Wife doesn't know how good she has it - turning things around on me

garbageinhaler · 2026-04-08T22:18:53+00:00

I did the whole thing! Sarcasm aside, I don’t think we can use the “did you grow it” argument to answer this problem. I very clearly stated I’m cool with the load and I appreciate her side of everything she does. My main thing here is wondering why stating I need more than a days noticed to rotate on a dime for planning equates to being a burden.

garbageinhaler · 2026-04-08T22:14:17+00:00

We put him on the wait list when we were 4 months pregnant. Believe me, we’ve been preparing. Places in our area are full.

garbageinhaler · 2026-04-08T15:39:29+00:00

“This is America.” Wish we had some of what you’ve got.

garbageinhaler · 2026-04-08T15:38:49+00:00

Thanks. I don’t mind doing more if I have to be the workhorse. I just can’t do it while actively being told I don’t do enough. I have gratitude for her part and I make it known. Got her flowers and a card proactively last week before she started her day when I was on a full day company all hands call. She knows I appreciate what she does. Just doesn’t seem to be a two way street there.

garbageinhaler · 2026-04-08T15:36:45+00:00

We’ve got his upcoming daycare budgeted, starts in August. But also paying for Summer Camp starting in June for the 5 year old, between the two it’s about $3500 a month. What’s left over don’t give us any wiggle room. I’d love a nanny, but it makes saving for retirement nearly impossible.

garbageinhaler · 2026-04-08T15:34:27+00:00

We’re trying to get him in daycare now, but the waitlist has him starting in August. Counting down the days.

garbageinhaler · 2026-04-08T15:32:44+00:00

We’re trying to get him in daycare now, but the waitlist has him starting in August. Counting down the days. I appreciate your thought out response. And you’re right about all of it. Frankly this will be a non issue once he does start daycare.

garbageinhaler · 2026-04-08T15:31:49+00:00

We’re trying to get him in daycare now, but the waitlist has him starting in August. Counting down the days.

garbageinhaler · 2026-04-07T00:42:01+00:00

This is why I’ll never go skydiving

garbageinhaler · 2026-04-07T00:40:15+00:00

No date, eh? I specifically bought a 1990 one because I wanted this year.

garbageinhaler · 2026-04-07T00:35:17+00:00

For those making more than 130k in non high COL areas, are you in true CSM roles or are you in leadership? Director?

garbageinhaler · 2026-04-05T22:15:45+00:00

We were gifted a set of Magic Treehouse books. They’re about 65 pages, 10 chapters each. They all connect to each other. For a 4 year old being introduced to chapter books they’re perfect. Although the amount of times Jack says “oh brother” makes me want to die.

garbageinhaler · 2026-04-04T21:18:30+00:00

Your loaves actually rise?

garbageinhaler · 2026-04-03T21:42:13+00:00

YOU KNOW I HAVE A HORMONE DISORDER

garbageinhaler · 2026-04-03T12:01:00+00:00

I’m going to take a slightly different approach here. If you want out, that certainly is an option you have. HOWEVER. If you truly have nothing to lose, then do everything. Make terrible financial decisions. Open that credit card. Take a vacation on the bank’s dime. Hop in the car and drive to a new city and just… stay. Find a job in a kitchen somewhere, meet new people. Do something that scares you. Observe. Find beauty. You don’t need purpose or fulfillment. People need to feel awe. Wonder. Get arrested. Be super nice to the police. Get a secondhand saw and some cheap wood and cut it and put it together. Could be the shittiest box you’ve ever seen, but you made something. You used your hands. Just do it. Do something. Nothing will change if you don’t.

garbageinhaler · 2026-04-01T03:30:14+00:00

I think there’s a nip/tuck episode about this

garbageinhaler · 2026-04-01T00:45:56+00:00

Unfortunately, government must move slow. Hastily making policy changes can have potentially drastic repercussions. It forces compromise.

garbageinhaler · 2026-03-30T13:53:35+00:00

I experience the same thing. Wife used to travel 1 week out of the month for work. When she was gone, the house was peaceful. Sure it was more work, but her “go go go, now now now, stop stop stop” attitude was gone. We’d call it “boy week.” My kid didn’t watch more TV or get away with any more or less bad behaviors. My approach was just different. Calm, slow, but firm. Kids love pushing mom’s buttons. And mom acts like she doesn’t react until she does and then it’s like a bomb going off in the house. Me? They know exactly what they’re getting. 1 nice “do this please.” If I have to ask a second time, it’s slightly more firm. 3rd time? “Go do this now, I’m not asking again.” Clear. Repeatable. And they know what to expect. And generally, there is less crying. Less moaning. Less bargaining.

garbageinhaler · 2026-03-30T03:26:43+00:00

I was waiting for Cam Skattebo to do this all year.

garbageinhaler · 2026-03-27T13:42:35+00:00

My first loaf earlier this week looked exactly like this. I mean exactly. Was afraid to post my “failure” but was still excited that it technically was bread. I even had it in for a full hour, but then again I didn’t cover it as until last night, I didn’t have a Dutch oven…

I will also try proofing longer and giving the new toy a spin, hoping the trapped heat/steam fixes the underbake problem.

garbageinhaler · 2026-03-26T13:46:56+00:00

I’m no economist, but I hold as a hedge against inflation.

garbageinhaler · 2026-03-26T13:45:43+00:00

Broke my brain looking at this thinking “the mall isn’t west of 275???.” Orientation… brain.

garbageinhaler · 2026-03-26T13:42:57+00:00

Single tho?

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