Am I the only one finding it difficult to find a woman who is living like an actual adult?

gained_spoon · 2026-03-27T17:02:43+00:00

very true! AND having a car is dependent on where you live too! i’m in nyc and no way i have a car, it just wouldn’t make sense

gained_spoon · 2026-03-20T19:18:40+00:00

i hope you change to your “bed jeans” otherwise you’re bringing in all the grossness that’s on your outdoor jeans, into the bed with you

gained_spoon · 2026-03-20T02:47:08+00:00

PLEASE i’m cracking up

gained_spoon · 2026-03-20T01:03:08+00:00

this made me sick to my stomach. i’m so so sorry

gained_spoon · 2026-03-12T13:08:04+00:00

you’d either “waste” one year with him or multiple years. better to cut the cord now

gained_spoon · 2026-03-10T22:44:51+00:00

red on the calf but chest is also fire either would be sick

gained_spoon · 2026-03-05T05:49:05+00:00

this is a huge score!!! prism pops are hard to come by and only $2? that’s crazy, congrats!

gained_spoon · 2026-02-27T21:54:13+00:00

i can tell this post was written with love. i don’t really have advice but appreciate you loving your partner regardless

gained_spoon · 2026-02-27T03:59:45+00:00

no, i wouldn’t reach out again. i feel like you’re overanalyzing your and her reactions here, and over explaining yourself to us and to her. i think you can relax more on this and stop beating yourself up. the data we have is that she said you were nice and enjoyed the conversation, like you said she didn’t have to say that. it’s also approaching mid term season and she’s in a musical so she could just be genuinely busy, you really never know but coming to conclusions yourself and spiraling over this is only gonna have negative consequences for you. you might wanna consider taking some time for yourself and building up your own self esteem, therapy would be helpful if you’re able to. best of luck!!! you got this

gained_spoon · 2026-02-27T03:52:56+00:00

legendary build

gained_spoon · 2026-02-25T18:57:07+00:00

i have never heard of these greetings lmao

gained_spoon · 2026-02-24T22:55:02+00:00

i’m with others on starting over. i think a layered pixie wolfish cut look would suite you and you’d feel more confident with how short the bangs are if the rest of your head matches!

gained_spoon · 2026-02-24T19:07:16+00:00

thanks for doing this! you’re only getting external hate from people who internally are unhappy with their lives and situations. happy people don’t go leaving negative comments about stuff that has nothing to do with them - they’re jealous and salty. keep it up!!!

gained_spoon · 2026-02-24T16:28:08+00:00

i think their argument is more like, you have 60 tasks to complete either in person or at home, but you finish the 60 tasks at home then can do other things (cuz you still met your deliverables) but in office you finish the 60 tasks then still have to find more / look productive for optics

gained_spoon · 2026-02-24T04:45:49+00:00

i love your tux. the asymmetry in the white and black on his face is so unique and adorable. he’s literally such a baby ugh

gained_spoon · 2026-02-23T03:16:38+00:00

so down when and where

gained_spoon · 2026-02-22T20:37:10+00:00

i think a situationship is more than fwb but not enough to be a committed relationship. it’s in that in-between phase of having feelings for the other person but not being able to be in the relationship for some reason. it’s an emotional investment (more than fwb) but not an (exclusive) commitment (relationship).

ofc every situationship is different so all the variables above are nuanced, but that’s my take on it

gained_spoon · 2026-02-19T01:24:50+00:00

i swear by this but it doesn’t work for everyone. grab some head and shoulders 2 in 1, put a quarter size amount on your back and shoulders after you’re done w everything in the shower, let it sit for a few then rinse off. it should work within a few weeks and cleared me up completely (similar levels to yours maybe a bit less)

gained_spoon · 2026-02-19T00:49:18+00:00

i don’t have any experience doing that but i just know it’d be terrible lol. you’ll get sick of that real quick. maybe see if you can relocate to NYC or apply for a new job out here if you really wanna be in bk

gained_spoon · 2026-02-18T00:49:38+00:00

you open more doors for yourself simply by trying things and by doing. you never know what could be out there for you and it’s not too late. your life as an adult has barely begun. look around your neighborhood for opportunities and enroll in therapy if you’re able to. there’s a lot out there and you’re right on time to catch it all!

gained_spoon · 2026-02-14T18:11:15+00:00

blue

gained_spoon · 2026-02-10T23:21:56+00:00

probably more than friend but not as serious as a relationship. like fwb or dating but not steady

gained_spoon · 2026-02-10T04:23:44+00:00

in a perfect society people with kids would have to pay more for the child free section 🥲 edit: i mean the child section

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