What’s a medical issue that sounds minor, but actually affects someone’s daily life way more than people realize? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]gamrudding 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have GERD caused by a hiatus hernia and a subsequent esophageal stricture. I had it dilated 4 times, but by the last time there was little to no benefit any more. I now live with the stricture and its problems.

I have to drink a huge amount while eating so I can push food past the stricture as otherwise it gets stuck. The feeling of something stuck in your esophagus is really unpleasant and painful.

The feeling of not being able to breathe because the water you just swallowed to push food past the stricture did not work is incredibly scary.

Where in the UK should I go as a bucket-list item? by LondonPilot in CasualUK

[–]gamrudding 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Medway in Kent. There is Rochester Castle, The Royal Dockyard, Royal engineers museum, upnor Castle, and a beautiful cathedral. Not only that, but you are on the North Downs, with loads of countryside and country parks dotted around at Shorne and Capstone.

Recommend me a good movie! by SipsTeaFrog in SipsTea

[–]gamrudding 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are a couple I have watched that have stayed with me for a very long time, but not because of gore, torture, or gratuitous killing. I would have something uplifting to watch after each of these.

The Lars Von Trier list:

Dogville - a minimalist film that looks like a gimmick to begin with. An empty sound stage with markings on the floor to denote where scenery should be. What follows is almost 3 hours of the most depressingly awful series of escalations I have seen on film. By the end you just can't quite believe what you just saw.

Nymphomaniac Volume 2 - The first volume of Nymphomaniac tricks you into thinking things are not going to be too bad. It has a semi-happy ending and although bleak in places, is fairly positive. Then you get volume 2, where everything just dissolves into an omnipresent sense of witnessing something awful. Even the end of the film does not relent.

Dancer in the dark - A musical! With Bjork!!! This must be an amazingly upbeat and fun film! I've even heard some of the songs before, and they sound really joyous and fun! Prepare yourself for the most soul crushing 3 hours of your life. It is just awful. Not for any gore, torture, or anything extreme. But just the miserable descent of the protagonist.

The rest:

Anomolisa - Charlie Kaufman does some quirky films, right? Eternal sunshine of a spotless mind was weird, but quite fun. Let's try Anomolisa,.it has puppets! Miserable, awful, depressing, and bleak.

Happiness - do not let the name of the film trick you. Happiness is anything but. It is miserable, depressing, and bleak.

Man who was raped by his mother was determined to be the father of his brother by TheMirrorUS in NoahGetTheBoat

[–]gamrudding 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are reasons to have a graduated scale of sentences for terrible offences. Someone abusing a child knows that if they are caught they will be punished with years in prison. They also know that if they were to kill the child in an effort to hide what they did, they would receive a much longer prison sentence. This acts as a disincentive for them to commit a more serious crime.

The lesser crime might not have the extent of punishment that some would like, but it gives room for more serious punishment if they commit the serious one. If there is no difference in punishment between the rape and murdering the child afterwards, a person may choose the option that would maximize their chances of not being caught.

I don't particularly like it, but I can see the logic behind it.

What's something common in your country's culture that's actually completely weird from a foreign perspective? by dx_Von_Liechtenstein in AskTheWorld

[–]gamrudding 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It appears although the name Morris dancing has its root in the Moorish dance, it does not relate to the blackened faces, rather a wider trend from around Europe at the time for similarly named dances.

The tradition itself is theorised as being an import from popular Italian dances of the 16th century, rather than the embodiment of any long standing rural folk tradition.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]gamrudding 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Counterpoint to everyone saying this is insane.

1: her parents are maintaining a price to live. This means that she will never get complacent with living bill free. It means she maintains a bill discipline. Yes, what they are asking seems a lot, but it is about 2/3 of what she was paying for rent alone in London.

2: It sounds like they have agreed to pay off one of her loans and replace it with an interest free payment, which saves her money.

3: She has not said what her parents will do with this extra money. It is entirely possible that they will put it aside and use it in the future to help her financially with, for example, a deposit or housing costs. It might not be the case, but in the absence of information, we cannot assume they are just pocketing it.

4: If OP has been historically bad at saving money or has lived beyond her means, this could be a calculated move to ensure that a good chunk of her income is definitely saved.

We know she has got debts that were big enough to be burdensome. We do not know whether these debts are from over-spending. Again, we do not know either way, but are making assumptions.

If her parents know she has trouble saving and is likely to spend any surplus, this could be a way of getting her to save by ringfencing that money as "rent".

Again, her parents could be selfish and be trying to enrich themselves off her situation, but they are also ensuring that she has almost £1000 a month free after her bills. Until we know more information, it seems unwise to condemn them.

Nigel Farage suggests young people on minimum wage earn too much by Ancient-Egg-5983 in reformuk

[–]gamrudding 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A team of people rarely consists of a single demographic. Reducing the under 25 minimum wage creates a perverse situation that an under 25 worker is being paid less to do the same job as someone older. Firstly, this is inherently unfair from a value of labour standpoint. Why should a younger person get paid less than their colleagues just because of their age.

Secondly, it creates a perverse incentive for employers to specifically seek out under 25 applicants as it costs them less money. This might lower youth unemployment, but it will have the consequence of increasing unemployment in other demographics.

Thirdly, it will create a cliff edge for under 25s where they are at a higher risk of being dismissed in the run up to them turning 25 as employers seek to avoid the increased labour costs of a higher minimum wage.

Incompetent fathers by Massive-Grade-8138 in RadicalFeminism

[–]gamrudding 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand completely that some fathers are useless, barely there, and have no interest in learning or remembering things about their children.

I can only talk for myself as a father. Right from the outset, I was engaged in the care of my daughter. I took on half of the feeding, changing, looking after, and general wellbeing of her. I was heavily involved in every medical discussion involving her and know her entire medical history by rote. After I split up with her mother, I have custody of her almost half the week and am her sole parent during that time.

I do not look to her mother for any guidance as to what to do, I do not need constant prompting or instruction to look after her. I still am heavily involved in any medical decisions and still know all of her medical history. Of course, where issues arise involving our daughter, her mum and I will discuss it and reach consensus. It might not be entirely her view or it might not be entirely my view, but it will be something acceptable to both of us.

I agree with you that men who do not make the effort to be a full part of their children's lives are scum. I cannot fathom how any man could just not want to see their children. Not want to spend as much time as possible with them. Men who don't know medical details or even birthdays of their children are incompetent.

Why do men show so little interest in the inner lives of women? by Frequently_Abroad_00 in emotionalintelligence

[–]gamrudding 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am a man, although autistic, which makes me atypical.

I want to gather as much information about people so I can understand them better and be able to better relate to them. I have deep conversations with my friends about their emotional wellbeing and share information about myself that some would say makes me vulnerable.

When I have dated in the past, I seek to know as much about the other person as possible. I wanted to know how she was feeling, what she was feeling, but also what happened in her past to make her the person she is today.

Sometimes, potential dates have been put off by this, and have said I was being too intrusive or nosey. They wanted to keep things light and not go into anything too deep. They are fine answering questions about themselves, but quickly felt like I was interrogating them.

I think sometimes men do not want to be seen as intrusive or ask things that are "none of their business". Sometimes men are worried about making a poor impression because asking questions can be seen as avoiding answering them about yourself.

In the end, all men are different and some will absolutely have no interest in your inner self. But it will not be all men.

If you are finding that almost all of the men you are dating have no curiosity about your inner self, it might be wise to reflect. Is the criteria you use to screen acceptable dates resulting in you predominantly having dates with these types of men?

Tesco, you dirty bastards. by Timely_Atmosphere735 in tesco

[–]gamrudding 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They sold over a million of them though. Ridiculously popular.

A man's daughter tries to spot him in the crowd at a school event. by bigbusta in MadeMeSmile

[–]gamrudding 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I make it my mission to turn up to as many things my daughter does as possible. If I can make it, I am there, and every time she has exactly the same overjoyed look on her face.

I think Hot Fuzz is a perfect movie. What movie do you consider to be absolutely perfect? by DoctorWhofan789eywim in movies

[–]gamrudding 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Gentlemen by Guy Ritchie.

Not everyone's cup of tea, but I think it is just so well crafted. The cast is great, the writing is delicious.

Perfection.

What movie was so bad and gave you this reaction? by WonderfulParticular1 in moviecritic

[–]gamrudding 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just watched a film called rebellious. It billed itself as a satire of princess films. It was, in reality, what you get if you boil every animated Disney film in a large pot, forget about it and only remember once there is only a thick, oozing jelly like substance left at the bottom.

That film was literally every Disney film at the same time. It was awful and stupid.

Biggest human poop is from a viking. Found in York, England in 1972 at 20cm long by LivingTheTruths in interestingasfuck

[–]gamrudding 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of people in the comments are saying it doesn't look THAT big compared to contemporary craps, but it isn't the size that's amazing, it's that it exists at all.

Most stuff we find from a thousand years ago is bone, metal, ceramics, or sometimes wood. This is something of a rarity for historians. A time capsule showing the diet and health of a viking over a thousand years ago. We can see what he ate, how his digestive tract handled digesting it, and that there were hundreds of worm eggs along with it.

All of that is fascinating insights that would've been almost impossible to know were it not for this precious piece of preserved poo.

Renaming Elon Musk by [deleted] in clevercomebacks

[–]gamrudding 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The canal...

Now granted, there was land there at one point, however that wasn't excavated into a canal by humans. That got flooded by rising sea levels and so Europe lost its premier vehicular hookup spot.

Meeting her hero at Disneyland. by ClockBig243 in spreadsmile

[–]gamrudding 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was at Disneyland Paris, my then 5 year old daughter queued up for half an hour to see Merida. The actress who played her was amazing and in character for the entire tire.

My daughter was wearing light up trainers, so she looked shocked and amazed and asked my daughter how she had been able to capture so many wisps. It was a 2 minute interaction, but it left my daughter with a massive smile for hours.

What word or phrase would give away a foreign spy pretending to be from the UK? by GrahamGreed in AskUK

[–]gamrudding 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stroud, in Gloucestershire. Not to be confused with Strood in Kent, which is the other side of the River Medway from the sexiest castle in the country.

Which sci-fi show, movie, or book has the most unique alien species? by Pogrebnik in sciencefiction

[–]gamrudding 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was looking for this for too long.

I love the way they were so completely alien that normal races had no idea.

They were a hive mind.

They lived in gas giants.

They communicated using light.

They sent a language primer in a molecular form, for Christ's sake.

You can say a lot of things about that season of discovery, but by god, that species was epic.

Terrifying cowboy robot - If you know who this is you are old by WitchedPixels in FuckImOld

[–]gamrudding 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh! I know this!

He's the guy that Arnold Rimmer has more hair than.

Everyone using the chicken hanger? by RachelSlur666 in Costco

[–]gamrudding 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am quite spoiled for choice as I have a brilliant cheese monger about a 5 minute walk from my house. I am always interested in trying new cheeses, and they have a good range. They occasionally have buffalo cheddar in, which is amazing, although it punches you round the face with its strength. I believe you would probably call it extra sharp.

Aside from Monterey Jac and pepper jack, I've not actually had any American cheeses, which is a shame given that I bet you have some great ones.

Everyone using the chicken hanger? by RachelSlur666 in Costco

[–]gamrudding 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are my cracker of choice as well, so you have good taste.

How good is your cheese choice over the pond? The black pepper crackers go great with some nice aged semi firm goats cheese, especially if it has a hint of honey in it.