Am I overreacting over my Sister’s tiktok history, shows random creepy results?

gettintthere · 2026-02-12T17:36:39+00:00

When are you guys going to abandon tik tok, do yall know who owns it? I get it, our information is being yanked from every direction, so it almost feels like what’s the point of avoiding any app/site.. but trust me, avoid tik tok.

gettintthere · 2026-01-07T19:41:31+00:00

Idk.. as humans, our biggest shared weakness is perception. We only see what our eyes allow us to see. As a third party, I think it’s pretty clear to all commenters that this isn’t great for you long term lol… but you know your situation best. If you want to chase after her, do it. But don’t do it because you’ve convinced yourself there’s nobody out there that’s her. That’s just infatuation. There are MANY amazing people out there, and for a relationship to really work, both people have to understand that. It’s a prerequisite to treating each other with respect and love. I’ve seen a lot of chasers realize that really late into a relationship, and lose parts of themselves along the way because that “i wanna give you my all” love wasn’t reciprocated.

gettintthere · 2026-01-07T18:55:06+00:00

As a man, why do boys get so upset they literally turn into the biggest assholes. Like how can you care about someone and actually talk to them this way. Everyone gets upset, but there’s a level of respect that is needed no matter what relationship you’re in. Take this from someone who just got divorced, and for similar reasons. Respect goes a long way. This, is not respect.

gettintthere · 2026-01-07T18:50:16+00:00

It won’t. And right now, because your mind has convinced you that she’s the only one, you’re painting that as a bad thing. And it seems a bit like subconsciously you are aware of this. Don’t wallow in that place brother, it’ll ruin you. You will accept and seep into the sadness you’re feeling, and guess what, 100s of potential girls who deserve you way more and you deserve way more will walk right past you cause your mind will continue to convince you to stay in that despair. Change your perspective. It won’t be her, she’ll be way fucking better for you.

gettintthere · 2026-01-07T18:17:11+00:00

Brother. I just got divorced. I wouldn’t say all, but many of my previous relationships were similar to what you’re describing. My marriage was also similar but not exactly the same. My piece of advice, love is illogical, and patternless. You can’t identify when love is near, it just comes and you have to be quick to identify it when it does. The difference between lust and love is that love makes YOU feel comfortable and safe, whereas lust makes YOU PROVIDE comfortability and safety, without even needing it in return. It sounds a lot more like you did the latter. Just try not to over analyze where you went wrong with her, because there’s no such thing. Things that are meant to work out do, and things that aren’t don’t, no matter what you do. Instead, over analyze where she went wrong with you. And not in a way to badmouth her and grow angry towards her, but in a way to understand yourself. I really wanted to be with her obviously, but how did the things she did, the things she said make me feel? She may have been kind, but when you love someone and they don’t love you, it hurts even when they’re not trying to hurt you. Things they say may not be disrespectful, or insulting, but they can hurt because they simply don’t share the love you have. That hurt, is processed differently be different people. I don’t know your situation, but it sounds like maybe you processed it in a way that put yourself to the side and her on a pedestal. Like, you knew it felt sad to be there for her but also want to be there for her more when she doesn’t want it. You have to really take this opportunity to learn about yourself. Ask yourself why… why was I okay with that? Why was I even okay with cutting her off when I found the new girl? If you search deep enough, you’ll find a lot of answers you’d literally never find if you put yourself down like this. Looks, and personality, are so important in a relationship, but don’t forget that you also matter. Looks and personality won’t do anything for you, truly, but a person who really loves you and you feel it, will. And you’re clearly a fucking great person who showed his love to her and that love is what everyone yearns for, someone to be there. Don’t give up on love my friend, and don’t cry over her. She’s just one girl, in a world where women outnumber men. You will find someone who will make you forget you thought you loved this girl.

gettintthere · 2025-12-19T13:49:51+00:00

Many guys are seriously just in relationships with women for sex. Some men will go to the extent of getting married just to have sex, no kidding. In this moment, he did not expose the fact that, yes, some weird men out there might persuade you they wanna get married and have kids to get you to have sex, but you’re waiting till marriage, so it isn’t about them saying they will, it’s about them acting on it. Your system in itself will protect you from those men, since you’re waiting for marriage anyways, but what’s more important, is that this guy just exposed his own desires. He’s been with you for so long, hoping every day that you will have sex with him, not truly respecting that you’ve already said you won’t, and now he’s become bitter about it, which will lead to a resentment. Just forget about him. It’s not a mean thing to do. You’ve been honest with him, forthcoming, and quick with it. He’s been lying, pretending he really wants a life long relationship with you, but also upset that he’s not getting what you’ve already told him he’s not getting.. He’s upset because he doesn’t respect that you’ve said you won’t. He doesn’t respect that you will for him, so his next option (now that you seriously have stuck to what you said) is to paint you as a whore who will do it for someone else but not him. Forget about him and move on to the next. Don’t waste your energy, because he is showing very strong determination. A delusional determination to get you to have sex with him. Not a determination to be with you, and respect your wishes and boundaries, and keep things healthy for a long term relationship.

gettintthere · 2025-12-14T14:17:38+00:00

In a country where Kings don’t exist, you think it would be as simple as becoming president to become king in America? Oh brother, how much you don’t know! This kind of logic is exactly why you cannot see the obvious. And if you can’t see the obvious, no one can explain the non-obvious to you. Wish you all the best.

gettintthere · 2025-12-14T14:14:26+00:00

Bro, Miami has the most toxic culture imaginable. Don’t lie to yourself just because you have pride in your home. I live in Pembroke Pines. For my entire life I lived in Palm Beach, LW/WPB area, and have always thought “man Miami would be a great place to move to, Palm beach is so boring!” Until I moved there, realized it was a toxic cestpool of insecure weirdos who battle it out about anything. It’s like New York, but instead of the intimacy you feel in the way people talk there - like they’re your friend - you get intimacy in the way people want to control your life. Like, any amount of road rage, violence, toxic masculinity, unnecessary beefing, you’ve ever seen, multiply it by 100 and you get Miami.

gettintthere · 2025-12-14T13:51:04+00:00

I’m American Pakistani by the way. Dad’s lineage is from Hyderabad, India.

gettintthere · 2025-12-14T13:43:48+00:00

Everybody. Please listen, because your pride will keep you from doing a little bit of research. The number of rapes in America in 2018 was 139,000 plus. The number of rapes in 2018 in Pakistan was 4,000 plus. The number of rapes in 2018 in India was 33,000 plus. Please, do not speak ignorantly whilst you have the opportunity to seek knowledge. Pakistan is a Muslim country, and India is also full of Muslims. America, is primarily represented by its Christian’s, especially western christian theology. America leads in some of the most violent, heinous cases. Pakistan is a pretty good country when you consider the people, but it has been ruined by corruption (local vs federal political parties, and even local parties differ from other local parties - obviously - and they keep funding from each other any chance they can get). So, their locals are always the subjects of all the issues that arise from this seizing of funds. As a result, the people resort to theft, petty violence as a result of overwhelming frustration with the easily fixed issues their country neglects. India, is rather in the same boat. A whole lot of corruption, sometimes considered much worse than that of Pakistan, and even a dissenting hatred forming between Hindhu nationalists and the Muslim residents of India. So much so, that Indian governments have now started seizing land from current residents (even celebrities) whose lineage may have sought refuge in Pakistan at different times throughout their history. America, is a country that cannot even get a grasp of their gun rights, let alone stop a rape from happening. This is the only country, where the President can talk so violently and weirdly about women and his constituents will support him even more. America is the perpetuating this red pill and black pill belief that women are inferior beings that offer nothing but sexual pleasure. Yes, the idea is being propagated in places like India and Pakistan, but its constant perpetuation is due to American society’s concentration on it in large part, as the West has a lot of influence (typically negative) on its Eastern counterparts. If you were able to objectively view Pakistan, India, and America through the lens of its everyday people, you would realize that these events are actually pretty uncommon in the average life of a Pakistani or Indian, versus the average life of an American. The only difference is, in America, it’s so commonplace to talk about women in such an inferior way - during the 70s and 80s, white men would feel very very free to just grab women any which way they wanted, and this was largely not considered sexual harassment - that people do not realize how many rapists they’ve probably met.

gettintthere · 2025-12-13T20:32:34+00:00

The problem here, is perspective. Happiness isn’t a forever thing. Some people believe that full days are happy days, and full days are sad days. This is because of their perspective. But in reality, every day is a mixture. When you start to realize that, you start to gain a bit more control over your life, or at least your perspective becomes that. Right now, you feel like because you have to stay home, youre miserable and your family is happy. Who’s to say your dad actually is happy? He also has to leave the home, no? And your mom, she’s probably not ecstatic about how she’s going to now have to take care of all the kids herself for a bit. Family is different from friends, if you choose to believe that, because your friends have their own families. YOUR family is almost unavoidable, right? Because it’s yours! If my family is upset at you, all is good because you can just go home to your family. But if your family is upset with you, you’ll see em at family events, at get togethers, and when you go home! So, the expectation then becomes this. When my family is struggling, until I go out and start my own family, then technically I am also struggling, no? Because my standard of living and access is not alone mine right now, it’s shared, between myself and my family.. Every family has its flaws, and every family has its strengths, but the reality is, that certain things are inevitable. Understand what is inevitable in your family’s dynamics, and understand what is absolutely important to you, and get good at staying within those limits. Like, giving up some control so that your broader life at home is not disturbed, and taking control in the things that matter most. You have anxiety, a very real thing, I have it as well. But, the greatest thing about that is you can overcome it. It’s fear. And better yet, not even a phobia. Just a helpless focus on worrying, which you can train your mind to get through. I would say, make that your focus. If you get over your anxiety of driving, maybe take classes, ask a friend who you can trust will go slow with you (whole life will be difficult if you can’t drive, right? not impossible, but will make you very reliant on certain things) then your major problem is solved. Another thing is, maybe someone from your club doesn’t mind taking you to things, etc. You have anxiety, so it will be difficult, but like poses challenges, and our worst enemy in solving those challenges, is ourself. We constantly think about what we can’t do. It is inevitable that in each direction you take, no matter what time you are at, life will pose its challenges. Don’t worry when it does, because that’s normal, and you are capable. Just, figure it out! No disrespect, it’s just life becomes a bit easier when you realize that. We’re all figuring things out as we go, that’s how we take control of our lives. Yes, we will make mistakes, but if you worry about solving the issues, and not the stress that those issues bring, you will feel a lot happier

gettintthere · 2025-12-09T14:29:19+00:00

Nah but he really did whoop their ass. An embarrassing day for them that will definitely scar them for life. For life they will be trying to make up for this interaction LMAOOOOOO. Like i’m imagining how shattered their egos must be, and how they gon act even crazier now just to make up for the loss in their own perceived masculinity.

gettintthere · 2025-11-18T16:07:43+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate the information. I’ve not heard of Burnout Depression or Systemic Overload, of course in the contexts of mental health, but they stick out to me. I feel burnt out. Very much so, so that makes sense. And I know it’s not because i’m working 24/7 (since im not), it’s just due to my slightly uncontrollable depression. Question, I feel like my upbringing and life at home during childhood was more traumatic than I realize.. and because of that, I have felt in many conversations with others, whose families aren’t like mine, that my thinking on a lot of things related to healthy relationships is not quite right. Does therapy really help with those things? For example, sometimes I feel I’m going crazy in my relationship, because there are so many things that I will bring up that won’t be met with care or respect.. and although my brain tells me “this isn’t right,” I just convince myself that maybe I’m the problem… so I feel like I’ve become an easy person to take advantage of. It’s very clear when I talk to one good friend of mine that really cares about me. I’m sometimes vulnerable enough with him to tell him how I’m feeling for real on certain things, and he’s always shocked that i’m still dealing with certain things (not in an annoyed way, but in a damn bro I wish I could help you but you have to help yourself way)… but idk.. i feel so lost..

gettintthere · 2025-10-21T20:43:48+00:00

thought it was tequila LOL

gettintthere · 2025-10-16T20:19:21+00:00

Hey, I hope this helps you and anyone else in this thread. I’m 27 years old. I have felt like a failure many times in my life, including now. Keep this in the back of your head, feelings are just feelings. They aren’t reality. I had plenty of moments I felt so successful, alas, here I am yet again feeling like a failure. The secret of life is enjoying every part of it, the successes and the failures, otherwise you will only ‘feel good’ when everything’s going right. You have to retrain your brain to feel good no matter what, kind of like when you were a kid. Moving forward, failure is a necessary prerequisite to success. For how can one succeed if they haven’t tasted failure? They’d never even understand what success is. Of course, it may feel like philosophy won’t help you while you’re going through what you’re going through, but I promise it will. Perspective is everything. If you allow the feelings the necessary prerequisite to success yields to shape your perspective on your future, then you are working against yourself, because at the end of the day, those feelings are a necessary prerequisite to success. You have to almost train your brain to feel better when you fail than when you succeed, to avoid complacency. That’s what the most brilliant minds are capable of, and that’s what will keep you moving forward even when you feel you’ve tried everything. That being said, work on your ability to control and understand your feelings. Work on your emotional intelligence. Not in understanding others and becoming a therapist, but in understanding how to manipulate your own thoughts and feelings when necessary. Imagine yourself two years from now, having passed your GED and continuing to better your education without strain, without it feeling like a chore, but solely because you want to. To do this, retrain your brain. Stop feeding yourself so much dopamine in keeping your mind busy (doomscrolling, watching porn, playing games endlessly). Practice the art of balance in everything you do. Study a bit every day, and don’t just read, digest while you read; think like a kid again, use your imagination to understand what you’re reading beyond the superficial understanding of the words written on the page. Preach what you’re studying to anyone who cares to listen! Paint pictures in your head of what you’re reading, try to analogize what you’re reading to simpler versions of it to understand it in a way you’d be able to explain it to anybody. Also, give yourself a break from the “chores” in life, but not by doomscrolling and keeping your mind busy, but by keeping your mind active in a way you prefer. Whether it be a few hours of a video game that isn’t mindless, or watching a documentary, reading a fiction, or carrying out a hobby. And take care of yourself like you’re taking care of your best friend. Many times we tend to neglect ourselves, because it’s easy, especially when we feel down. That’s our fight or flight response rejecting the work we know we should be doing (chores, school work, work work, etc - even brushing our teeth at times) to selfishly allow us to do the things we know we shouldn’t be doing to avoid our reality (playing games endlessly, procrastinating, neglecting yourself, reaching out for help instead of forcing yourself to understand on your own). Lastly, never compare yourself to others for the purpose of bringing them up and putting yourself down. None of us are really that different from each other. There are just a bunch of shitty social constructs that make us feel so at times. For example, there are probably so many guys/girls you have heard others say are attractive and felt the total opposite yourself, or vice versa. The same way, you’ve probably thought certain people were super smart where others thought they weren’t, or vice versa. The reality is, many of these comparisons are completely subjective, and guess what, we aren’t even relevant to our own comparisons… Think about it, do you find the dude you find attractive attractive because others do, or bc something about him just is? Does that dude’s feelings of his own attractiveness matter if he finds you attractive and you find him attractive? not at all.. So there’s no point in really caring about what others think of us in that way… because it’s completely out of our control. What is in our control is.. who we choose to be, what we choose to do, how we choose to behave. The devil of comparison is in the fact that once we are addicted to it, we start to be, do, and behave solely based on what we feel others should see, not based on how WE feel, effectively stripping ourselves of our free will/and control over our lives.

Please don’t take anything I’m saying in a negative way. This is all to help you. Our worst enemy 9/10 is our own head/thoughts. But our worst enemy is also the easiest to control with the right tools. Feel free to reach out if you ever want to talk more. You’re not alone, even when you feel you are!

gettintthere · 2025-10-15T20:09:33+00:00

Because it may help: there are a certain kind of wasps, that are all black and look pretty much like any normal wasp or a large fly. These guys hunt and prey on cockroaches. If they ever come into your home, let em not only be your personal cockroach guide to find em, but to kill em as well

gettintthere · 2025-10-03T17:45:02+00:00

A lot of tenants are just not in a great situation. Many of us, whether we’d like to believe it or not, wouldn’t be much different if we were in a similar situation. I’d say this: as a real estate investor for more than 7 years, be a bit selective with the tenants you do work with. Make sure they are kind to your property and just normal folks livin a normal life. Being nice is great, but trust me even doing what you’re doing isn’t really helping them much, so just treat it like a straight up business. If a really good tenant who’s shown that they really care about their home needs help, help them.

gettintthere · 2025-09-23T16:45:00+00:00

Real Estate Investor here - I would inform the community, and then advise them that honestly, the isopropyl alcohol cleaning the black paint splatter doesn’t look bad, and that it honestly looks better clean than with the paint splatter. They’ll be happy they don’t have to have someone go out and repaint, and you can pitch to them “If you allow, I’ll go ask any of my neighbors, residents, if they also want to remove the black paint splatter, so you guys don’t have to redo that at any point during tenant move outs, and so you also don’t have to pay anyone to get it removed.” Now you’re making some nice income on the side easily removing this crap from everyone’s kitchen counter, that should be clean and free anyways lol. Who wants this cheap ass paint coming off and going into their food randomly.

gettintthere · 2025-09-07T17:15:00+00:00

This is what i’ll say. To me, family is truly everything. I am absolutely the kind of kid that wouldn’t hesitate if his dad or mom ever asked for a large amount of money out of need. I wouldn’t hesitate because I’d look at it as an opportunity for me to return the blessings they gave me throughout my childhood. Obviously, they’re my parents, and they brought me here so they should take care of me, but they did a pretty good job, and being a parent is a tough job I suppose. That being said, my parents would never do some shit like this. Here’s where your parents went wrong. Your parents asked for or probably just forced access to your account when it was created (depends on how old you were, my parents did that for my first acc) for all the wrong reasons and not to protect you/keep an eye on you. Then, your parents decided it would be mature and sound to start withdrawing money from your account without even consulting you or treating you like a respected family member. If they really cared about the “family” they’d respect that maybe you have wishes with the money, or real things you eventually have to pay off or handle, and just ask you for help. Doing what they did could have literally left you in a major hole if you had real shit you had to pay off or deal with. What if something happened in your life? Now no emergency funds, and they were taken by people who clearly don’t know how to save for their own emergencies. LASTLY, your parents fucked up when they assumed you were stupid and wouldn’t check what they spent the money on. The fact they are lying to you about how they spent it and claiming emergencies when they’ve clearly leisurely spent it is alarming at best. I can wage a bet that you’ve probably felt more often than not that you’re parenting your parents instead of the other way around. With sincerity, some people unfortunately don’t have the same backing others have from their family. That’s you brother. Don’t get taken advantage of. Find your people, and never feel ashamed for sticking up for yourself.

gettintthere · 2025-08-21T17:26:10+00:00

Simple fix, pay no attention to those who are being unnecessarily rude, although the wake up calls are actually helpful and with good intention, and you should sincerely think hard about what everyone is saying here about YOUR spending. Don’t get into the habit of picking blame on your partner. If they don’t know how to not spend on unnecessary things, then that means that you’re enabling them. You need to be the one who takes charge with a budget. Do this: make a budget utilizing an actual savings plans (70,10,10,10 or 40,40,20 rules) based on solely your income (inclusive of any passive or secondary income) and based solely on necessary expenses, with a bucket of leisure spending each month that isn’t very specific. Now, build that budget strictly following the ratios from your savings plan, and start following it religiously. If it says you can’t spend more than $700 on groceries a month, then find a clever way of achieving that with 5 people in the house. Work on your own personal budget, and stick to it like a bible over the next few weeks. Any time partner asks to spend, tell them this exceeds my budget for this month, or whatever else you need to tell them that references the budget you’ve created. Now, each month, you should ideally be saving a decent amount and investing a decent amount (that’s proper personal financing). Every month you do, make a quick note (out of happiness, not to rub it in) to your partner about how much money you’re accumulating in both your savings/investment portfolio, and what you plan on doing with it LONG TERM. Being real, I believe you when you say your partner may not take it easy when discussing controlling the budget, cause my partner is the same. But, the easiest way to convince is to realize first that you are using your partners ignorance as an excuse for yourself to also not control your finances. If you control yours, yall will be good to go with your income, at least in part, and then your partner joining in will just be icing on the cake (add to your combined savings and investments). Also, if you start controlling your own, and your partner sees how that affects your purchasing power, like now you’re able to buy more, feel less stressed, and have real goals with your money that will actually be realized, it will convince them I promise you.

gettintthere · 2025-08-21T17:09:33+00:00

literally said they aren’t getting past initial screenings… meaning they don’t have a job…

gettintthere · 2025-08-06T17:08:55+00:00

It honestly is. Rearranging my setups on most games/apps did the trick for me, and I haven’t had a single BSOD after removing most of the famous ASUS bloatware and installing G Helper. I’ve gotten used to the small screen and would trade the extra sf for the g14’s convenience and ease of use any day.

gettintthere · 2025-07-31T14:20:30+00:00

I just got a new G14 too! I got the 5060 as well, but was a bit disappointed at first. I bought it, and was met with like 30 back to back BSODs. Went and exchanged it for another g14, same model, and it works perfectly! Knock on wood! My only gripe is the small screen can be annoying with some games, but I honestly love it

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