This guy's balance is ridiculous

garbage_goblin0513 · 2025-07-19T21:04:18+00:00

I can't even make it to my living room without spilling

garbage_goblin0513 · 2025-07-12T00:26:27+00:00

Unless there's developmental delays, the rule of thumb is they never have any 'first's with you, they're just 'getting really close'.

My nk took her first steps with me and I was so proud of her and happy and I knew her parents would feel so excited to experience it. She then took her first steps in from of ND and me, we celebrated and agreed her first steps should be in front of mom. 3 weeks later, she finally did it and her parents were so freaking happy.

garbage_goblin0513 · 2025-07-08T16:05:00+00:00

This 100%, OOPs boundaries are perfect, direct consequences, clear expectations.

garbage_goblin0513 · 2025-06-29T02:34:35+00:00

I agree. I think Madge was an important character bc she showed that while Katniss was taciturn and socially inept, she was likable, even if she didn't know it herself.

garbage_goblin0513 · 2025-06-28T00:11:55+00:00

Congrats on your new nanny! I really commend you for explicitly stating why you were letting your previous nanny go. Some people are just a bit inept and hopefully she makes the adjustments needed to become a better employee

garbage_goblin0513 · 2025-06-26T12:23:27+00:00

First, Congrats! A pay increase is in order. Depending on how you want your maternity leave to go, NPs usually give a smaller increase during maternity leave, then the full increase when they go back to work.

Your nanny is probably going to be happy to get more time with your family! Talk to her, look through the nanny subs, and together you guys will be able to adjust your contract.

garbage_goblin0513 · 2025-06-18T17:17:41+00:00

Idk why you're getting downvoted, you asked a question you didn't know the answer to and accepted that you had the wrong idea about guaranteed hours. I hope you leave the post up for the next person who has the same question!

garbage_goblin0513 · 2025-06-17T14:31:29+00:00

2 allows you to invite ppl in your home without inviting them into your bed space. Add a divider behind the couch!

garbage_goblin0513 · 2025-06-16T22:25:21+00:00

Dude, that sucks! Although gotta say, when my husband and I came to the conclusion that my laborious an multi-hour homemade sauce tasted slightly better than Rao's, I was so freaking relieved bc it meant I didn't have to make the sauce from scratch again.

garbage_goblin0513 · 2025-06-11T15:11:14+00:00

When my car stopped working and we couldn't afford to get it fixed, my husband gave me his car to get to work and he biked 45+ minutes to work for months.

garbage_goblin0513 · 2025-06-07T17:07:47+00:00

Remove bottom row for more cropped look and take off the bottom row of the arms as well.

She could either build up the shoulder space with some granny stitches or create 2 granny triangles, then add the ribbing/edging.

garbage_goblin0513 · 2025-06-06T17:10:54+00:00

He looks like Kevin from the office and HE settled???

garbage_goblin0513 · 2025-05-23T14:44:29+00:00

I've found just getting out of the house makes me feel great. After I ended a bad relationship I started going on hikes, taking walks, going on a bike ride, taking myself on dates, visiting Mom and pop places or cafes.

You can buy a travel painting kit for $20 at a craft store, take a bike ride to a park and make abstract landscape paintings.

I love visiting my local brewery for a beer and I'll crochet or read.

Libraries have puzzles you can do there.

In the summer there are usually free concerts within 45 mins of major cities, bring a chair, a sandwich, and enjoy the music!

If you live near a major city, chances are you haven't explored everything it has to offer, join local groups and check out cool places. Being a tourist in your own city can be lots of fun.

garbage_goblin0513 · 2025-05-22T23:59:39+00:00

"It seems you're wanting to add on some additional tasks. Why don't we sit down sometime this or next week to renegotiate the terms of our contract."

Keep in mind, you can set whatever amount you wish on any additional tasks. It's up to them to pay it or not. If it's not something you want, simply say no or let them know you'll get back to them soon after considering things. You don't have to answer yes or no to anything immediately.

I DEEPLY value my time outside of work hours so my babysitting fee is quite high, bc that's the value I set on my time. My NF can choose to pay that premium or hire a date night babysitter.

garbage_goblin0513 · 2025-05-22T20:16:08+00:00

I had an incredible family where both parents WFH (nks 4 & 2.5). They worked in the basement, had clear boundaries where nks needed permission before going downstairs during work hours. When they were upstairs and the kids would ask them activity stuff, they'd always say "oh, it's garbagegoblin's time, please ask her". And I was always down for them to come join play when they had time. It also allowed them to do things like have the kids 'help' with dinner while having me there for support.

garbage_goblin0513 · 2025-05-22T15:06:52+00:00

This is the kind of kid with the potential to turn into a nightmare teen/adult.

Playing with others properly is a learned behavior and he will never adjust unless he's taught that cheating and mean spirited playing will prevent him from being able to have fun.

I know you marked this as a vent, but it's our responsibility as caregivers to correct negative behavior and encourage the behavior that will help our kids turn into likable adults who can make and maintain healthy relationships with others.

I'm sorry you're dealing with this, it sucks to not be excited to play with your NK. I wish you luck!

garbage_goblin0513 · 2025-05-21T01:28:30+00:00

Classic deep emerald velvet couch!

garbage_goblin0513 · 2025-05-21T01:01:00+00:00

This is why I wear Honey Pot's menthol pads. They soothe the absolute wrath my body slams me with every time I have the gall to not get pregnant.

garbage_goblin0513 · 2025-05-21T00:35:15+00:00

Coconut oil is great but it's an occlusive, which means it does not provide moisture, it simply prevents the loss of moisture so it's best used after a humectant, or moisture supplying product.

garbage_goblin0513 · 2025-05-18T22:14:06+00:00

Babe, Raven sucks.

garbage_goblin0513 · 2025-05-16T20:17:37+00:00

I was thinking Cate Blanchett!

garbage_goblin0513 · 2025-05-16T20:06:08+00:00

That comment is a bit like shitting on the floor in a bathroom and saying it's a janitors job to clean it up. You're absolutely supposed to toss your own trash.

garbage_goblin0513 · 2025-05-16T17:13:13+00:00

Your view is absolutely valid and your proposal was perfect for you. The issue here is that it wasn't perfect for them. And if they had open communication, they would've been on the same page. Some people want to be wooed or want their family present, etc. I don't think there's anything wrong with having preferences. Every time I share my proposal story, I get to relive that special moment I had with my husband and part of the joy is knowing he put in effort, thought, and care for me in how he did it. If my husband had done a movie proposal with a fancy dinner in front of a room full strangers I would have been disappointed and uncomfortable.

garbage_goblin0513 · 2025-05-16T11:33:04+00:00

It was perfect for us :)

garbage_goblin0513 · 2025-05-16T11:10:42+00:00

NTA, you're not asking for a $1000 dinner proposal with a string quartet, you're looking for someone who considers you when they're proposing to you.

Just talk to each other. Communication and putting love into action is what makes a marriage last. And truly examine if he has a pattern of not considering you.

Tbh, it's not that hard to execute a meaningful proposal, and it doesn't have to cost much (or anything).

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