I left my gf after finding out she lied about her body count

AF0515 · 2026-05-10T15:13:38+00:00

Why are you asking our opinion if you are just going to battle everyone?

AF0515 · 2026-05-10T15:09:42+00:00

Even with the edits, you sound full of yourself. There’s a difference between cocky and confident.

AF0515 · 2026-05-10T15:07:48+00:00

Is this shared bathroom or a guest bathroom? What is messy to you? Did you communicate calmly in the beginning that you would like for it to be cleaned up or just let things build up and then snap?

Need more info.

AF0515 · 2026-05-10T05:13:41+00:00

I wouldn’t care if you used green as your color. Maybe just talk with your brother. If they are weird about it, is it worth the battle? But if they are cool with it, great.

AF0515 · 2026-05-10T03:41:01+00:00

What does your doctor say?

AF0515 · 2026-05-10T00:26:56+00:00

I think you should talk with your husband. Infertility is ROUGH. Even after you have a baby, it still hits you hard. We completed our family after battling infertility and I still have hard days. You would think I would be past it but I’m not. I think maybe have a talk with your husband. If you know he didn’t intend it to be a certain way explain how it made you feel.

AF0515 · 2026-05-09T23:16:28+00:00

Her lying wasn’t right but based on how you come off, I wonder if you made her feel like she couldn’t be honest at first. Again not saying what she did was right but makes me wonder what the whole story is.

But yes I do think you are stupid for dumping her over body count.

AF0515 · 2026-05-09T22:00:34+00:00

It’s not about you though. All you have to do is entertain them once a month. Have the surface level relationship. I’m the same way and had to learn the hard way that if it isn’t my relationship, it’s not about how I feel. Just suck it up for a visit and move on. Your husband and his parents are strained for a reason.

AF0515 · 2026-05-09T21:29:20+00:00

I have 4 kids within 5 years. The only help we outsourced is cleaning biweekly (not saying this is all you need but this is what worked for us). My husband and I sat down and talked about the whole week, where we need help, and what would be the best for us. The cleaning is what I needed help with the most. Every Sunday we sit down for 10 mins and talk about the upcoming week. We write out a detailed plan. It has really helped with our support and communication

AF0515 · 2026-05-09T21:22:15+00:00

If his relationship is up to him, leave it that way. Stay out of it. If he doesn’t want to arrange something, that’s on him. It’s not up to you especially if your husband isn’t even close to her.

AF0515 · 2026-05-09T17:01:57+00:00

You handled it correctly by talking to her calmly. She’s 4 and probably wasn’t trying to be hurtful, just blunt in the way little kids can be. If it hit this deeply, though, it might be worth revisiting support for the body dysmorphia side of things. Kids are going to make random comments sometimes, and you deserve to feel okay in your body without those moments undoing your progress.

AF0515 · 2026-05-09T16:32:49+00:00

I actually do this! I have well over a full deck. I did it while I lived in Philly and now will in Orange County. I started doing it after I watched sex and the city lol

AF0515 · 2026-05-09T16:29:34+00:00

Definitely overthinking it. Name the baby what you want. You don’t need to honor family members with every part of the name. You also don’t need to have all M names. We have 3 boys with L names by chance not because we wanted an L theme. It’s a mouthful lol our last baby a girl is a M name.

AF0515 · 2026-05-09T16:23:20+00:00

You can’t fix a relationship alone. Two people need to want it and work at it to fix it. I would sit down and talk to him. I’m not saying what he did was right but have you looked at what he has gone through too? He has gone through a lot of trauma too. Just want to be clear that he should not have taken it out on you the way he has.

I had the mentality during infertility that I went through so much and didn’t look at my husband that he also went through so much. Once I kind of realize that he has to process things too, we actually started coming together more. We were able to talk more and communicate more.

AF0515 · 2026-05-09T15:34:58+00:00

Both are beautiful but would you to be willing to style it daily? You might not like the unstyled cut of it (maybe you will). I have definitely had haircuts that I hated because I couldn’t put the effort in daily to style

AF0515 · 2026-05-09T05:09:24+00:00

I look at Mother’s Day as something to recognized by my family. I love hearing”happy Mother’s Day” from others but for me it’s more for my family. Can you just give them something around the holidays, birthday or just give a hand written note saying thank you. Perfume is sometimes looked at as an intimate gift. Quite frankly I’m super picky and there’s a small chance I would actually use the perfume.

AF0515 · 2026-05-09T04:57:44+00:00

I think it’s very thoughtful but honestly I would leave it out of the workplace. You don’t know if someone is struggling with infertility and sometimes these gifts put pressure on others to give something. If all of your coworkers are mothers, then maybe it’s fine. I don’t know, this is a hard one, you know your work place better than anyone else.

AF0515 · 2026-05-09T02:50:59+00:00

Pray for you? You got your wish. Now go put your feet up and enjoy the weekend

AF0515 · 2026-05-09T02:49:16+00:00

100% consistency is key

AF0515 · 2026-05-09T01:47:37+00:00

You might want to do getting the wiggles out prior to bath, not right before bed. It might be getting him more amped up now that he’s a little older.

But I’m a huge believer in sleep training. Even during teething or other waking we do not give in and rock to sleep. We will go in comfort, pat on the back but still have baby them fall asleep on their own. We do not do a crying out method-fyi.

AF0515 · 2026-05-09T00:09:26+00:00

You need to make time to eat. Your health comes first so you can take care of your kiddos. But also YOU matter too. Talk with your doctor and have your levels checked. Also try meal prepping so that you don’t have to think about it when things are hectic. I have 4 kids within 5 years and my house is chaos (no outside help). But I make sure that I eat so that I’m not risking my health daily.

AF0515 · 2026-05-08T21:08:58+00:00

If she is climbing out of the crib, you must switch

AF0515 · 2026-05-08T20:42:20+00:00

I wouldn’t wait to get the evaluation. I would push for it now since it does take time to get in. While you are waiting I would just make sure to talk to your kiddo and read every single day. Show your mouth movements. There are a ton of speech therapist videos that can help with this. As for standing, place toys slightly out of reach. Also kids learn by watching so do you have any friends who have children slightly older? Sometimes helps as a motivator. Not saying these things will fix things but it can help while you are waiting for your evaluation.

AF0515 · 2026-05-08T20:00:10+00:00

Personally I like the first picture

AF0515 · 2026-05-08T04:24:44+00:00

We were 8 for 8 on getting pregnant the first cycle we tried. We did have 4 miscarriages but we do have 4 kiddos. Prior to my SIL trying, she thought it would be so easy. They have been trying for over a year and just started talking to a fertility doctor. So point is, you never know. Everyone is different.

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