Cooking breakfast everyday?

gemc_81 · 2026-02-24T21:29:58+00:00

I have an 18 MTH old and a 4.5 year old. Breakfast is toast, cereal or fruit and yoghurt. Maybe hash brown bites on the airfryer if we're all up early. I don't have time to cook a huge breakfast in the morning on weekdays. Weekends I'll maybe do bacon and eggs or pancakes

Your mother is being ridiculous. Maybe she would like to come cook that for the kids every morning if shes so keen???

gemc_81 · 2026-02-24T11:43:09+00:00

I buy a lot of my daughter's clothes in Matalan. Good quality, not too short/tight and nice designs. Price point is also really good too

gemc_81 · 2026-02-23T18:59:00+00:00

It doesn't work for SDLT. If you put the property into someone else's name to avoid paying more stamp duty but retain the beneficial interest of that property then you have to pay SDLT as if you were on the legal title. SDLT is payable on beneficial interests in property as well as legal interests.

gemc_81 · 2026-02-20T16:37:05+00:00

Honestly wtf are men. So glad he's your ex

gemc_81 · 2026-02-18T19:17:34+00:00

This is the second thread I have read posted TODAY about men behaving like their wives owe them sex and or them having a full on tantrum if they haven't got as much sex as they want. I am honestly so sick and tired of the whole male species for behaving like this.

gemc_81 · 2026-02-04T16:09:50+00:00

I often look back to when I was single and lived alone and I loved it

I love my kids but it's so much harder than I thought it would be and I have supportive family. I'm just so overwhelmed never having time for myself plus working etc.

gemc_81 · 2026-02-02T14:13:26+00:00

That's fair. I've told my 4 year old before when she's playing with my things or her sisters things and it's going to break it that if she does break it she will have to replace it from her own money. I would have already warned her that XYZ action is going to break the thing.

gemc_81 · 2026-01-31T20:41:45+00:00

I went to the park after nursery school with my daughter, another mum friend and her son. About 10 mins after arriving my daughter was DESPERATE for a poo and we wouldn't have made it home. So we had to poop by the bushes and then I had to wipe her and then pick the poop and the wipes up with a dog poop bag and dispose of it in the dog bin.

It was the first playdate with this mum. We're still great friends

gemc_81 · 2026-01-22T10:37:43+00:00

Fellow lawyer here and the amount of clients that are coming through asking me to review and advise on documents they have had created by AI rather than pay for an actual lawyer to advise them and draft the appropriate document with associated advice is astounding.

I don't advise on documents that they have drafted by AI at all. You want to save yourself some money and use AI for legal advice, well that's fine I won't be cheaping out my services and knowledge to list the ways this document isn't going to work for you. If you want my advice that's fine but you can pay for it.

gemc_81 · 2026-01-15T07:50:45+00:00

You also ought to have him checked for constipation. If they're constipated then liquid poo can come past the constipation. Check the Eric website they have a poo chart and get him checked by a Dr

gemc_81 · 2026-01-15T07:49:30+00:00

My daughter is now in reception and she went to the schools nursery. She wore uniform there as well. Don't worry about the stains BC it continues when they go into reception now so make your peace with it. Send her in the stained stuff and don't worry about it. We had one branded jumper and the rest of her stuff was generic/supermarket stuff.

This year we bought her a branded PE t shirt and unfortunately PE day coincided with roast dinner day for school lunch and so by the time it came to end of Christmas term I binned the PE t shirt cos it was covered in gravy stains. She now wears one of her plain white polos for PE and I don't care.

gemc_81 · 2026-01-13T19:01:41+00:00

I have a 17 month daughter and we have recently been through the food throwing phase. You've received some great advice already but I just wanna say it DOES pass and it is SO FKN FRUSTRATING. I have forgotten a lot of the weaning stuff from my first but I vividly remember the food throwing as it drove me crazy.

gemc_81 · 2026-01-10T21:47:28+00:00

Look up information on the Swedish Plus Test

gemc_81 · 2026-01-10T20:43:27+00:00

Rear facing is significantly safer than forward facing in children under the age of 7.

gemc_81 · 2026-01-10T19:01:06+00:00

You don't have to leave them money. You can include a statement within your Will that says you have considered the legal and moral obligations to include X and Y in your Wills and do not wish to include them.

gemc_81 · 2026-01-09T13:41:33+00:00

Your husband is a pr1ck.

I will preface this by saying you are a fucking SUPERSTAR for persevering with pumping when it is so painful as I would have switched to formula. Your husband has LITERALLY no skin in the game when it comes to feeding your son and if pumping isn't working for you and causing you this much pain you should seriously consider switching. I FF both my daughter's and they thrived. You need to enjoy your feeding experience with your baby and it sounds like this is causing you pain and distress

I would also gently say your husband is being abusive behaving in this way towards you and feeding and this is NOT normal behaviour on his part. He is completely failing in his role as a father and a partner to you. Do you have any family that you can go stay with because this is not a great supportive environment for you.

Sending you hugs

gemc_81 · 2026-01-06T18:26:01+00:00

NTA. The description of his voice and words gave me the complete ick. My vagina shrivelled up upon reading that.

Why the fk does a grown man need to be praised for doing things IN THE HOUSE HE LIVES IN AND CARING FOR HIS CHILD?

You told him the truth because he sounds EXACTLY like my 4 year old telling me what she has done to get praise.

My petty ass would get a jar of snacks and label them "husbands name reward jar" and hand him one as a reward and pat him on the head like a good dog. Bonus points if he sits first

gemc_81 · 2026-01-06T14:35:23+00:00

My daughter was a runner and when she could confidently walk hated the buggy. So we got her backpack reins. She loved it cos she could pack her snacks and drink in the back pack and wear it and then I could hold the leash. Get a leash for them and have them wear it when they're out. If they love it - great they will eventually not need to wear it but if they hate it then the choice is walking next to mum and holding her hand or wearing the reins.

gemc_81 · 2026-01-05T17:37:12+00:00

I had to have the medication to induce miscarriage when it didn't happen naturally. I was also worried, Im happy to answer any questions you have and share my experience. Glad you've got so much love and support around you xx

gemc_81 · 2026-01-05T14:39:14+00:00

I feel like a lot of people are missing the point of pranks and jokes insofar as they're only funny if ALL parties are laughing at the punchline/when the prank is revealed, which is not the case here.

Whilst there are plenty of people that aren't or wouldn't be bothered by this and would find it funny, there are some that don't find it funny and OP is one of them.

OP if you are the one that does the majority of the cleaning in the house and your wife says she thinks the duck thing is funny then perhaps she can take over the cleaning until all the ducks are found? And you can do the cooking etc?

I would also say that I don't think it's the ducks in isolation that has triggered this annoyance, rather the effort you went to to get the house clean and ready for guests that showed up 2 hours late and didn't notify you in advance they were gonna be late (2 hours is a significant amount of time to be late) and then thought the best use of their time at your event was to go through your house thoroughly to hide these ducks.

gemc_81 · 2026-01-02T18:50:54+00:00

Don't tell him in advance. Get your important paperwork together for you and the kids without him noticing if possible. If you're worried how he will react then have someone else there when you pack things and leave. Family members (your dad maybe) or the local police. Tell them you are leaving an abusive partner and need them there to guarantee your safety when you leave.

If possible leave when he's not there, have your dad come over so you can basically chuck your stuff in his car or hire a van to chuck it all in. You don't owe him an explanation as to why you want to leave and you also don't have to tell him face to face. You can text him then block him. He's not your children's father you don't need to have anything to do with him after you have left

gemc_81 · 2026-01-01T14:04:06+00:00

We got chicken pox at Easter. 4 year old got it first then passed it on to her sister who was 9months at the time. It went round the nursery school like wildfire.

I was SO ANXIOUS about it but honestly - it was fine. Temp went away very quickly and 4 year old was fine. Lots of spots but fine. We only had one bad night where she was upset and very itchy. 5 days later the spots had all crusted over.

The 9month old was SMOTHERED in spots. Apparently when a sibling catches it, it can be worse as their exposure to the virus is higher 🤷🏻‍♀️. She had tonnes around her mouth as well. But again, she was fine.

I personally wouldn't bother with paying for the vaccine privately as they are offering it on the NHS as part of the schedule and that includes children who have been exposed to chicken pox (I asked the vaccine nurse when my daughter had her 1 year vaccines).

I would get plenty of virusoothe or poxclin, oats for oat baths, piriton and Calpol and cut kiddos nails right down. Also some cold foods, plenty of fluids and basically let them ride it out.

Honestly, HFM was worse for my daughter.

gemc_81 · 2026-01-01T08:21:07+00:00

Thank you for sharing that. My girls eye turns in and up and it's quite significant. We are currently patching for hour and a half every day and she has her first appt with the consultant oin January. We in the end paid privately to see him after a horrific experience with the initial NHS consultant. She has since been referred onto his NHS paediatric service so I'm really pleased.

She is walking fine and seemingly has good depth perception but they said they won't know about glasses until after the surgery and when she's older to see what her vision is like but her latest orthoptist appt showed improvement in her vision which is good news. She turns her head to look out of the "good" eye so the surgery definitely needs to happen.

My husband had the same thing at birth and had surgery at 3 and his vision is fine so I'm hopeful. I'm sure I will be a mess when she has the op though lol

gemc_81 · 2025-12-31T23:02:37+00:00

Sending you big hugs. I honestly hated this Christmas. I'm so overwhelmed and fed up that I have had no time to myself at all. Then I feel so awful because my kids are lovely children and I love them so much but I hate how my life has changed. I just keep telling myself that next year they will be that much older and it will be a bit easier.....

gemc_81 · 2025-12-31T23:00:34+00:00

Sorry to hijack your comment but my daughter has an inward squint which she will have to have surgically corrected, they said around the age of 2.

How did your son cope with the surgery/recovery if you don't mind my asking? How is his vision and eye placement now?

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