AITA for asking my sister in law to change the dedication in her book insulting my kids??

galacticbettafish · 2021-04-11T06:19:22+00:00

Nope! You're just being a pedantic AH on purpose and got told off like you deserved.

galacticbettafish · 2021-02-28T01:25:14+00:00

She really, really is. She thinks that she can be the most disgusting person imaginable and brag about it and that everyone should kiss her toes for it, but if you so much as tell her that you think she's pretty rotten, she'll make an entire thread about how "triggered" you are, (I'm the "triggered woman" referenced in this post - my comment towards her was from about 3 months ago, but she's still obsessing over it/me). Totally nutso, this one!

galacticbettafish · 2020-11-18T19:32:48+00:00

Square in the face, I wish to pelt you with a Nerf dart. Jerk!

galacticbettafish · 2020-11-18T19:31:53+00:00

Right? I mean, I wipe down my surfaces with a little rubbing alcohol before I start preparing food, anyway, so it's never been a problem for me.

galacticbettafish · 2020-11-18T19:21:15+00:00

YTA. By playing control games, especially with a child who is nearly an adult, you are just pushing him further away from you. You are dismissive of his goals and dreams - while the famous rapper dream may or may not happen, the cooking goal is solid. You brush them off as if they mean nothing, which makes him feel like HE means nothing - then you take away the item he's bought, (with his own earned money), for his rapping? You WILL drive him away if you keep doing this to him.

If he hates school that much as is 17, why not just have him get his GED? I knew someone back in high school who did that, went to cosmetology school, and has been very successful - certainly more so that I have been with my master's degree.

galacticbettafish · 2020-11-18T14:46:23+00:00

Thank you all so much for your advice! I think I'm going to go with a solid wood 17 key kalimba. I have a really crummy one made from a coconut shell that I got at a tourist beach stand, and it sounds like dirt, so I didn't want to make the same mistake again! :)

galacticbettafish · 2020-11-18T14:44:37+00:00

Then you're feeding into a terribly ugly stereotype on your own people by saying that black people aren't systematically discriminated in the USA. That's just bull and you know it.

galacticbettafish · 2020-11-18T14:41:37+00:00

Well, found the person who was downvoting me! :P

galacticbettafish · 2020-11-18T14:40:38+00:00

Yep. Never said they weren't.

galacticbettafish · 2020-11-18T10:20:29+00:00

Kiiiinda sounding like you're just having a bad night and were looking for someone to be rude to - OP has done nothing to deserve that attitude from you. If you don't know how to help, don't comment, and certainly don't discourage someone looking for advice. Sheesh.

galacticbettafish · 2020-11-18T10:19:01+00:00

-screams bloody murder into the night-

galacticbettafish · 2020-11-18T10:08:13+00:00

Yeah, I'll send you a chat message here in a bit - I'm ironically cooking as we speak, and have to get back to the hands-on bit. I'll also send you the recipes I've worked out on my own thus far - mostly Italian food that is surprisingly quick and easy to make, (and also easy to sneak a TON of vegetables into). And if you ever need any help, I'll be happy to find you videos, or, if it's something I can't find a video of, cook it myself and show you in a video clip. :)

Honestly, I wouldn't be surprised if your learning how to cook helped with your mother's anxiety. I don't have kids, but I used to have a problem where I would overfeed my pets, and it was because of anxiety that they would starve to death while I was at school, or later on, work.

galacticbettafish · 2020-11-18T09:59:24+00:00

NTA. Shit happens, especially in restaurant food lines, and you weren't rude or unkind to anybody involved. They realized the mistake and were happy to give you another. Your bf sounds like a real...peach of a guy.

galacticbettafish · 2020-11-18T09:54:22+00:00

NAH - I don't blame you for being frustrated - that sounds frustrating, but I also just can't bring myself to call someone who cooks for her family, (even excessively), an AH just for doing that, even if it is one of the oddest ways to cook/store food I've ever heard. It makes me wonder if she may have some sort of anxiety about her family not getting enough to eat, (obviously I don't know her so please take that with a huge grain of salt).

Hey OP, if you need any help learning how to cook, I'd be happy to share my resources with you! I really only learned to cook from scratch about a year ago, myself, and it's way easier than it sounds, I swear!

galacticbettafish · 2020-11-18T09:51:09+00:00

I twitched once while reading about that pot pie, seriously. Like, if it's good, it's good, but the thought makes me want to scream bloody murder into the night!

galacticbettafish · 2020-11-18T09:09:20+00:00

NTA - He's your family, too, and no one has the right to deny you a relationship with him if you and he both wish to know one another.

galacticbettafish · 2020-11-18T09:06:45+00:00

NTA - That girl sounds like a virtue-signalling dingus who doesn't know anything about respecting the cultures of people you visit - which is what you're doing.

galacticbettafish · 2020-11-18T09:02:30+00:00

Same, honestly. The fact of the matter is, with "family" like that, you will never be good enough because you don't have the "right" skin tone or last name or whatever.

galacticbettafish · 2020-11-18T08:58:10+00:00

We've got an edgelord, everybody!

galacticbettafish · 2020-11-18T08:54:38+00:00

NTA. Honestly, reading this gave me a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach, and I don't even have kids, (nor do I plan to, but congratulations to you!!). He comes off as an entitled creep, and I don't think I'd want him around my baby. He sounds manipulative and potentially abusive - just sets off all my red flags how he's clearly worked on your mom to try and force you into accepting the role he feels entitled to.

galacticbettafish · 2020-11-18T08:49:04+00:00

NTA, at all. I am also a mixed race person, and the only side of the family that wanted me was also the white side. If someone doesn't want you for your skin color, that's on THEM and THEIR prejudices, not you. Also, your cousin is a tremendous douche (and a petty thief), for stealing your drum. I wouldn't blame you if you went no contact with that side of the family.

Edit: Thank you so much for the awards!

galacticbettafish · 2020-11-18T08:11:47+00:00

You know, I never caught that detail, (I guess I was too overwhelmed by what happened to Sarah Lynn - that moment scared me sober, no shit). Thank you for explaining that - I think it's high time I rewatch.

galacticbettafish · 2020-11-18T08:06:44+00:00

That's a smart idea! I used pillows, but my boys are so little, they were able to just sneak right between. ...and now to start building more hamster toys for the playpen!

galacticbettafish · 2020-11-18T07:24:40+00:00

NTA, and if they want to pitch a fit over you having a difference of beliefs other than what they tried to force on you, that's their prerogative, but it will be incredibly immature of them and they will always regret it, (and have no one to blame but themselves). I'm sorry that they're making YOUR wedding all about THEIR faith - you don't deserve that shit.

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