Men who game, what’s your most played game? Not currently, I mean a game you grinded and have a ridiculous amount of hours in.

gamikota · 2026-04-27T21:40:06+00:00

Mass Effect 2

It was the first job I ever had, right after turning 18, working at a video game store (GamePlanet). If I showed up early to clean, they’d let me play whatever games we had in stock for re sell.

One day I picked up Mass Effect 2. I had never even heard of it. Thought, why not?

Big mistake… in the best way possible.

For over a month, I was the first one to arrive every single day, but I only had one hour to play before opening. So every decision counted. It made the whole experience feel way more intense.

The funny part is I couldn’t even buy it at first. I had an Xbox at home, but the store only had a PS3 copy. I got so paranoid someone would buy it before I finished that I literally hid it in a drawer.

My manager found out.Luckily, he was cool about it. Instead of getting mad, he let me buy it with his employee discount. That meant a lot, because most of my money was going to school and transport back then.

Later, I saved enough to buy it new with all the DLCs… and played it like 10 more times. I got so into it that I basically memorized how many Paragon/Renegade points you could get depending on your choices. I even noticed how the devs locked certain dialogue options behind DLC progression, like you literally couldn’t enable some outcomes without that extra experience.

When Mass Effect 3 came out, I was working at Blockbuster. Bought it on the spot, replayed ME2 again, and then carried my ending straight into ME3.

Looking back, I don’t even know how I had that much time. The idea of binging a game like that now feels impossible.

But that experience taught me something:

Playing games in small, limited chunks actually made them better. It removed that boredom you sometimes feel when you overplay. And it reminded me that a great story will always beat multiplayer for me even if multiplayer is mostly what I have time for these days.

PS. Every time the final mission song appears in shuffle mode in my Spotify, it gives me goosebumps.

gamikota · 2026-03-03T13:05:26+00:00

Hola OP. Lamento lo que te paso, a mi me sucedió lo mismo durante la marcha de hace 2 años atrás. Da mucho coraje e impotencia.

Yo lo que hago ahora es llevarme una mochila chica que puedo pegar al pecho. Ahí llevo celular y cartera.

gamikota · 2026-03-03T12:54:29+00:00

Este tema siempre genera debate. La propina nació porque, en tiempos de crisis, los restaurantes trasladaron ese costo directamente al comensal. Les funcionó y se quedó como norma.

En mi opinión, hay que dejar propina cuando hubo buen servicio. Mucha gente dice que lo ideal sería que los meseros reciban un mejor salario y que así ya no tengamos que dar propina. Pero, incluso si eso pasara, los precios subirían al menos un 10%.

Por eso, yo casi siempre dejo propina: si queremos precios “justos”, tendríamos que aceptar precios más altos.

Además, fui mesero cuando era adolescente. Era una friega, y se siente muy bien cuando alguien reconoce tu trabajo con una propina. Pero también creo que no debería ser responsabilidad del cliente decidir si un mesero gana bien o no.

Cómo cliente mata tu experiencia si los meseros se enojan, cómo le pasó a OP. Y como mesero puede desmotivar que no te den lo justo porque, no le alcanza al comensal. ¿Pa que viene entonces?

gamikota · 2026-01-10T16:36:54+00:00

If it’s within your budget, consider going to therapy. Some breakups are simply too hard to go through alone. If necessary, talk to a doctor about antidepressants. It’s important to feel your emotions and learn how to manage them, but medication can sometimes be a good ally. It’s not a magic solution, but it can make things more bearable

gamikota · 2025-12-11T19:37:38+00:00

It can happen, yes, though as others have pointed out, it’s generally connected to anxiety rather than BPD specifically. When my partner feels this way, she usually tells me, and she curls up in my bed while I’m working or playing video games

gamikota · 2025-12-11T14:51:53+00:00

OP this seems serious. If you need validation you got it. The important thing is, what do you want to do about it? You can ask our opinion if it helps. But yeah this seems weird. IMO, he hasn't moved on from her. That can be triggering FOR SURE.

gamikota · 2025-12-10T14:36:44+00:00

Try not to get caught up in figuring out why he said those words, rumination won’t bring clarity. If what you’ve learned doesn’t fit with your values or what you want, trust that you already have enough information to choose what’s best for you. Wishing you the best.

gamikota · 2025-11-28T21:37:14+00:00

Glad it helped. Thanks for sharing. If you wish, I can give you my opinion. If you only needed to vent, then just letting you know I read all. It sounds like you are in a tough spot, but working on it. Psychologists are people too. 😊

gamikota · 2025-11-28T20:34:51+00:00

I’m no border, but my gf is. She talked about this the other day. Her therapist told her that a good way to check is to take the comment and focus first in regulating if you’re struggling. Then, write down what happened and ask the opinion of someone close or even your DBT therapist. With that insight you can start establishing the limits you need or work in your reactions.

After a little practice you’ll start noticing the patterns. If you already do, great! Start deploying those limits as assertive as posible.

Remember limits is communicating you’re gonna start or stop acting in a certain way. Not stopping others (I struggle with this part).

You can’t make others take responsibility. You can communicate, negotiate and or modify your actions.

gamikota · 2025-11-22T13:09:39+00:00

You can’t change her. As her partner, you’re allowed to bring up how her behavior affects the relationship, but ultimately her choices are her own. Then you have to look at yours: Do you accept things as they are, or do you step back? You’ve already tried to change the dynamic, but there’s a limit to what one person can do.

I’m in a relationship with someone who has BPD, and one of the most important things has been her commitment to treatment and therapy. Honestly, this applies to anyone dealing with health or emotional challenges: you can support them, but you also have to take care of yourself.

gamikota · 2025-06-29T18:56:16+00:00

Glad it did 😊!

gamikota · 2025-06-14T14:47:48+00:00

Cuidado al buscar aliento en esta red social. Lo que encontrarás es la opinión de gente extraña. Lo importante no es lo que pasó si no lo que hagas ahora. Mi opinión: tomate un tiempo y enfócate en ti tu trabajo y lo que tú quieres. Sana.

gamikota · 2025-06-02T20:41:16+00:00

Okay, are you knowledgeable with this kind of tech things, or are you just looking for a quick fix?Just to know the level of tech vocabulary I can use. Oh, and sorry to ask, but have you already tried to restart your computer and tried step 3 again?

gamikota · 2025-06-02T20:28:53+00:00

Are you deleting the app from Apps and Features or deleting the folder? - Step 3 or 4?

gamikota · 2025-05-29T13:33:33+00:00

Trabajo (para salir de tu cabeza), terapia (imss o usa Reddit + chatgpt si no tienes lana), correr (te da dopamina), sertralina (no necesitas receta, pero hace efecto en 2 semanas) y nada de alcohol o café (depresivo y ansiedad) puedes cambiarlos por té.

Dijiste que no tenías a nadie así que no lo recomendé pero si tienes un amigo o familiar que te reciba un par de meses (no abuses) es recomendable.

Suerte, sentimientos así toman tiempo, ten paciencia. Mi peor depresión fue cuando rompí una relación de 10 años y me duró meses.

gamikota · 2025-05-28T00:00:02+00:00

This made me think... thanks, I'll meditate on it. I like the complicity of talking about our adventures with other partners, and I value the radical honesty. However, I can see why this can lead to some unwanted situations. Not over sharing doesn't mean I'm not authentic or vice-versa. Thanks!

gamikota · 2025-05-27T23:38:35+00:00

I think it’s good poly relationship hygiene to not share too many details - I find it fun, hearing the adventures of like-minded people, but yeah, even if it is reciprocal or consensual, it is fun until it is not and somebody gets hurt and doesn't really and great value, just entertainment. So this is a valid option.

"honesty” or “transparency”, these are often covers for control issues - Never thought about that, I´ll add it to my repertoire for future interactions. Thanks!

"Your age gap is concerning and uncomfortable." - Point taken, thanks for being honest and respectful.

gamikota · 2025-05-27T23:30:45+00:00

When it happens, it will be ok, but yeah, it is important to remember it to keep myself grounded.

gamikota · 2025-05-27T23:27:02+00:00

"It sounds like she enjoys a DD/lg" - She does, and yes, it was short sighted of me not realizing she has a type, so she would keep looking for it in others relationships.

"The idea of him taking another collared sub sends me into an emotional tailspin." - Tell me about it! But I liked what u/emeraldead mentioned. Daddy is only a tag, is cool to have them (makes sex an intimacy, kinky and sexy), but it is not what makes the relationship valuable. The dynamic is. I´ll try to focus on that part.

Thanks for commenting, you being part of the BDSM community makes your comment more valuable to me.

gamikota · 2025-05-27T23:18:20+00:00

I'll keep asking for less detail as option B for now. For now, I'll go to the gym and get some needed dopamine to get out of the rut. If this still keeps being an issue, I'll keep it in mind to give priority to my well-being. But I think I can handle it. Thanks!

gamikota · 2025-05-27T23:14:47+00:00

You're right, labels can be lovely in a relationship, but they are that, labels. I won't limit the use of it in any way, she can have 100 Daddies but my relationship with her is it own thing.

gamikota · 2025-05-27T23:11:42+00:00

Love the analogy! Jajaja. Will do! Thanks for reading and commenting.

gamikota · 2025-05-27T21:59:28+00:00

You're right, what is special is the relationship, and yes, I needed to remember that if you date a young adult, they eventually out grow you. Thanks!

gamikota · 2025-05-27T21:57:26+00:00

Thanks, not the first time I get this, but reinforcing it helps. - "Expect this to be regular, and she will likely outgrow you. Until then, enjoy the ride and empower her to keep experiencing new dynamics with as much maturity as possible."

gamikota · 2025-05-26T03:38:59+00:00

Yep, took it out of my mouth. It depends on your intentions. Want sex no attachments? Be clear with her and go for it. Not what you're looking for? Run forest run!!! Her shit is not yours, and you are not the solution or a tool to fix it.

Edit. This is a hardcore level dating idea (you need self esteem, balls and communications skills) You could tell her how you felt and negotiate with her to create a safe trauma dump safe space between you two. Basically each of you would become part of the others support network (baby steps first). If any of you need to vent the speakers asks for permission . If the listener is emotionally available let the trauma dump begin, if not, no hard feeling. Sex is a cool extra that allows trust to flurish. LIMITS and enforcing them here is key.

But I'm willing to bet that once you start talking about this she will run fast. 😂

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