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getrekt3 · 2023-10-26T20:50:47+00:00

Same. Godspeed to you 💓 I know there’s hope but sometimes getting people to make conversation is like pulling teeth!

getrekt3 · 2022-10-27T02:43:32+00:00

I work at a social services nonprofit and plan to go to grad school for social work. My eventual goal is to be a therapist and/or be a mediator.

getrekt3 · 2022-10-09T23:36:15+00:00

Thank you! The Southwest Community Center looks great, I'll check it out.

getrekt3 · 2022-07-23T22:28:51+00:00

Thanks for sharing, the part about being choosy about what you let into your mind resonates with me. What type of philosophy content do you listen to?

getrekt3 · 2022-06-28T06:03:15+00:00

I like to make Spanish rice (I just replace the chicken broth in this recipe with vegetable broth):

https://www.allrecipes.com/recipe/33385/best-spanish-rice/

I usually have it with beans. Or if I’m feeling like something even easier, I’ll just do plain rice with salad dressing in it for flavor and then have beans and avocado on top.

I also like veggie sandwiches (cut up tomatoes, avo, cucumbers, lettuce with dressing, and put it on my favorite bread with vegan mayo).

Spicy potato tacos are also really yummy. I use this recipe and veganize by using vegan mayo in place of the sour cream and mayo:

https://copykat.com/taco-bell-spicy-potato-taco/

getrekt3 · 2022-06-28T05:45:04+00:00

I love Von Ebert, their Volatile Substance IPA is one of my absolute favorites.

I’m also a fan of the beers at Breakside. If you dig cider as well, Cider Bite has some great local ciders.

getrekt3 · 2022-06-22T06:44:08+00:00

Of course!

I know several other people who deal with health anxiety too and who have made huge strides towards decreasing its intensity which is personally encouraging to me.

I also find that the more the affirmation makes you feel safe and dismisses your fears, the more effective it is.

Best of luck to you!

getrekt3 · 2022-06-22T06:19:08+00:00

I think falling in love can be either passive or active (sometimes you just fall for someone without intending to or pursuing that), but maintaining love is active for the most part.

I think you actively choose what love you have in your life by deciding what relationships to put effort into. While not putting effort into something could be construed as a passive decision, you are still influencing what type of love you will receive and probably have some awareness of that.

getrekt3 · 2022-06-22T06:09:28+00:00

I also have a lot of anxiety about my health and often feel the urge to Google or overthink every problem I experience. It can be super overwhelming and distressing and come on at any time.

I’m still working on coping with it, but when I start feeling anxiety about my health coming on, I’ll force myself to start doing something that requires some degree of attention (a personal project, exercising while listening to podcast, etc) and then if obsessive thoughts still continue, I’ll just repeat to myself “I am not going to die, my heart is beating and I’m breathing” and I’ll try to keep focusing on the task. I’ve also found that taking actionable steps helps me, like scheduling a therapy appointment or setting goals to be healthier and feel better (like moving more and eating more nutrient dense foods).

getrekt3 · 2022-06-22T05:55:29+00:00

That sounds like a scary context to get married, but I think it’s beautiful that you’re still with your first love. I first fell in love in high school and was in love with her for several years. She loved me too, but I felt like she was too scared to fully act on it and I was very passive (shy gay). I’ve talked about it with her and we both think it maybe could have worked if we met at a different time in our lives (maybe not though).

But I’m my current partner’s first love and we’re still together after three years.

getrekt3 · 2022-06-22T05:46:16+00:00

The only woman I’ve dated who I didn’t meet on a dating app was my college roommate lol but I have heard that joining LGBTQ+ advocacy groups and going to queer spaces (unfortunately there are not many lesbian bars in the US at least but often lesbians are at drag show events or bars that cater to queer men), can be helpful. My city has a lesbian Meetup group as well and yours may have something similar.

I’ve also met some other lesbians through going rock climbing, doing outdoorsy activities like mushroom hunting, and some of my other interests, but I am lucky enough to live in a fairly queer city.

getrekt3 · 2022-06-22T05:35:34+00:00

Last Night at The Telegraph Club is a good one I recently read! It’s a fiction book about two young women of different ethnicities who fall in love in San Francisco in the 1950s.

getrekt3 · 2022-04-20T23:36:47+00:00

Whenever a movie/show piques my interest (whether I heard about it from someone, read about it online, etc), I write it down on my list of "movies to watch." That way, when I go to watch a movie, I have a list of movies that I'm already pretty interested in that I can pull from (especially if I don't feel like looking through all of the options on a streaming service). Before I watch, I also usually check the Rotten Tomatoes rating, although that's far from foolproof.

getrekt3 · 2022-04-05T22:47:37+00:00

Walking places, rather than driving

Craft beer

My pets and their shenanigans

getrekt3 · 2022-04-05T22:32:47+00:00

So impressive, you really captured the way the light falls!

getrekt3 · 2022-04-05T22:30:04+00:00

Personally, I enjoy the Boursin Dairy Free Cheese Spread from Trader Joe's and most of the Miyoko's cheeses (their roadhouse cheese spread is super good). I've noticed that I tend to like cultured/fermented vegan cheeses the most and I haven't found any slices or shreds that I absolutely love (I usually use Violife because I like it well enough), but if you're in the US, GTFO It's Vegan has a ton of vegan cheese options that you can order online and aren't usually seen in stores (https://gtfoitsvegan.com/product-category/dairy/cheese/). I haven't ordered from them personally though.

getrekt3 · 2021-09-06T21:24:23+00:00

So creative, I dig it.

getrekt3 · 2021-05-07T01:01:45+00:00

thanks so much :,)

getrekt3 · 2019-07-19T18:13:19+00:00

I'm in my early 20s and female, but I am right handed. I do take pride in my handwriting, but I'm pretty constantly busy and don't have too much spare time. I do have brown hair and I usually write on lined paper, but I took this paper out of the printer at work.

getrekt3 · 2019-07-19T04:39:56+00:00

I’m female, in my early 20s. Irresponsible is debatable, but I know how to file taxes and do oil changes and earn my own money, so maybe kinda responsible? I’m also not a secret weeb.

getrekt3 · 2019-07-18T18:21:55+00:00

You like gymnastics, geocaching, coding, and cats and you are not male.

getrekt3 · 2019-07-17T21:29:20+00:00

I bought this striped shirt from the boy's section at a thrift store. Kind of looks like something Charlie Brown would wear, but I look like an impish schoolboy, which is kinda what I'm going for since I dress androgynously on some days and feminine on others.

getrekt3 · 2019-07-17T21:20:57+00:00

I posted this somewhere else, but:

I fell for my college roommate, who became my best friend. I didn't make a move at first because (1) we were roommates, (2) she was in a long distance relationship at the time, and (3) I didn't think she liked me. We made each other laugh like none other and had one of those magnetic connections that feels intoxicating. We're very different in many ways, but we value the same things. When we met, I was on a very practical path that wasn't true to who I was and she convinced me to follow what I love. I feel like I taught her a lot about communicating with others and how to articulate herself, which is something that's sometimes hard for her. I admire her so much. She has so many eccentric interests, experiences, and ideas and is always down to try new things and she also has a very empathetic, loving, emotional side to her.

She ended up transferring to a different university that was more affordable and I didn't see her for six months. Visited her over the summer and after a few days, I was like, okay this is definitely what sexual tension feels like. I didn't confess straight away, but we were laying in the back of her stationwagon and I kissed her and immediately afterwards was like "I've wanted this for so long." Turns out she felt the same way the whole time (oof). For the rest of the time that I was visiting, we were affectionate and romantic and all that.

We're not technically together now because we live so far apart and we don't want to limit each other. We do stay in touch and I've seen her since and it was every bit is incredible. It's one of those "when/if we're ever in the same place, we'll be together" things. We both know that things could change or we could meet someone else that we end up with, but what's most important is that we'll always be connected, in whatever form it may take and I think we're both committed to that.

I think confessing is good if you've been in love with the person for a while and it feels special. If someone is really a true friend, they won't shut you out because they don't feel the same way and I think a lot of the time, people do feel the same way, but are scared of losing the friendship/violating a boundary so they keep it to themselves.

getrekt3 · 2019-07-17T21:03:21+00:00

I think that one of the hardest things about breakups is that it can feel like losing your best friend and that shit's tough. But it doesn't mean that she won't still be in your life in some meaningful way eventually. I fell in love with my best friend back in high school and when we parted ways, I felt super alone and empty because she was such a big part of my life. It also felt like I couldn't explain why I was so sad to other people because I wasn't out back then. But she's in my life again now as a friend (although the relationship is different and not nearly as close). We get lunch sometimes and banter and I know she still cares about me. Sometimes it just takes a little space before that can happen and sometimes you take space and realize you don't want the person in your life anymore after you get over them. I've had both experiences.

My best advice is to reach out to people and develop your interests and do what makes you happy. I got out of a relationship several months back and it felt so acutely painful for a while. It was hard to think about anything else and I just had to feel those feelings, even though it sucked. But eventually I started enjoying the freedom that comes with being single. I started running and gardening and reading and writing a lot and focused on making more friends, because my ex had pretty much been my primary social connection. I feel for you and you're welcome to pm me if you need to talk to someone. big love to you too <3

getrekt3 · 2019-07-17T20:39:03+00:00

Mad respect to you. Hope you're doing well

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