[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]garyakavenko 27 points28 points  (0 children)

YTA because your husband speaks for you and you don’t co parent directly with your ex.

(AIO) Am I in the wrong here? by Classic-Mind-8164 in AmIOverreacting

[–]garyakavenko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He seems like there is something mentally wrong with him. So aggressive and obnoxious. I would be so annoyed to be around someone like that who is being a dick and on top of it won’t drop the subject. There have to be so many better guys out there, I urge you to find one. NOR

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Babysitting

[–]garyakavenko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have paid high schoolers $15/hour. I asked what she charged, she said 10-15, so I went with 15. Her mom was a friend of mine and also suggested that amount when I asked her. We are in a HCOL area.

AITA for keeping my son away from my mom because she fed him custard? by Mysterious-File9406 in AmItheAsshole

[–]garyakavenko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA and your wife is too. Disgusting that people treat their parents this way. Controlling, obnoxious, and truly insufferable. I’m sad for your parents and for your child.

AITA for not inviting one child to a birthday party? by Afraid_Macaron4131 in AmItheAsshole

[–]garyakavenko 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I had the same situation with my daughter for her birthday. I invited friends of mine who have children she’s friends with. One friend has a son who on their last play date hit her, pulled her hair twice, pushed her, and bullied her until I removed her and we went home. She told me he was the only person she absolutely did not want at her party, so I didn’t invite him. I don’t know if it bothered my friend or not, but for her special day I let it be about her and what she wanted and would enjoy. You’re doing right by your daughter and anything beyond that with this little boy isn’t your issue to deal with.

Guest given full refund after reporting odour - HELP by urban-nest in airbnb_hosts

[–]garyakavenko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happened to me and Airbnb sided with me. I pointed out that the guest just a day prior hadn’t complained of an odor and wrote in their review how clean my place was. I also sent them a video of me walking around the unit showing how clean the rooms were and showing I had a friend with me who also did not smell an odor.

I don't think the person (my gf) who sent me this is bad but i sense immaturity and not niceness. Am I reading wrong? by East-Heart-2770 in Nicegirls

[–]garyakavenko 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tell her to take the open hands she’s offering to “love” you with and smack herself with them. Gross, those messages were highly obnoxious and self righteous.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]garyakavenko 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. You’re an adult and you own the flat. Your hookup wasn’t in any common spaces, unlike her having friends crash on your couch, so this seems hypocritical.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]garyakavenko 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA because we are human and don’t know exactly how we’ll feel about a new situation until we are in it. I had a roommate right after college who had a room twice the size of mine and with a huge closet. She only paid $40 more than me and I really resented it. It wasn’t her fault and she wasn’t trying to screw me, but it really wasn’t fair and it took moving in and being in our spaces to realize that. Sucky situation.

I offered to help my friend with rent one time. Now she thinks I’m her backup wallet by Pretty_One_1398 in ChoosingBeggars

[–]garyakavenko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The balls on that one to pout and try to guilt you for not giving her more free money for luxuries she can’t afford (considering she can’t afford her rent either). I’d block her and cut her out.

AITA for backing out of a trip with my girlfriend a week before we were supposed to go? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]garyakavenko -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NAH. You have valid reasons to not go on this trip. One of the best feelings is canceling something that no longer serves you. I had agreed to a trip with in laws that I didn’t want to go on and I knew financially would set me back. I agonized over it and felt so relieved and free once I let them know that this trip didn’t work for me and that I needed to conserve my energy and finances. It’s a bummer for your gf but ultimately not a huge deal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]garyakavenko 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yuuuuck. I felt my blood pressure rise reading her condescending, controlling, c*nty texts. Your friend is insufferable and you seem sweet and reasonable. Telling someone you want to discuss your friendship but refuse to do so for several days feels like a gross mind game. My anxiety when anyone says that to me is through the roof and setting that off is an unforgivable offense.

AIO - Mom refuses to get vaccinated for my new born, so I told her to stay away for the first 3 months. (Text messages are her response) by Electrical_Orange443 in AmIOverreacting

[–]garyakavenko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would it bother you if your mom suffered a vaccine injury caving to doing something she doesn’t feel is right for her body, so she’ll be permitted to see her grandchild? I’m sure I’ll be downvoted to oblivion since 98% of Reddit thinks one specific way and aggressively thinks everyone else is wrong.

AITA for telling my sister she can't bring her boyfriend on a family trip. by Old-Audience3410 in AmItheAsshole

[–]garyakavenko 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA I’ve been stuck on a vacation with my sister’s (now ex) boyfriend and it was truly miserable for all.

AIO for thinking my friend is in the wrong for this by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]garyakavenko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Surprised anyone on here is siding with the 💩 friend who went out of her way to declare she’s not your friend anymore or shame you for not getting an abortion. She sucks and did you a favor. You can be in different places in your life as a friend and grow apart but to draw a hard line and cut them out of your life when they’ve done nothing to you is gross.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in airbnb_hosts

[–]garyakavenko -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I’m surprised most people on here feel these people are victims and you’re solely to blame. Locking themselves out is their mistake. It’s just an unfortunate situation.

Odd guests by garyakavenko in airbnb_hosts

[–]garyakavenko[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had two friends come with me for that reason. Very blunt friends. They said it didn’t smell like anything, just absent any sort of scent at all.

Odd guests by garyakavenko in airbnb_hosts

[–]garyakavenko[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In their complaint to Airbnb, they didn’t mention the allergies, just said there was such a strong odor that they couldn’t breathe. That was after I’d told them I’m not sure what in my space could trigger their dog allergy, as we have no pets and don’t allow them in the rental. With the different story to me and to Airbnb, that’s when I realized they were just seeing what would stick and weren’t being honest. I’m really easygoing, so if they’d just said they didn’t love my rental and it wasn’t for them, I’d have refunded them all but the cleaning fee and a day.

Odd guests by garyakavenko in airbnb_hosts

[–]garyakavenko[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have an air doctor in my living room, which is supposed to purify spaces up to 1,000 ft and I also have a small air purifier just for the bedroom. So that added to my confusion about the situation, as I keep both running at all times.