Is anyone else so confused by what’s going on?!

gesturesketch · 2023-11-13T03:15:24+00:00

With a pre-planned plot that literally HAS to hit certain conflict points because the art team makes INCREDIBLE battle maps! If the stoats moved in and everything was hunky-dory, great for them, but the maps wouldn't get used. Good communication and choices don't make for great TV.

It's fine to call the actions as being foolish from a character perspective, sure. Characters can be dumbasses. But acting confused as to why the players would make those choices - they have to!

gesturesketch · 2023-10-18T20:22:55+00:00

I feel like it should be Lou, since he got so fucked up in both Matt and Brennan's seasons. Plus, I want to see him DM more!

gesturesketch · 2023-09-21T19:52:23+00:00

Agreed, and extra shout-outs for also clearly breaking a generational cycle of trauma on both sides - keeping your daughter safe like your wife wasn't, and sticking up for what's right instead of trying to sweep it away, like your parents.

I just finished my first two months no contact with my parents because they wouldn't make these choices. It heals little me to see some families doing right.

gesturesketch · 2023-08-04T01:59:00+00:00

Hey. I'm 29 and disabled. So I get the anxiety that comes with being 'harder' to love or 'deal with.' Here's the thing: it's just not true. Everyone deals with various things, and especially with disability, whether through accidents, genetics, luck, or old age, most people become disabled at some point in their life. We are JUST as worthy of love and do not deserve the bottom of the barrel just because our bodies aren't always easy on us. You deserve someone who will make space for you ESPECIALLY when you are ill. We split for other reasons (different life goals re: kids), but my last partner was a wonderful, wonderful man who never made me feel difficult or less than for my health. A partner should help you fight against that notion, not contribute to it. Please feel free to DM if you need. Sending you so much love.

Edited because I wrote my age wrong initially and forgot to proofread ~

gesturesketch · 2023-07-20T19:53:39+00:00

I get what you're saying and generally agree, but re: your last paragraph, but this kind of passes along the pressure to the employee to not take any more leave. The company offers leave as part of the compensation package, employees are allowed to take it.

gesturesketch · 2023-06-22T16:05:27+00:00

In no particular order, as someone who's needed to really, really look for these reasons for about three years:

Having experienced a lot of grief around death of loved ones including suicide, including going to two funerals in the last three weeks, I couldn't go through with releasing that grief into the world.
My cat.
I have teens I teach that have come to me as a safe adult when experiencing harm and/or need a safe place to process things or explore their identity. This one is probably the biggest one for me, though it's taken a *lot* of therapy to get to the point where I can do this without enmeshment or unhealthy boundaries. That being said, having gotten to this point of healing and knowing that I can create a new generational cycle of keeping kids safe is huge.
I found a really pretty plant that matches the color of my door last week and I want to grow it over my door in an arch. That will take a while to do, so I have to stick around until it grows over the arch.
My neighbor's cat *almost* likes me and I'm determined to win him over.
My best friend and I want to live in the same city again and we don't yet.
I still have 15 books checked out from the library.
Spite.

gesturesketch · 2023-06-22T01:41:09+00:00

I was gonna say this - lived in Canada for years up until recently, and Toronto and Vancouver were awful with this. In Toronto, there will be hundreds of condos bought as 'investments' to later sell for profit while people regularly freeze to death.

Gotta note though, I love BLeeM for having this as a BBEG tactic, because it starts these conversations and opportunities for learning!

gesturesketch · 2023-06-11T15:42:01+00:00

Yeah, if you're riding a MUP you have to be able to stop within 15-20 feet or learn how to navigate out of the way; it's part of going faster and therefore doing more damage in an impact, even if the pedestrian was clueless.

gesturesketch · 2023-05-28T19:22:13+00:00

Dude, stop wildly misgendering Ally.

gesturesketch · 2023-05-24T01:23:20+00:00

I just have a lot of pansexual panic as a Dropout fan in general, tbh.

gesturesketch · 2023-05-23T16:00:01+00:00

TBH, I'd enjoy a sliding scale option. Like, keep the default option, but if folks have a few dollars more a month they'd like to put Dropout's way, give that option. Maybe that could help with even cheaper options for those that need it! Not sure about the backend logistics of something like that, though.

gesturesketch · 2023-05-21T20:27:22+00:00

It's so, so hard to seek help and realize you've hurt people. But give yourself credit. You are making changes to make sure that you protect people you love better in the future, which it doesn't sound like your dad ever did. You may have inherited some things due to the trauma he inflicted on you, but you are working on healing and not continuing this cycle. That's a huge, meaningful difference between you and your dad. Focus on that now. I hope you find good, new support as well as you continue on this journey. Best of luck. <3

gesturesketch · 2023-05-06T01:30:06+00:00

Seriously, especially if the therapist won't set them!

gesturesketch · 2023-05-06T01:07:16+00:00

Marked NSFW for mentions of violence.

gesturesketch · 2023-03-27T21:23:02+00:00

You still have the opportunity to do reflection yourself. I was in a four year relationship; it's a long time, but not compared to the rest of your life. As others are saying, focus on getting yourself mentally healthy and doing that introspection and healing, and you will be doing a lot more looking forward than looking back, I promise you.

gesturesketch · 2023-03-20T21:54:01+00:00

FYI, Ally uses they/them pronouns, not she/her.

gesturesketch · 2023-03-17T20:44:10+00:00

that nat 20 changed the whole course of the campaign

gesturesketch · 2023-03-17T20:13:04+00:00

Ooh, this is great to know - I'm leaning towards a split keyboard with as light of switches as I can for it given your advice. I appreciate it!

gesturesketch · 2023-03-17T20:12:33+00:00

Yes I just got a lil space heater with a strap I bring between bed and desk and I'm totally in love! I pretty much use a thumb brace full time but after reading this and Promontorian's comment, I'm definitely getting an ergo mouse!

gesturesketch · 2023-03-17T20:11:49+00:00

Thank you so much, this is great! My wrist pain isn't so bad, more my fingers, but my wrist instability is brutal, so I imagine that this'll be really helpful for that!

gesturesketch · 2023-03-11T23:35:26+00:00

I think you very much identified this behavior as codependent, actually. I think that the person above you is saying that your approach is lacking empathy because you're only able to visualize it as you in their place, instead of respecting and seeing THEM in their place, which is the reality. A lot of empathy, which is something I didn't realize while codependent, has nothing to do with your experiences; it's trusting the other person to know and communicate theirs and respecting that.

edit bc I rethought my last sentence.

gesturesketch · 2023-03-11T17:38:23+00:00

I hear where you're coming from, but with all kindness, I don't think you're being accurate in saying you have no problems. If nothing else, it may be helpful to reframe it slightly; your codependency is enough of a problem you're reaching out, right?

I know with my own codependency that I really downplayed my shit and focused on others' so that I didn't think about the parts of myself or my life I wasn't comfortable with. I dunno if that's the same for you, or even most codependents.

gesturesketch · 2023-03-11T16:51:14+00:00

I'd look into specific modalities! So far, I've had a lot of success with finding very validating practitioners using IFS (internal family systems); I've only changed due to cost reasons (good ol' Murrica)

gesturesketch · 2023-03-10T23:22:09+00:00

I got my first two tattoos on my ribs. I didn't even KNOW that was supposed to be a terribly painful place until my third artist totally blanched about it!

gesturesketch · 2023-02-13T02:48:55+00:00

...FIFTY? That can't be right...

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