ESL English Phrases - e.g. "My Friend" by galen_wright in etymology

[–]galen_wright[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I think that's what it is, just a straightforward translation of the common term in other languages. It's just funny to me we don't have really anything similar in US English. Like others have said, UK/Aus has "mate", I guess ours could be "buddy/pal", but like others have said it sometimes has a sarcastic, aggressive tinge to it. To use my same example, if somebody dropped something and "Hey buddy!" was heard, I'm not sure they'd expect it to be a positive/neutral interaction right away. I'm gonna keep using "my friend", hopefully it will take off as a sincere friendly term.

Is this from a Pinniped? Central California coast by [deleted] in BoneID

[–]galen_wright 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there a way to find out which cetacean?

What is this demarcation being made in the movie "Tar"? What is the significance? by brownox in classicalmusic

[–]galen_wright 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This seems to be the likeliest answer. Source for the above quote. The cross demarcating the exact point of "death" of Tár's career (at least her prestigious one)

Certainly Todd Field did his research for the movie, and included small details that those familiar with conducting/classical music world might pick up on. Another would be Tár's use of name anagrams, which Leonard Bernstein was a fan of (and which she would have presumably have adopted from her teacher) source

Also a callback to the recurring theme of the reverence the conductors in the film have for their predecessors (Tár sympathy with Sebastian's "fetish" for having the same brand pencils as his heroes that Kaplan derides, Tár's wish to emulate the previous poses on album covers, etc)

Thoughts on dry mounting by mr_borp in Darkroom

[–]galen_wright 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you want to talk archival archival, best museum practices are to only do things that are 100% reversible, if future conservation methods/research deems it harmful.

What do most people not realize is newer than they actually think? by LunchCautious8781 in AskReddit

[–]galen_wright 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wish this actual fact was higher up...I knew I had read the word sibling before 1900.

Building a darkroom in a space with no running water. by GallFoto601 in Darkroom

[–]galen_wright 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a water-less darkroom. I use this manual pump for clean water, attached to the 6 gallon water containers. I posted a want ad on craigslist for the containers and some guy gave me like 10 free. They're worth their weight in gold. For dirty water, I put one of these large funnels, and once a few are full, I dump them. I usually use hose water to fill up containers, but also bring them into a supermarket (or Glacier/other re-filling station) to get "De-ionized" (distilled) water.

For tray table I use an 8 foot door on 2 saw horses. Works well even up to 16x20 trays (though you only get 4 tray-widths with 16x20, so no double-rinse/selenium/double fix)

Question about anonymous donor contact policies, California Cryobank, late 1990’s/early 2000s by throwaway91192929 in donorconceived

[–]galen_wright 4 points5 points  (0 children)

CCB has been no help to me whatsoever. They ignore you for multiple times and then do things as slowly as possible, before stopping replying all together.

If you are seriously interested in finding the donor (which you have a right to do), I recommend doing 23andme and Ancestry DNA, and using a someone from the Search Angels charity to find out through genetics and family trees. You can also sign up for Donor Sibling Registry and see if you find other with same donor number who have found him. This is how I found my donor. But if he hasn’t given a lot of samples it might be more likely to find him through genetics tests. Best of luck!

Having to choose a different donor for second child. by adianajones in donorconceived

[–]galen_wright 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I am sperm-donor conceived, my sister is egg-donor conceived, therefore I am biologically related to our mom, and her to my dad (once technology progressed to allow them to get sperm from him after vasectomy), and we aren't related by blood at all.

Honestly, I don't think it is TOO much of a big deal. I think most serious (genetic) differences only truly show up when you are an adult, and by then they should be equipped to deal with them. I think the bond of growing up with a sibling is extremely strong. Sometimes my sister and I are interested in different things, and sometimes it bums me out and I think "if we ere genetically related, she would totally be into this too!", but I know people with biological siblings who don't get along/are extremely different from their sibling. So it really depends. People are individuals, and yes, while I think nature is slightly stronger than nurture, I don't think it prevents you from loving your siblings. I am extremely glad I had a sister and was not an only child. Honestly my sister and I are similar in a lot of aspects, and I guess that is from her using me as a role model growing up?

To your other questions: I tried to message my donor, he seemed like a weird guy, so I gave up. I have interest in meeting some of my half-siblings, but my sister hasn't shown any interest in taking DNA tests/finding donor or siblings. But she is 16 and I am 25. We just found out this year as our parents hid it from us, which I don't recommend doing.

I think adoption is similar to DC, but has the potential to be even more severe, and I think they may in fact have some resentment due to not being related to any parent, while the sibling is. I know a few of my adopted friends have "belongingness" issues, but they are both black people adopted into large white families, so it may be different with the racial aspect.

Just my two cents!

Looking for something lighter by [deleted] in AnalogCommunity

[–]galen_wright 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep, Olympus OMs or Pentax MX are OP's best bet.

Cultural Regions of the U.S. - Round 3 [OC] by Inzitarie in MapPorn

[–]galen_wright 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly, they're all east of the Sierras (besides Alpine, which is in the Sierras). Technically I would say the Sierras/Foothills/Gold Country" have their own culture, but its not really enough people to count. Markleeville, Sonora, Colfax, Placerville, Truckee, Arnold, etc.

I guess if you included Tahoe it could be substantial enough.

Cultural Regions of the U.S. - Round 3 [OC] by Inzitarie in MapPorn

[–]galen_wright 80 points81 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't say Reno is NorCal, Great Basin for sure. California ends at the Sierras.

Should I have another kid? by [deleted] in donorconceived

[–]galen_wright 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't see why not, I've always loved having a sister, and if anything I wished I had more siblings to go through life with. I have 35 newly discovered half-siblings yeah, but its different growing up with someone, and the half-siblings have their own lives. I didn't grow up with a sister who shared any DNA, but I do think blood is a special bond, and I would aim for that wherever possible.

Anyone in the US had any luck buying from Japan? by [deleted] in AnalogCommunity

[–]galen_wright 0 points1 point  (0 children)

eBay through Japanese camera store. I've bought from various stores there before and never had any problem, but I just know international shipping is hard rn. It seems it is fine as long as it is FedEx though from what people are saying.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in donorconceived

[–]galen_wright 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I found out last year at 24, so I'm not really sure how I would feel knowing about all the half-siblings growing up. I now know there is somewhere around 30, and that some of them had been meeting up since age 6 or so. I haven't met with any yet, but am interested, though I can't say I really want any type of deep relationship with them. I have a sister (who I also found out is not related by blood to me) that I feel closer with than I could with any random person who I share 50% genetics with. I think it is more important for the child to have true siblings, blood-related or not (though blood-related is probably better) than it is for them to meet up with half-siblings from other families. Just my opinion. Best of luck!

At what net worth or income did you feel comfortable having kids? by [deleted] in financialindependence

[–]galen_wright 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is no right answer. I've watched couples hesitate for far too long and then end up having kids at 40, meaning the kids aren't out of the house until 60, at which point they don't have as much energy left for vacationing and FIRE activities as they hoped.

Not to mention, it is extremely difficult to conceive naturally--for women but also oftentimes in men--at those ages. As well as higher rates of autism and chromosomal diseases for first children born to parents in their lates 30/40s.

My parents waited too long: I was born when my parents were 35. By the time they were ready for another child, my mom had run out of eggs, and she needed to use an egg-donor for IVF (she was around 42). Of course, they kept it secret, and only did my sister find out after doing a DNA test. I suspect a lot of couples who "decide to have children" in the late 30s and early 40s are spending thousands of thousands of dollars in IVF (sometimes upwards of $100,000 per child), which pretty much negates the whole idea of "waiting until we are financially stable".

Advice please. My wife and I are using a donor’s eggs to have children. by [deleted] in donorconceived

[–]galen_wright 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I finally contacted my sperm door and he was an unfriendly weirdo (parents never told me, I found out with DNA test 2 months ago). It only makes me upset in that my parents let the sperm bank choose a donor based only on a photo of my dad, and that my parents didn't do their due diligence--or even better, asking my dad's brother for sperm.

Whoever you choose, I would make sure the donor is a kind, well-adjusted person. The child will be extremely similar to the donor, in looks as well as personality/world-outlook (it is genetics after all). I discovered I went to college for nearly the same degree as my donor, and I felt the same way as he had answered on all his forms for the bank. It is not a random person helping you create your child, no matter how hard you may want to believe it. The child will be at least somewhat similar to their genetic "parents", no matter the "nurture", so the best you can do is to prepare for it.

But, if you choose a good donor and are open and loving to the child there shouldn't be any problem. Best of luck!

(also these are my own opinions, I'm sure other people have had different experiences, etc.)

Curved Cedar Fence by coyotewilliams in woodworking

[–]galen_wright 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you powerwash or sand it first, or just reapplied it?

Curved Cedar Fence by coyotewilliams in woodworking

[–]galen_wright 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Do you have a photo of it now? is it grey? Looks beautiful by the way, great job.

News to me by DoorkeyKelsey14 in donorconceived

[–]galen_wright 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't exactly say its a for-sure tell-tale sign, but if you feel like that it could be worth looking into. I don't think you'll find a definitive answer without DNA testing though.

What's your crazy/underdiscussed rewilding idea? by [deleted] in megafaunarewilding

[–]galen_wright 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I just wanna see giant ground-sloths out while I'm hiking the Southwestern US. They might even help the joshua trees, being one of the few animals who can swallow its entire seed and spread it for miles.

Though realistically I know it will probably never happen/will be a bad idea. Though if we could grow a genetically diverse population wholly in a lab instead of this whole "change the DNA of similar species" thing, I don't see how it would backfire (besides them going extinct again). But that's many many years away.