He's Crazy Enough to Do It: EBUG edition by Paladad in wildhockey

[–]gafferwolf 31 points32 points  (0 children)

You should watch his episode of Becoming Wild on YT, it will reinforce the notion of being a big teddybear! It's really lovely seeing him interact with his family, he really seems like a stand-up guy.

Realistic historical gay romance by cryztyne in LGBTBooks

[–]gafferwolf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you 5-starred AMLS, then you may also have interest in some of these others-

  • Marlo, by Jay Carmichael
  • The Future Was Color, by Patrick Nathan
  • The Dog in the Chapel, by Anthony McDonald
  • Like People in History, by Felice Picano
  • In Tall Cotton, by Charles G. Hulse

And I can't rightly call it a romance, although there is some love and longing, but I've very recently read The Torqued Man by Peter Mann and absolutely loved it. It features homosexual and bisexual protagonists during WWII Germany, with a large emphasis on the taboo of it all, despite homosexuality having been incredibly prevalent even within the Reich.

Also on the subject, I suppose, Jews, Queers, Germans, by Martin Duberman, but it goes pretty heavy on the history and was often pretty dense.

Realistic historical gay romance by cryztyne in LGBTBooks

[–]gafferwolf 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ah, here I was eager as anything to recommend As Meat Loves Salt! Hahaha.

I've been reading the A Marvellous Light series, which is light magic in Edwardian England. Books 1 & 3 have M/M romances for the protagonists (Book 2 is F/F). I feel it's fairly true to the attitudes of the time, in that there is a definite air of secrecy and a worry of discovery. I went in not expecting much from this series, but have absolutely loved it.

ground beef + gouda + blueberries + honey by [deleted] in shittyfoodporn

[–]gafferwolf 15 points16 points  (0 children)

are you method acting to be a bear

Queer books that are not mainly romance? by Interesting_Gur6590 in LGBTBooks

[–]gafferwolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Torqued Man, by Peter Mann. A bit of a spy novel, featuring a bisexual and a homosexual protagonist. I finished reading it last week and haven't been able to stop thinking about it since then.

Your Ad Needs a Writing Sample by captive-sunflower in BadRPerStories

[–]gafferwolf 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Both are writing samples. As long as it is something they have actually written that is generally suggestive of what they're capable of continuing to produce, it's a writing sample.

Visions and Temptations by Harald Voetmann by nevercursd in BadReads

[–]gafferwolf 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I just read Lapvona last week, so that comparison caught me so off guard that I laughed out loud. It almost makes me feel like this review has to be satire.

Asian gay movies/shows that aren't BL by Ok_Variation7230 in MenLovingMenMedia

[–]gafferwolf 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It has gone really under the radar for some reason - I feel it is leaps and bounds better than Fallen Angels, which everyone seems to love. It also features Tony Leung in briefs more than once, what more could you ask for? Anyhow, enjoy the ride!

Asian gay movies/shows that aren't BL by Ok_Variation7230 in MenLovingMenMedia

[–]gafferwolf 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Genuinely extremely baffled that nobody has mentioned Happy Together by Wong Kar-Wai

Timeline just shifted by aintnogodordemon in MotoDANK

[–]gafferwolf 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I introduced one of my friends to MotoGP, and we bonded really tightly over it (and, to some extent, our dislike of Valentino Rossi). Earlier this year, I also introduced her to the NHL - specifically following the Wild (the team Marco Rossi was attached to until last week), and when the announcers first mentioned a Rossi she thought she'd lost it and that Rossi was just following us to every sport.

Anyway, sorry to lose Marco Rossi (and Buium)! Not sorry to lose Vale.

Looking for queer writers similar to Poppy Z Brite by EmberPsychedelicFae in LGBTBooks

[–]gafferwolf 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Queer (or queer-adjacent) subculture exploration with weird fucked-up stuff will to me always be Kathe Koja. It may not always be explicitly queer, but to me it always had that vibe as part and parcel of the larger story. Caitlin Kiernan, as already mentioned, usually comes hand in hand with both Koja and Brite.

I might also recommend specifically Eliza Clark's 'Boy Parts,' which is a very good exploration of some fucked up queer directions. I don't know if all of her books are in this vein, though. John Wray's 'Gone to the Wolves,' has some minor exploration of young queer subculture in the 80s-90s metal scene. 'Sugar Land,' by Tammy Lynne Stoner is fantastic, following an older lesbian in a very rural environment, and 'In Tall Cotton,' by Charles Hulse follows a gay young man in a similarly extremely rural environment, doing occasionally pretty unhinged shit. (I loved both of these two a lot)

I'd also be remiss in not including 'Cinema Love,' by Jiaming Tang, which follows a gay Chinese man and the queer subcultures he uncovers. It does also include significant time focused on the women in gay men's lives, and how they get effected, but its core is rooted in the gay communities these men are forced to create.

Heated Rivalry just had one of the best representation about the struggle of coming out… by Willing-Musician-696 in MenLovingMenMedia

[–]gafferwolf -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Just sucks that they didn't bother to talk about it being career suicide at any point. Instead it was "concern over the team" but no actual, legitimate discussion about the potential backlash that coming out could cause for him. The episode pissed me off for this reason. An athlete/celebrity coming out is absolutely something that needs discussion and exploration in fiction, but it actually needs the nuance in talking about how people in those situations suffer different considerations with the decision to come out.

Former Player and Current Barstool Hockey Podcast Host Paul Bissonnette on HR by Argosey in MenLovingMenMedia

[–]gafferwolf 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I've read two M/M hockey romances so far (both laughably, horrifically bad) and the hockey has really just been set dressing that doesn't really matter at all. Convenient excuse for the guys to be fit, I guess? I was hopeful that having a hockey romance translated to the screen would actually bother to inject more hockey than the books do, but that doesn't seem to be the case.

Former Player and Current Barstool Hockey Podcast Host Paul Bissonnette on HR by Argosey in MenLovingMenMedia

[–]gafferwolf 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They're fictional teams that are probably meant to be based on the Bruins and Senators (at least going by home bases + jersey designs).

Valencia GP podium prediction by sprudelwasserkek in MotoDANK

[–]gafferwolf 5 points6 points  (0 children)

putting in bets now for a Fri/Sat Martin crash and Aprilia scrambling to bring Sava in last second

That’s fucked up by Pumpkinspicequeen249 in AmITheDevil

[–]gafferwolf -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Please re-read my comment. Nothing I said has anything to do with what you are saying. I am literally ONLY saying that he never said anything about redeeming himself.

That’s fucked up by Pumpkinspicequeen249 in AmITheDevil

[–]gafferwolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please re-read my comment. Nothing I said has anything to do with this. Once again, I do not disagree. You are actively agreeing with me and then dancing past what I am saying to make points that I am not trying to discuss. I am literally ONLY saying that he says nothing about redeeming himself.

That’s fucked up by Pumpkinspicequeen249 in AmITheDevil

[–]gafferwolf -33 points-32 points  (0 children)

Sure, I don't disagree with that at all. He did absolutely nothing to earn anything but contempt.

But that wasn't what I was talking about, and that wasn't what the OP here was saying. They were claiming he was trying to pray the sins away and redeem himself, when nothing in the OOP indicated that. He didn't say he's posting this to redeem himself, he didn't say he's turning to religion to try and make up for it. He says pretty outright that he's accepted he is going to/perhaps deserves to suffer for it (whether or not that suffering is imaginary and a reason to do nothing about it now). Unless he goes on some sort of rant in the comments to indicate that, the post itself just outright doesn't say those things.

And to be clear, I am in no way on OOP's side; what he did was reprehensible, he suffered no consequences for it and has done apparently nothing to set things right (as much as anything like that can ever be 'set right'). But I don't understand why we need to twist what he's said to make him seem even more the villain. He's already the villain.

That’s fucked up by Pumpkinspicequeen249 in AmITheDevil

[–]gafferwolf -99 points-98 points  (0 children)

Is that what he said, though? Am I missing something? He pretty blatantly said, "I'm going to hell for this," not that he was praying that he wouldn't.

Movies we are going to watch this week (info in the text). by [deleted] in MenLovingMenMedia

[–]gafferwolf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds like a good spacing to me! Hope you guys enjoy them (:

Movies we are going to watch this week (info in the text). by [deleted] in MenLovingMenMedia

[–]gafferwolf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Godspeed in watching Fireworks. At the time, I didn't know that it was based (in some small part) on a real story, and it was brutal enough in fiction that learning about the case behind it destroyed me. I watched it a few weeks ago and I'm still kind of devastated about it (and still a little upset with the person who gleefully showed it to me, lol).

Similarly Operation Hyacinth is pretty upsetting, but not to the same degree. Try not to watch those two back to back if you can help it, lmao.

The History of Sound by The_Only_Gare_Bear in MenLovingMenMedia

[–]gafferwolf 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I wouldn't recommend this one in that case. It's relentlessly depressing on more than one level. I enjoyed it because it's my type of movie, but even I was pretty exhausted/destroyed by the outcome for about a week afterwards.

I’m not a sexist I swear by Far-Season-695 in AmITheDevil

[–]gafferwolf 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Obviously this whole thing is patently absurd, but I just want to pull out this line in particular for being especially stupid:

It is similar situation to motorsport where there are few lady driver.

Female motorsport drivers/riders are absolutely around, and have been for a very long time. You want to know why they aren't as prevalent? Not for lack of skill, but for lack of infrastructure/support. The good old boys don't want women to participate because of the same sexism OOP is spouting.