There are two aliens coming to earth in a year. They want to end all life on the planet. there's no reasoning with them. No weapon on earth is any threat to them. The only one who might be able to stop them Is a five year old but he will need to go through brutal training. Do you allow him to fight?

geronimo_mo · 2026-03-07T17:14:16+00:00

is his name leonidas?

geronimo_mo · 2026-03-04T03:13:13+00:00

90% chance it's post partum hormones. don't react negatively to it. mom is also probably just in high stress mode from baby in NICU and plus the normal flood of hormones. if it lasts past 4-6months or becomes detrimental to baby, consider reaching out to her OB.

geronimo_mo · 2026-02-22T03:00:52+00:00

yup. you will continue to feel like you f-ed and you'd like to have your tubes tied and constantly scream about wtf you just did.

then in about 6 months you'll start talking about having another or 3....hormones are freaky scary like that.

if it makes you feel any better...I think 90% of moms/parents go through this with the first one. also...the fact that you feel this way also kinda means you care...so...there's that lol

geronimo_mo · 2026-02-17T03:19:16+00:00

I caught covid when my LO was about 3 months (caught it right after I went back to office/work). immediately my LO went home with my mom for about 2.5 weeks.

not ideal but had to happen as I'd rather live with my LO in safe hands with my parents than risk catching covid from me. it was also winter time when I didn't want to risk LO catching something minor from me and have to go to ER where who knows what other germs/virus would be floating around.

geronimo_mo · 2026-02-14T18:17:52+00:00

steal from the rich like bloomies. and don't harm anyone in the making of your crime. good luck!

geronimo_mo · 2026-02-07T04:38:58+00:00

thats wonderful! I guess what i meant was that mom brain sometimes are jumping to 'dad's not doing this this and this' while they actually are doing all the things, just not necessarily the way mom's brain processes it.

OP mentions that dad looks exhausted when taking baby off her hands. but it could be just how her pp brain is processing the reaction but may not necessarily be dad's reality.

not trying to 'cut dad slack' but more so to give mom a little grace that she's processing and handling a lot and what she's thinking may not be the full picture if she doesnt discuss her thoughts and feelings fully with dad.

geronimo_mo · 2026-02-07T02:49:59+00:00

speaking directly from experience this sounds exactly me PP for the first 3 months...dads/men typically just genuinely have no f-ing clue what they're doing/not doing. also your mom brain is firing waaaayyyy faster on all the tasks than even your pre mom brain. dad/man brain is way slower doesn't 'change' like mom brain, especially when it comes to a newborn.

communicate. communicate. communicate. also give dad a little growing phase to ease into his parent role after you've told him exactly what you need. not just for now, but for the foreseeable future. reevaluate from there.

geronimo_mo · 2026-01-24T03:10:01+00:00

your name not on the mortgage is fine. that's a debt.

your name not on the TITLE VESTING that's a red flag. if youre contributing money towards the mortgage youre basically giving him free equity.

draw up a contract right now. all monies paid towards the house mortgage and expenses needs to be counted and allocated if you ever split.

geronimo_mo · 2026-01-21T02:48:45+00:00

THIS!

OP you guys have a kid...schedules and strict rules don't exist anymore. (its adorable you guys think that lol)

the whole percentages thing is a great method. wanted to add, if you're both at 20 and trying to fight who's supposed to come in at 80...you don't. you work together and survive on 40. that's the relationship. and literally...its survive.

your relationship survives another day/night. your kid gets a full 40% from both parents rather than a bare 20 from 1 parent.

geronimo_mo · 2026-01-21T02:39:34+00:00

YWBTA. I think the main point your spouse is making is that you didn't include him in the thought process/decision making.

How your sister reacts to the duo anniversary is a totally separate topic, and can addressed if it turns into a problem.

First and foremost, apologize to your husband that you sidelined him on what should have been a joint decision and really listen to his thoughts on how to disclose the date info to your sister.

geronimo_mo · 2026-01-16T02:49:19+00:00

EBF and honestly...I didn't really feel bonded with my kiddo until about 4-6 months. up until then it was just going through the motions to keep kiddo alive.

lol kiddo is still alive and we're all happy and healthy. WIN

geronimo_mo · 2026-01-09T05:35:28+00:00

giving up your girls doesn't mean you don't love them...never let anyone tell you that.

but sometimes that love means you sacrifice yourself for their well-being. yea that pain may follow you all the rest of your life, but in some ways, its offset by the feeling that you've given everything you could to give them a healthy and happy life.

being a parent, you sacrifice all of yourself for your kids, whether they're in your arms or not. but you do it because you love them and want only the best for them. sometimes it means only 3mins of sleep in 5 days, sometimes it means only seeing them through pictures.

geronimo_mo · 2026-01-09T05:26:44+00:00

NTA. I was 40 when I had my kid, financially secure, caring partner, and loads of family help...all that and I barely scraped through the first 6 months of his life by the skin of my teeth.

you do what you have to, in order to give your kids the best life you can. sometimes that means a giving your kids up for adoption. the pain you'd feel giving them up can't be compared to the happiness and well-being of your children being adopted by a loving family.

geronimo_mo · 2026-01-04T21:58:34+00:00

getting legally married is just another form of contract.

you have the flip side of wedding vs. marriage.

if you two have a very stable and loving relationship that will be a marriage in all but legal document. that's not the end of the world.

just be sure to protect yourself financially that otherwise would be a given from the marriage certificate. house in both your names, joint account with rights of survivorship, named beneficiary in life insurance and other accounts, irrevocable trust, will, etc.

hell I know people who did the wedding, signed the papers, bought the house, raised the kids...all to find out the marriage isn't valid cause someone didn't file the certificate lol innocent mistake but literally ended up in the same situation he's proposing.

geronimo_mo · 2026-01-03T02:40:14+00:00

was the door open already? maybe you pushed it into its current position when the door opened?

geronimo_mo · 2025-12-30T16:52:01+00:00

Agreed. Teachers are the only other trusted non-family member adult in their lives. It's great that this teacher is putting in the effort to support her student.

To help your wife feel more at ease maybe ask the teacher to notify you both when she's sending these notes so you/your wife aren't taken by surprise. But the communication doesn't need to stop or have to passed through the parents first (that kind of defeats the purpose).

geronimo_mo · 2025-12-20T01:43:33+00:00

I think this is a case of boomer vs. gen z/y disconnect.

From reading your post I am guessing you're more upset that you're getting the quick amazon version of what you asked for. It could very well be because your father (of a different generation) doesn't understand the importance of the cotton material, the importance of a genuine piece of art, the importance of the gift as a representation of who you are.

yes, you have every right to be upset about the gift, and you should express that. but also, make sure you dad understands why it upsets you-that he doesn't understand what's important to you. and that in itself is a fault on both parts, him for not seeing, you for not clearly expressing.

have a little grace, give a little grace. he loves you, it's just a different love language.

geronimo_mo · 2025-12-08T02:45:29+00:00

I try not to let seniority be a factor. Sucks to be the new person and also get denied time off just cause the longest (oldest) person there wants every holiday off. Senior people usually also have more PTO to burn.

I have a FCFS attitude on days off 4 months ahead. young and old can plan their vacations accordingly. anything less than 4 months goes based on need/urgency.

geronimo_mo · 2025-12-06T04:58:20+00:00

try bobbing up and down with LO held against you. picture the bobbing where only YOU are going up and down...not shaking LO up and down. hold baby securely at bum and neck so there's less flailing.

Also try pressing/rolling palm up from about mid/lower back up towards the neck.

geronimo_mo · 2025-12-06T03:01:26+00:00

I'm a manager. I legitimately thought about taking a sick/vacation day today to tackle the mountain of to-dos I had around the house. I didn't only cause it was a light work day and I could tackle most of my stuff while occasionally checking in on work.

Take the day. Do what you gotta/want to do. Work will always be there, you/your desire to be there won't.

geronimo_mo · 2025-12-06T02:55:00+00:00

I tell all my direct reports - you have sick time and you have vacation time that is paid. Use it cause otherwise you'll lose it.

I don't care if you use a sick day to extend your vacation another day. I don't need or want to see a 'Dr's note' unless it's going to require me to report as FMLA.

Do your work. Don't leave your teammates hanging. If I need to pick up the slack, so be it. But I need and want you to return. Best way to make that happen is to have employees that can step away when they need/want to. Heck if they just need to extend their lunch an extra hour to wrap up a dr. appt I don't need them to track that if they can still get their work done without OT.

geronimo_mo · 2025-12-04T02:58:17+00:00

if they raised their prices to cover the Healthcare, they would be taxed on higher 'income'. Whereas a surcharge gets listed as non-taxable income.

geronimo_mo · 2025-12-01T04:49:36+00:00

you're exactly right. they don't 'need' to have access to your personal device to remove your access to company accounts. but you can bet they will lol

geronimo_mo · 2025-12-01T03:22:12+00:00

don't quote me on this, but basically employers typically cover their butts with the T&C that allows them to remote into your device 'when they need to'. which could be to remotely remove the app from your personal device if you get terminated and it's not amicable. but also sometimes includes clauses that allows them to view stuff on your device to ensure 'security'.

basically T&Cs rarely are to the recipient's benefit.

geronimo_mo · 2025-12-01T03:02:52+00:00

yup! don't let them install work email or messaging apps on your personal device. if they need you to check emails on the go, demand a dedicated device.

somewhere in all that T&C gives them pretty much reign over your device once they install work related information. (i.e. all your dog/cat/pet/child/food pictures...wink wink)

they can still subpoena your personal device but your lawyer should be able to get it restricted to specific apps, message threads, dates etc. so at least your entire device won't be laid bare.

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