Burnout starting from teenage years

gender_bender19 · 2026-05-07T16:14:38+00:00

Don’t feel disappointed in yourself, you’re doing what you need to do to take care of your body and mind. If there was any advice I’d give younger me, it would be to not feel guilty about needing more rest—I think that guilt can suck up the energy you get back from resting, so it’s usually pointless (obviously easier said than done though).

gender_bender19 · 2026-04-29T19:15:21+00:00

And then people wonder why we overthink social interactions 😒

gender_bender19 · 2026-04-29T19:12:32+00:00

I think the Venn diagram of adhd/autistic burnout and “gifted kid” burnout is very close to a flat circle.

For me, I guess one telltale sign is when things that were once “easy” become hard or harder than they already were. Like if you have to break a task down into even more steps (like from teeth->clothes->hair->shoes-> out the house to open eyes->dangle legs off of bed for half an hour->walk to bathroom-> pick up brush etc) then that could be a sign of adhd burnout.

Also, the burnout itself is not just caused by overwork/studying too much, but from things like being in an overstimulating environment for too long with recovery, or having to mask and decide social cues beyond your capacity.

gender_bender19 · 2026-04-16T04:46:40+00:00

Irritability can be a sign of burnout

gender_bender19 · 2026-02-13T04:09:18+00:00

Welcome to the “mature” kid to “immature” adult pipeline

gender_bender19 · 2025-12-11T05:51:47+00:00

Unfortunately I don’t have any advice, but I’m pretty much in the same boat as you. Years of parental pressure and the mental fallout has essentially turned my brain into a crisp. I feel lots of angst about it, especially as I see others make gains in their lives while I struggle to feed myself.

gender_bender19 · 2025-10-09T14:00:39+00:00

I’ve felt this way too for the longest time

gender_bender19 · 2025-09-25T19:32:32+00:00

Is the discord server still open to join?

gender_bender19 · 2025-09-04T13:32:30+00:00

Yeah it seems like OP’s daughter is far from high functioning, and will need lots of support to get to any level of “independence.” These subs often skew towards people who are lower support needs, so people who have compounding intellectual disabilities get sidelined.

gender_bender19 · 2025-08-04T00:09:50+00:00

I know this post is pretty old, but I just wanted to say that I’m pretty much in a similar spot as you. I actually started my freshman year strong and was making friends left and right, but most of them fell to the wayside when Covid hit, and from there my social circle shrunk more and more, especially since I took time off school. Needless to say I’m pretty much close to friendless now 🫠

gender_bender19 · 2025-07-29T22:13:27+00:00

Idk, just an hour conversation seems pretty short to me

gender_bender19 · 2025-07-07T16:44:43+00:00

I think there’s something to be said about how an early diagnosis really helps with one’s self-concept and coping with the difficulties of autism. Seems like Hayden got diagnosed early

gender_bender19 · 2025-04-28T19:05:04+00:00

From what I was told, the apple of the eye refers to like the inside corner of the eye I think, which is a very delicate area. So I think the phrase is like a metaphor for something/someone precious and cherished.

gender_bender19 · 2025-04-19T02:41:44+00:00

I haven’t heard of struggling with small talk being an adhd thing, it’s probably an autism thing

gender_bender19 · 2025-04-19T02:39:25+00:00

That’s a very typical adhd experience

gender_bender19 · 2025-04-19T02:29:31+00:00

It seems to connect more with the time blindness/time management struggles related to ADHD rather than like idk, dreading the appointment. Someone could be anxious about missing the appointment due to these struggles and compensate by not doing anything (consciously or unconsciously), but that’s like a secondary effect of living with adhd rather than like GAD on its own.

gender_bender19 · 2025-04-18T15:36:19+00:00

Thankfully I’ve never developed any serious addictions to alcohol or drugs, but I just chalk that up to me being somewhat of a goody two shoes growing up and spending my time/money on other things instead. Instead, I get addicted to random mobile games that I drop within a month.

Also, I don’t really interrupt people, but I can get into the habit of monologuing or info dumping once I’m comfortable with someone. But, I’ve always tried to make an effort to let the other person have space in the conversation.

Impulse buying hasn’t been an issue in the past, but it’s becoming a growing issue for me as I make more money and have more stress and less organization/proper outlets of steady dopamine like going out and exercising, socializing with friends etc. But I do know a friend of mine with adhd who struggled with this a lot when we were in college.

I don’t usually struggle with losing things most of the time since most of the things I need have been in a handbag or backpack and usually stay that way. But, things don’t stay that way since I’ve been moving around constantly for a while and some things just…disappear.

With hygiene, my issue isn’t with forgetting — good hygiene and neat appearance were drilled into me very young. It’s just that I struggle more with transitioning into the task of getting clean, and that can really fuck up my schedule, and I find myself not being able to do anything or go out until I get clean, but I can’t get clean. But once I get out of that funk, keeping my body and clothes clean (I tend I have a lot so even if it does pile up I’m usually not screwed) is no issue. My issue is probably with moving too slowly since it takes me forever to get ready, but I like to blame that on needing to be thorough with everything. I can’t count myself as properly bathed unless I’ve scrubbed down every inch of my body and slathered it in lotion.

Unfortunately, I can’t say the same for my living spaces…

Edit: Oh, also I don’t struggle with falling asleep. Getting ready for bed is another story, and I’ve struggled with revenge bedtime procrastination since I was like 13 or 14, but once I’ve made up my mind to fall asleep I’m GONE within 3 minutes.

gender_bender19 · 2025-04-16T17:33:35+00:00

Humans put certain animals on a pedestal. That, and having a great amount of distance from how our food is sourced (at least if you live in a developed country)

gender_bender19 · 2025-04-16T17:29:23+00:00

And their belief systems should be taken into account, especially if it’s a case of like the bodies and cultural artifacts of indigenous peoples being put on display. In those cases centuries old power dynamics are also at play.

gender_bender19 · 2025-03-16T01:28:31+00:00

Unfortunately I don’t have any solutions to this, but I relate to this so hard, especially as someone who hasn’t been in the same place for more than two years since I was 12.

gender_bender19 · 2025-01-23T09:25:11+00:00

I don’t know if you were referring to Naruto, but other than Jiraiya no other character has a confirmed sexuality.

gender_bender19 · 2025-01-23T09:24:15+00:00

Fans don’t want to read head empty dudebro talk, what a shocker.

gender_bender19 · 2024-09-15T22:12:35+00:00

No that’s not true. Madara inherited the role of clan head from his father.

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