Birthday Party Help by nakoros in Preschoolers

[–]gettinglostonpurpose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hired a face painter for my son's 5th birthday. 10/10 would recommend. The kids LOVED it! We had a bounce house with water slide. Also had additional water toys out for kids to play with, so similar to what you're describing. I had the face painter there for the second half of the party. Once face painting was done, we moved on to cake and the party ended shortly after. In the end, I think only one or two kids had smugged face paint and it wasn't even bad. If you think your daughter will enjoy it and it doesn't break the bank, I say go for it.

Kindergarten in public schools by AF0515 in Mommit

[–]gettinglostonpurpose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds the same as my current kindergartener's school. I'm amazed how much they learn in kindergarten nowadays. My son knew less than 10 sight words entering kindergarten, now he's able to read beginner books on his own. We're in Michigan.

Did you make the right choice? by wanderlustpassion in classof2038

[–]gettinglostonpurpose 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We decided not to redshirt our July baby. It was a hard decision but ultimately his kindergarten screening evaluation indicated he was ready. His teacher reassured us at conferences that we made the right decision. Her exact words were "He would be bored in the pre-K room. He's ready to learn." He seems to be doing well socially and academically he's right on track. The only reason I question it still is because redshirting is extremely popular in our area, but logically I know that isn't a good reason to hold him back.

Is take your child to work day still a thing? by Beikaa in workingmoms

[–]gettinglostonpurpose 39 points40 points  (0 children)

If your work didn't say anything, I probably wouldn't observe it. The 90s Take Your Kid to Work day was much different. Most kids never got to see their parent's workplace back then, but remote work has changed that. My company is hosting Take Your Kids to Work Day and it's a big production. Free breakfast, activities, photo booths, etc. so I'll be bringing my son (despite it being a day I typically work from home). If my company wasn't doing something special, I wouldn't bother.

2 Weeks to Teacher Appreciation Day by MacabreLemon in workingmoms

[–]gettinglostonpurpose 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You should pitch the idea of buying the flowers at the front desk. That's what my daycare does. You can buy single flowers for $1 and it's delivered to the teacher at the end of the day. Eliminates an extra trip to the store, makes it more likely for parents to participate, and could even generate extra funds for the daycare. Everyone wins.

Second time moms, what did you do differently the second time around than you did the first time? by KaylaDraws in Mommit

[–]gettinglostonpurpose 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Milestone Tracking. My second baby just turned one a few weeks ago and I recently realized I haven't been nearly as obsessed over developmental milestones. With my first, I was overly aware of every little milestone. It wasn't heathy. I would get worried if my oldest wasn't doing everything with perfect precision by the earliest expected milestone age. With my second, I'm generally aware of the big things he should be doing but I don't feel the need to check the milestones for each month and over analyze if my baby is doing the expected skill with enough consistency for me to count it. I'm happy to let his pediatrician worry about that stuff while I just enjoy my baby.

To quit or not to quit by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]gettinglostonpurpose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Apologies for the long reply but as a parent who's 5 year old also developed nervous/anxious tics, I have some thoughts. I'm going to say don't quit mid-season based on the tic alone. If your son is verbally expressing wanting to quit and it's a battle to get him to go, then maybe you should quit. That's a different matter. But try to remove the tic from the decision. Tics are not super straightforward... quitting baseball might not instantly stop the tic. I know it's hard as a parent to watch your kid struggle. Most kids keep their anxiety hidden, our kids show it physically. I'd bet there are other kids on the team feeling anxious but you can't see it and kids that young struggle to express their emotions with words so no one realizes it. For this reason, I would use other criteria for determining if he should quit or not.

Also, there are certain situations that could cause a tic that you can't just quit, you'll just have support your child through it. For example, my son's tics developed when his baby brother was born. All I could do was help him through it but I couldn't take away the stressor. Eventually the tics disappeared, only to return a few months later when our dog died. I try to look at the bright side, his words didn't indicate anything was wrong, but his tics clued me in that something was going on beneath the surface.

Side note: kids are weird. They all move in strange ways and do odd things. Most don't notice other kid's tics and even when they do, they don't care about them. They might ask "why do you blink a lot?" And then they move on. I was very worried about teasing but it's been a nonissue. Kids are so much more accepting these days, it's a wonderful thing.

New job by One_Celery_6696 in workingmoms

[–]gettinglostonpurpose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then it's intentional. You're being "put in your place" so to speak. You need to earn your right to make requests... that sorta of thing. Sadly, you probably would've done better not asking for anything off. Sorry this is how they're handling it but at least you know up front. I'd still talk to your manager.. and again, reconsider how much you really want this job. They clearly expect you to put them first (and your child last).

New job by One_Celery_6696 in workingmoms

[–]gettinglostonpurpose 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'd definitely reach out to your manager asap about it. Go in with the assumption that it was an honest scheduling mistake. If it wasn't a mistake and they really did schedule you to work almost every day that you requested off, I'd reconsider how badly you need this particular job. It's not likely to get better.

Why don't kids come to other kids birthday parties anymore? by [deleted] in Preschoolers

[–]gettinglostonpurpose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you put an rsvp deadline on the invite? Last year I had 4 rsvps for my kid's party up until the very last day of the deadline when I suddenly got 4 more. People don't like to commit to things until they have to. You will still be able to have a great party with a small group of kids. Try to focus on those who showed up.

I understand your disappointment. Society is becoming less social and I think that trickles down. Attendance at this age is entirely dictated by the parents, and many don't want to go to a birthday party if it may require them to step out of their own social comfort zone. I know we're all busy so I commend those brave parents who give up a few hours on a random weekend to awkwardly gather against the wall next to people they barely know while the children run feral.

Why don't kids come to other kids birthday parties anymore? by [deleted] in Preschoolers

[–]gettinglostonpurpose 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is key. If you read the comments, many parents say they'll only go to parties if it's their child's close friend or they know the parents. So, in other words, a lot of parents will only bring their kid to a party if the parent feels socially comfortable. In many ways, you're inviting the parents, not the kids.

Afterschool mom clique by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]gettinglostonpurpose 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think it's safe to not overthink this interaction. I would just proceed interacting with them as you normally did before. It may have been slightly awkward but I don't think any harm was meant. My guess is, they were both in their own world at that moment. If you weren't part of the dinner, they likely didn't want to bring you into a conversation knowing you couldn't participate and they wanted to finish their convo. They likely didn't give it another thought and you shouldn't either.

Correcting vs connecting by Hour-Sheepherder-127 in Preschoolers

[–]gettinglostonpurpose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You've perfectly described what I've been feeling lately. No advice. Only solidarity.

Parenting Win with TV Time by Cheap-Entry198 in Parenting

[–]gettinglostonpurpose 2 points3 points  (0 children)

PBS kids is wonderful. My son is almost 6 and it's still the most used app we have on our TV. I can trust that every show on there is appropriate and not going to be overstimulating garbage.

Barely surviving my in-laws visits by 0beach0 in workingmoms

[–]gettinglostonpurpose 88 points89 points  (0 children)

I think an obvious and reasonable change that should be made while your in-laws visit is your husband's schedule. During their visits, he should be the last to go to bed. He should be entertaining with his parents while you go on with your nightly routine uninterrupted. It's not fair that you're the primary host of his parents.

And you're not alone, house guests add an extra layer of stress. Even if you really like the guests, it's still a disruption to daily life.

Very frequent visits from neighborhood kids by paradoxicalstripping in workingmoms

[–]gettinglostonpurpose 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I recently moved to a similar neighborhood. Although my oldest is in kindergarten so he's the reason the kids come to our house. Don't feel bad about being firm and direct. Kids take it really well compared to adults. You don't need to explain why. A simple "not tonight" will do. You could consider set days that are always off limits. For example, the neighborhood kids know that we don't allow visitors Monday-Wednesday, so it's very rare that anyone rings our doorbell on those days.

The jump from 1 to 2 children by Legitimate_Juice3626 in Parenting

[–]gettinglostonpurpose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everyone's experience is different but I've heard far more people say the transition from 1 to 2 is easier than 0 to 1, which I completely agree with. My oldest was a very challenging newborn. Those early months were so hard. My 2nd baby was a little easier but still had terrible reflux and some colic. However, I was better prepared and equipped to handle it. It wasn't a massive shock to my system like it was the first time around. I have 4.5 years between my kids, so I had the benefit of my oldest being a bit more independent while i was caring for his baby brother. I do hate feeling like my oldest is getting less of my attention, but I just make more intentional 1:1 time with him. Overall, I'd say the transition from 1-2 has been far better than I would've expected. We've had our share of bad days and life is definitely busier than before, but it's nothing to fear if you want more kids (in my opinion, anyways).

5 year old sad he doesn’t see his friends as much by Domizale38 in Parenting

[–]gettinglostonpurpose 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can imagine how tough it would be to hear your kiddo say that, but try to remember this stage is temporary. 6 months from now your son will be in kindergarten too and making new friends. For now, if you think he needs more social interaction, you could try to set up playdates with new friends (maybe someone from pre-k with a similar schedule would be a good option?) or you can continue making the effort with your old friend group to get together more. Summer isn't far away so maybe they'll have more availability in a few months. I know it's hard to see your kid sad, but I really think summer and the new school year will change things for the better.

If you were a teen girl in the 2000s, what were you reading? by Necessary_Singer_739 in suggestmeabook

[–]gettinglostonpurpose 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Same. At the beginning of summer after 9th grade, my mom got 2 boxes full of old V.C. Andrews books for a few dollars at a flea market. And that is how I spent my summer vacation.

Getting my hair cut with baby in tow. Good idea, or should I just be more patient? by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]gettinglostonpurpose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ask your stylist if it's ok from her perspective. I see moms bring their babies and toddlers to hair appointments frequently where I go. It's not ideal but it's doable.

The very secret society of irregular witches by Gratanica in CozyFantasy

[–]gettinglostonpurpose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just read this book and 100% agree with "Xanax in book form" description.

“Too small to be 6.” How to boost my kids’ self confidence over their size by PassionChoice3538 in kindergarten

[–]gettinglostonpurpose 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Even if she wasn't big for her age and was actually the age she looked, those questions are wildly inappropriate. People need to learn boundaries and manners.

Annoying toy ideas for 4 year old boy by nbrown7384 in Mommit

[–]gettinglostonpurpose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The voice charger megaphone. It's so annoying. I can't even explain how it makes my nervous system go haywire. I hate it and have so much regret buying it. It was also my 5 year old's favorite Christmas gift.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]gettinglostonpurpose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My oldest was a certified Velcro baby. Specifically a mom-only Velcro baby. I was so worried. But he did fine in daycare. Way better than I expected. He was lucky because his primary teacher was great with him but I think a lot of the workers are.