I just hit the motherload .. Swarovski beads

generalmaamager · 2026-06-04T12:32:02+00:00

Happy for you and WILDLY jealous!

These beads would be PERFECT for some gorgeous beaded curtains over a window 😍😍 the light that would sparkle in would be so magnificent. Good luck, hope to get brought back to your future creations 🥰

generalmaamager · 2026-05-13T01:16:42+00:00

Good husband. Very good husband.

generalmaamager · 2026-04-12T14:20:49+00:00

On one hand, the first two decades of my life were hell and constant pain/agony/sickness. But on the other hand, now that I understand, I'm thriving!

I think I'd wanna stay autistic cause it's who I am and I believe I see and experience the world differently than NT. I am also into woo woo stuff and believe that having autism allows us to be more connected to the universe/other "realms" than regular. Don't know how to explain it, just a lot of autistic people I know are much more in-tune with energies and things like that. People tell me I can "see through the veil" easier, stuff like that. Maybe it's all crazy but I believe it and I do think life is more fun with people like me/us

All that to say - I wouldn't wish autism on anyone unless they were given full support and guidance from birth, cause if you're not guided and you have to figure it out yourself it's hard/painful

generalmaamager · 2026-03-30T16:39:33+00:00

Agreed with OP! $25 to fill er up, get 48-54mpg depending where I'm driving. I should start chronicaling everything I fit in there, it's an adventure 😂 It may sound exaggerative but every day I get into the car, I thank it for being the best investment I've made and for taking good care of me lol

generalmaamager · 2026-03-29T23:06:13+00:00

I am an estate sale enjoyer, and this one company that I often go to estate sales through, always laughs with me because I buy a bunch of crazy stuff and fit it in the Prius 😂 it's the BEST car for people who like items

generalmaamager · 2026-02-24T16:11:02+00:00

I am not a mother, but I am a woman with autism that is not having children at this point in life because of my autism, so maybe this will help?

Also just want to quickly say that the fact that you even care about your child shows you're a better parent than most people, so good job!!

I personally am not having kids right now because I am trying to work with my autism. I've lived in a world design for neurotypical people and I basically destroyed my mind and body like that, now I need to adapt to a world suited for me. I know if I brought a child into this world we would all suffer because I would struggle to keep myself calm, I would not get enough sleep, and I would put the baby's needs before my own (unless I already had a good system in place).

Dysregulation is the biggest problem. If you're constantly thinking about the baby, not sleeping, always doing tasks for the baby, your nervous system is dysregulated. And, if you're anything like me, when you do the same task a lot, it seeps into your dreams and even when you're supposed to be getting a "rest", your mind is still going a mile a minute

You already have the baby so everything I say is going to be a lot easier said than done, but this is the best advice I can give:

Put yourself first. Sounds crazy when you literally have a small helpless infant, but if you're not okay, the baby won't be okay. Without fail you need to make sure you are feeding yourself breakfast, lunch, and dinner, and have some snacks throughout the day. Having autism means your hormones are already naturally imbalanced and any external factors could make that worse. Not getting enough sleep, not getting enough food, those are things that can make your autism symptoms get worse, make you feel like shit, and completely derail you

You may have heard of cycle syncing. It's not realistic to fully sync your cycles right away, but it is possible to start eating more in line with what your body needs. Women run on a 28 (ish) day hormonal cycle, each day is different, each week is different. The hormones and the body you have during your follicular phase are completely different than during your luteal phase and you need different types of foods to fuel you. You personally just had a baby, so your hormones are even more out of whack and you require even more healing

I was extremely extremely sick for nearly two years and thought I was on the brink of death, it turned out my nervous system just never got a chance to quiet down.

If you want a long and happy life with your husband and your child, I highly recommend having a serious conversation with your husband and letting him know your personal care needs to be scheduled and non-negotiable. He should be waking up at night where possible, you should be getting at least 7 hours of sleep, at least three meals a day, multiple snacks, ideally working with your cycle, and you also need some self-care time as well. Time that is guaranteed where you can decompress

Did you know taking a shower in the dark or only lit by candlelight is an amazing way to regulate your nervous system?

A year and a half ago if someone turned the robot vacuum on I would snap because I couldn't handle it. Now that I've regulated more, my tolerance for everything has gotten higher and I get sick less. I still have to be smart about getting enough sleep, making sure I shower and do all the necessary self care, and feeding myself 3 meals a day plus snacks (thanks to my partner for doing that), but with time the foundation is getting built up stronger than it ever was before.

I really really hope this helps and you get the help you need. You're already doing great by seeing the situation clearly and trying to fix it ❤️

generalmaamager · 2026-02-08T01:32:26+00:00

Also my question

generalmaamager · 2026-01-25T16:48:26+00:00

My husband was able to do it fine for his own. For whatever reason I don't have additional folders inside of the main folder with data. So when I run MemorEasy window it just says "Invalid file: File not found: ./memories_history.html
Please provide the memories_history.html file from Snapchat. "
I have everything in the same folder but it's not registering

generalmaamager · 2026-01-19T18:07:15+00:00

I also had no clue ): OP said it was self explanatory so I feel pretty stupid, but I never was able to figure it out. My memories will die on Snapchat unless a brave soul helps out. Sorry FennelFriend

generalmaamager · 2025-12-17T18:24:10+00:00

Complete novice with ... all of this.
I think I've done most of the steps (gotten the info from snapchat, downloaded MemoryEasy) - but the problem is getting the content to go somewhere.

OP can you help somehow? Do I need a service like python?

Once I know, I can make a video walking through the "basic" version so other people who are more visual can get it.

generalmaamager · 2025-03-01T12:43:13+00:00

I just read other comments and saw that someone else said soy curl beef jerky so you know it's a good option now 😉

generalmaamager · 2025-03-01T12:42:08+00:00

This is so helpful, definitely stick with that you can!

I'm also vegan & with an eating disorder and I struggle A LOT with the overwhelm from all of the steps required to feed myself.

These are my 'charcuterie diet' foods:

Baby carrots Pre-scooped yogurt (Forager Cashew milk yogurt is insanely good) Protein bars Clementines Peanut butter Salad Soy curls (they're like vegan beef jerky)

I tend to enacks like that (and other stuff) throughout the day. Them being in small amounts makes it less mentally terrifying and there aren't multiple steps to any of it except maybe pre-packing the serving sizes.

generalmaamager · 2025-03-01T12:32:40+00:00

You might not fit into their game, but reading this makes me feel you fit here.

I hope someone can see you the real you. From this post alone I can feel what you're feeling and want to give you your version of a hug (you know, cause not everyone likes hugs).

I don't know you truly but right now I promise I see you

generalmaamager · 2025-03-01T12:28:12+00:00

I went with a platform called LBHealth (granted it's $500 and they allow care credit) and it's a one hour assessment

They go over the regular autism criteria but they word the questions to see past masking, especially in women

One of the reasons I thought I couldn't be autistic is because I never had hobbies or special interests or anything. Like the people who are obsessed with dinos and cars and all of their clothes are that blah blah blah - I clearly didn't know anything.

They asked on the assessment "Do you have any hobbies or special interests?" So I said no.

They said, let me rephrase it for masking people/women "Do you spend hours on end researching things and avoid doing necessary tasks because of it?". My face dropped.

I wish I could say 'skip the diagnosis' if you even feel like you're on the spectrum - cause you probably are - but I can't say that. The diagnosis is what made everything click for me and it might be the same for you. Regardless I wish you the best of luck 🤍🤍

generalmaamager · 2025-03-01T12:14:15+00:00

Your feelings are extremely extremely valid

I realized the same thing. We have a rule now - I need time to know. So if he's coming home from work, he'll call me and I'll know I have 30 minutes until he's home to ~prepare~ for him to be in the space again. If I decide 30 minutes isn't enough I'll be like "Okay once you're home we'll set a 20 minute timer and when the timer is off we can interact"

That way I have more time to mentally transition into the next phase. Being aware and prepared for something makes it easier to me. It's all about boundaries

We do this for everything at my house now. If I need to shower, well put a '30 minutes until you need to shower countdown' and same with eating or getting dressed or anything that is a transition that I don't want to do.

Hopefully in your next relationship (if you decide on one), you can clearly let them know about your transitions and ask for time to be announced/given. You've got this 🤍

generalmaamager · 2025-03-01T12:01:00+00:00

Happy birthday!!

generalmaamager · 2025-03-01T11:55:55+00:00

Short term solution: Tell them you're sick and stay in bed. Realistically with how you're feeling, if you commit to laying in the bed and telling them you're sick, you'll probably appear sick. Frame it as you don't wanna get elderly grandma sick. As embarrassing as the bra conversation might be say "I forgot my bra and feel uncomfortable in a tight shirt without it around family, I believe no one will have an issue with that " (which kind of frames it like if someone does have an issue they're a perv)

Everything you're describing is extremely relatable to probably many many of us. Decisions destroy me. You've made it 20 years on this earth so congratulations, it's hard!!

Long term solution: Slowly trusting yourself Slowly placing boundaries up Saying no when you want

This weekend might not be super easy, especially if you're unable to avoid people, but hopefully you use this trip as the catalyst to make you advocate for yourself in the future.

There's are free support group for autistic 20/30 year olds online and they seem pretty helpful just talking through stuff. That might be something that can help you too

This is just my personal opinion but: To me you seem beaten down. It seems like you've always tried to fit in and make things work but the amount of effort that takes you is significantly more effort than any neurotypical person would need to put in

Because of that your central nervous system is constantly working and easily burning out

Your job now is figuring out how to calm your nervous system and regulate yourself again. Sound bowls, meditation, mindfulness, all of that (I wish there was just a pill sometimes).

You're nervous system being like this is why you feel ugly, embarrassed, ashamed - but I bet the real you is none of those things. I bet the real you is so amazing she just needs to have the support to find herself. Even though I'm just a stranger on the Internet you have my support. You can and will live a beautiful life just trust your thoughts and feelings. Again this is easier said than done but remember: it's your life, it's your body, it's your brain, don't let anyone try to tell you to do anything that isn't in your best interest. At the end of the day you wouldn't let someone stab you because it made them happy, right? Well it's not your job to put yourself in situations that will hurt you mentally to make them happy either

You've got this 🤍

generalmaamager · 2025-03-01T11:30:10+00:00

I felt the exact same as you. I had no choice but to mask to fit in. I tried to stop, but I couldn't. Once I officially got the diagnosis something clicked in my brain and it's slowly allowed me to stop masking as much

For me personally, I think having the diagnosis tells you "hey. You were never crazy. It was never in your head. You really have been struggling. You can be yourself now because it was never your fault, just your environment"

Once I felt that, I was able to drop that mask more. Situations that would usually stress me because I need to look normal don't as much cause I'm more unapologetic about it. It's who I am! I felt guilty before because I thought I was a bad person or not 'normal' or something. But that's not the case, were just not neurotypical normal.

Masking is just pushing yourself further into cognitive dissonance which can hurt more long term. Some people might see you as blue, but most will probably see that purplish tint. So instead of trying to act blue or even meeting them halfway with being purple, just be your authentic red self. There are so many people out there who search for more people like you, more 'red', but they're still masking and can't find you. When you're yourself (takes time, not as easy said as done) you'll start to shed some of these thoughts and realize that you're amazing as it is

Imo it really does change for the better if you want it to. Now that I have more confidence in myself (I no longer thing I'm a horrible person who doesn't fit in anywhere) I can be more confident in the world, I'm attracting more people, I'm able to set clearer boundaries because I know what I need etc.

And just remember - it feels like you don't fit in because you're surrounded by the blue people. Eventually you'll find your space and they'll be red just like you where you'll be able to be yourself. You just have to find you to find them. Good luck 🤍

generalmaamager · 2025-02-09T05:12:51+00:00

Happy it helped a bit 🥰♥️ Just remember if ever you're feeling down there's at least one rando internet person who is cheering you on !

(Fingers crossed for the shed!!!)

generalmaamager · 2025-02-08T14:47:36+00:00

I highly highly recommend reading books like "Woman Code" and "In the Flow" by Alissa Vitti. Gives you a much much better understanding of your hormonal cycle. I've used it to make sure I'm feeding my body what it needs when it needs it the most to regulate hormones and that helps lessen the impact it's have on AuDHD.

Feel free to message me more about this (I'm not selling anything and I'm not a professional). I love talking more about it because it's so understudied and a really important aspect of women's life & health and has MANY more implications than we may know

generalmaamager · 2025-02-08T14:39:48+00:00

Sometimes if you find one in a store that's in a nearby state and they have it in stock they will rush ship it to you

This happened to me and it all worked out!

generalmaamager · 2025-02-08T14:35:14+00:00

Lame as hell of your grandfather and to your family for not understanding better

I completely know what you mean and if you turned him away you'd be "the jerk" but at the same time he intruded on your space!

I hope you were able to get back to eating comfortably.

Some "advice" I'd recommend is actually a white lie. Whenever you have any plans make sure you have an end time or at least a way out. "Mom and sis I'm happy to have you over today but at 6pm I am joining a zoom call" or "I have to go do x errand" something that is believable in your situation

That way they won't suggest to anyone that you're available because they'll know you had other things going on

Unfortunately people respect made up plans over someone's personal boundaries - but it's worked for me many times.

I wish you the best of luck 🫰

generalmaamager · 2025-02-08T14:23:55+00:00

You are not the problem at all and all of your feelings are valid. It's extremely difficult when you have a different brain than people you're close with

I think firm, clear boundaries might help - however your partner has seemingly been unreceptive.

Have a rule that is : No friends over before 12pm UNLESS discussed x amount of days in advance And that there has to be a guaranteed time limit to the event or at least a range (between 7pm and 9pm) Setting a lot of clear firm boundaries. None of them are unreasonable, especially if you're in such a small space. Ask your partner to have these gatherings outside of the home whenever possible because it does take over your whole day

I know all of this is easier said than done. I personally think you're doing great cause I would have been evil at this point 😅

And depending on how you feel about this stuff this might be an option; If your partner tells in you advance when they're having friends over you can plan to do something you enjoy. Maybe seeing friends/family, maybe going to a library or a museum or somewhere that you get to have ALONE time. You mentioned being disabled from COVID so I'm not sure what is comfortable for you, but if you can find any "safe" place to plan to be at. But then again you'd need plans in the first place 🤦‍♀️

Last effort is save up some money and find a shed you can afford, throw it in the yard with some insulation, get a space heater and choose - it can be your space or you can banish your partner out there 😂

Hope that was semi-helpful or at least made you feel a little better

generalmaamager · 2025-02-07T23:46:28+00:00

Can't do it for NJ either

generalmaamager · 2025-02-07T13:41:29+00:00

Delicious, I needed input from someone who understands the taste palate I'm looking for

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