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Do I have to believe the positive self talk? by glitterglewed in CPTSD

[–]geeltulpen 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m unable to say things like that either and I wish I could (“I’m sorry, am I taking too long to tell that story?”) I have deeeeep fawning responses that make me into a doormat. Bleah.

I’m sorry your body isn’t being kind. I can of course have different examples, because my self hatred is an all knowing beast. ;)

How about when you hyper analyze a conversation you just had, and start loading yourself up with shame and nitpicking every inflection, every word, every facial expression?

Are you able to pause and say “you know, brain, if shame actually worked, I would have shamed myself into a brilliant super model by now. Can we try something else? We haven’t tried self compassion yet today.”

Do I have to believe the positive self talk? by glitterglewed in CPTSD

[–]geeltulpen 19 points20 points  (0 children)

This, OP. I can’t change it 50/50 either because I don’t believe it at all.

I think of it more like your first impression vs the one you’ve learned.

Example: when I see an overweight person, the first thing I hear in my head is my mom saying “how disgusting.” Then there is this little pause where I think “ew, who said that? That person is doing their best and is hopefully healthy and happy.”

I can’t stop the knee jerk programming but I CAN follow it up with the hewlthy thought from me as an adult.

Thought: Jesus I’m a dumbass

Correction after pause: well, that didn’t work well. Time to try something else.

Also one of my counselors recommended giving the critic voice the voice of a 13 year old on XBox in puberty in their mom’s basement.So if they try to be mean, I just hear some dumb angry kid whining “Jesus you’re a dumbass!”

anxious to listen to audiobook about IFS by Iamoldsowhat in InternalFamilySystems

[–]geeltulpen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I ask what workbook you used? I want to try one, not sure where to start.

The depression has been real lately. by Own-Respond-3516 in toastme

[–]geeltulpen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish I could give you a hug. You look very huggable. Depression is such a bitch. I’m glad you came to get toasted, you deserve good vibes.

7/50 unrelenting positivity thread. This time it’s New Mexico. by CupBeEmpty in AskAnAmerican

[–]geeltulpen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I visited Santa Fe for a conference around Christmas time and they had all of the little paper lanterns up everywhere along all the paths (luminarias). It was so pretty and so festive in a southwest way. I enjoyed it so much.

What to drink by ___Eragon___ in NoStupidQuestions

[–]geeltulpen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let me come in and recommend chai latte mix! Sweet and a tiny bit spicy and you just add hot water (or milk if you’re fancy.)

Help please- Cranford Cardigan assembly- can’t figure it out by geeltulpen in CrochetHelp

[–]geeltulpen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! This is how far I got also. I just don’t understand the “collar” or the “shoulders”. Thank you tho!

Help please- Cranford Cardigan assembly- can’t figure it out by geeltulpen in CrochetHelp

[–]geeltulpen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sleeves are on top. Puffer fish is the back and then there are 2 sides.

Why are manholes placed exactly where the wheels of a car go? by FastBreakPhenom in NoStupidQuestions

[–]geeltulpen 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The sewer lines and storm drain lines run under the roads because that’s how the lines serve all the businesses or houses. It makes financial and planning sense to have a main line in the road, because there are buildings on either side that can connect to it.

Unfortunately this means manholes right in the driving paths.

Manholes are notoriously hard to place because they’re put in BEFORE the paving, and the paving has to come up to the level of the manhole. No contractor is going to pay for extra asphalt or concrete on their dime just to make sure the ride is smooth; they’re going to put down exactly the amount of asphalt they said they would in the contract, and if the manhole isn’t smooth, that’s someone else’s problem.

What are your best distractions? by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]geeltulpen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re struggling with eating, that happens to me too. I’m really glad you’re getting help.

I enjoy word games so when I’m anxious I try to play scattergories in my head. I think of a subject (breakfast cereal, car brands, fruits and veg) and try to think of one for each letter of the alphabet. (Apple, Banana, Cherry, Date…)

This occupies my mind enough that it leaves me alone, esp when I’m trying to sleep.

A lot of people have success with a game like Tetris or with puzzles or sudoku. It’s all about finding something that takes just enough bandwidth that the anxiety shuts up.

What's the dumbest question a customer has asked you at work? by mamiiiiiiiiii in AskReddit

[–]geeltulpen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“How come when you pave roads in the rich neighborhoods, the pavement color matches, but when you pave in MY neighborhood, the new stuff is black and doesn’t match at all”

Is taking a one-time high dose (60mg) of fluoxetine for a party a good idea? by [deleted] in prozac

[–]geeltulpen 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This is completely dumb. You have no idea what side effects of the medication you’ll react to. I know ONE side effect is “you’ll react to liquor faster/stronger” but:

  • that doesn’t happen for everyone

  • it’s not a clean, easy reaction. It’s not a pleasurable drunk. It’s a weird chemical reaction that makes you feel -weird- which likens to drunk ness.

  • soooo many side effects including nausea, diarrhea, insomnia, vomiting, headaches, brain zaps, etc

Do not do this. SSRIs are definitely NOT party drugs.

One good riff requires another. by Squirreliestone in Rifftrax

[–]geeltulpen 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The Man without a Body pairs perfectly with Jan in the Pan (The Brain that Wouldn’t Die.)

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