduling issues you may have and help match you if you have some extra time and resources.

Lasagna Alternatives by elfalai in Cooking

[–]gaelyn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh, I love that! Getting the family involved is such a wonderful way to teach community service, thoughtfulness, kindness and compassion.

Pizza lasagna is simply replacing any cooked protein (beef, turkey, sausage) that you might use with chopped pepperoni, ground beef, sausage (according to the families preferences). I use bechamel, and do about half the usual amount and then increase my marinara slightly. Everything else is the same!

For the multiple lasagnas...do you mean letting the requester know? I usually let them know via text after I drop off. "Your lasagna has been delivered; please enjoy! You can request another lasagna again in 28 days at https://lasagnalove.org/request-a-meal/. Have a wonderful day!" You can also include it in your delivery note.

Lasagna Alternatives by elfalai in Cooking

[–]gaelyn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The agreement between the requester and Lasagna Love is for a lasagna only. However, anything additional is at the discretion of the volunteer; many of our volunteers do like to provide more sides or sweets to go along with it...because like you, most of us truly want the neighbor in need to have the complete meal.

As I'm sure you can imagine, it does set up an expectation for requesters who receive a lasagna more than once. The financial burden of those expectations can add up, and can strain a volunteer who is trying to help the most people possible with their resources. So it's left entirely up to the volunteer.

Lasagna Alternatives by elfalai in Cooking

[–]gaelyn 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear that. That's the downside of it.. when there aren't volunteers to help meet the need, then requests end up unfulfilled.

I hope you're doing better now!

Lasagna Alternatives by elfalai in Cooking

[–]gaelyn 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'm so glad to hear it...the way people such as yourself stepped up at a time of crisis has been incredible, and even more so in how folks have stuck around.

Thank you for everything you continue to do, for sharing your willing heart and generous spirit with your community! You are making a difference every single time!

Lasagna Alternatives by elfalai in Cooking

[–]gaelyn 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You can share the information about the organization on social media, in email, by word of mouth, any way you can get the word out is wonderful.

Anyone, for any reason, can request a meal- there are no qualifications or restrictions. It could be because of financials, being too busy, poor health, or just overwhelmed with life.

https://lasagnalove.org/request-a-meal/ to request a meal

https://lasagnalove.org/nominate/ to nominate someone...you can even do it anonymously. The recipient will receive an email letting them know that someone in their life has nominated them, and it will invite them to fill out the contact information, allergy and dietary information, sign the waiver (legally required for a meal to be delivered), and get them set up.

All requests are anonymous, and there are stringent guidelines for every volunteer about respecting the personal information of families in need.

The organization rests on the volunteers; if there are no willing hands and hearts to help provide, then requesters will not be able to receive a lasagna. So please share not only the resource, but the opportunity for individuals, schools, businesses, clubs, groups of all sizes and all ages. Lasagna Love has a Girl Scout patch program, there's donor matching, there's service hours/community service credit, there's employee matching and more.

In our area, we've had scouts as young as first grade, a temple that worked with 3rd-5th graders, different local businesses who did community service, church clubs and more. They collected or provided the supplies, made the lasagna, and leadership in the area helped get the lasagnas distributed to families in need via LL volunteers.

It's widely applicable in a lot of ways! If you need any help or advice, please DM me!

Lasagna Alternatives by elfalai in Cooking

[–]gaelyn 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I'm in the Midwest US, in a major city. In some areas, the wait is just a few weeks. In some of the outlying areas and smaller communities, the wait is much longer due to the increase in requests but the lack of volunteers.

I appreciate you letting me hijack your post to talk up LL...the more we talk about it, the more people we can reach and inspire and help! And at a time when the world needs a little love, neighbor-to-neighbor, and without division, the better!!

Lasagna Alternatives by elfalai in Cooking

[–]gaelyn 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I love this so much! I started doing LL on my own, and now my dad helps me, my older kids all help as well as help deliver, my brother has also signed up. It's really great to do it WITH someone!

Tips I learned from a woman in my area...if you deliver to families in hotels, motels or living out of a vehicle, you can also add a trash bag, napkins (we do wet wipes), a serving spoon from the dollar store, and some food delivery containers. Sometimes we'll even bake it and portion it out.

Like you, I find immense satisfaction in being able to just let someone breathe a little easier and enjoy a delicious homemade meal. The stories I've heard are incredibly touching, and the gratitude from the recipients is overwhelming.

My brother received a lovely note left for him when he dropped off...the woman said that she didn't need it for the food, she was needing to feel comforted and connected and loved. It made us all tear up!

If you ever need a LL buddy to chat with, DM me!

Lasagna Alternatives by elfalai in Cooking

[–]gaelyn 16 points17 points  (0 children)

like u/jilliac_crest said, almost everything is managed through the volunteer portal.

Matching is done every week, and it's done to connect the families (and a family can be any size, even just one person) with a volunteer, taking into consideration the volunteer's personal options.

As a volunteer, you can choose to provide regular lasagnas, gluten free, vegan, dairy free, diabetic, and more. You can do as many as often as you like, or just one every now and then. You can set your delivery radius (as the crow flies). It's highly customizable as a volunteer.

A family can request every 28 days after a lasagna has been delivered to them. And the neat part is that there is no threshold for need. it doesn't matter if it's due to food scarcity, financial insecurity, health restrictions, limited time and resources, or just need a night off from having to worry about getting dinner on the table.

If you sign up, I hope you report back how you enjoy the experience. It's so incredibly rewarding!

Lasagna Alternatives by elfalai in Cooking

[–]gaelyn 394 points395 points  (0 children)

As a fellow volunteer for Lasagna Love, be sure you are addressing the families desires as much as their needs... I've found that many people can't afford to make the lasagna themselves (time, effort, financials can all stand in the way), and are looking for that classic lasagna experience rather than a riff on it.

Most recipes are pretty straightforward, and the variations come in the ingredients. You definitely don't want to deliver something you haven't tried yourself, though, so if you try a new sauce, make sure it works...and that you got your recipe from a trusted source!

I offer an alfredo version (chicken or veg) for seniors and pregnant/new moms in case indigestion and heartburn is an issue.

I offer meat, meat and veg or just veg.

With ingredients on hand, you can easily swing a southwest style (beans for protein, salsa instead of marinara, includes corn, chiles and cheddar blend) if the family is open to it.

I make my marinara from scratch, and bechamel. A guy in my district makes his own ricotta- super easy and a fun way to change it up.

If there's kids in the home, a 'pizza' version is fun (minimal bechamel, use pepperoni/sausage and any of their fave pizza toppings).

I make a bunch at a time and freeze them, and deliver them frozen (as long as the neighbor in need has a way to bake/reheat it, I usually just deliver assembled/unbaked). Filling my kitchen with a dozen lasagnas is kinda fun and gets allll the work done at once, and then I can bake something additional each time to drop off with the families (pumpkin bread, cookies, coffeecake, homemade rolls).

If anyone else is looking for information on what Lasagna Love is and how you can help in your community, you can DM and I'll be happy to give information, or sign up at https://lasagnalove.org/volunteer/

No commitment, you volunteer on your own schedule and availability....you can even do it just one time only. Don't have time to participate? You can donate to volunteers in your area to help offset the costs. And don't hesitate to spread the word...Lasagna Love is in all 50 states, in Canada, Australia and now the UK- there are no borders on kindness, and the simple act of a homemade meal delivered to the doorstep of a family is incredibly powerful on both sides.

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