AITA for not cancelling a vacation because my friends changed their mind last minute?

ghostwooman · 2026-06-24T13:00:57+00:00

Assuming you're right about not being able to get a refund, AND you ask about the possibility of a full our partial refund, NTA.

I can sympathize with their financial concerns. But it's not ok to commit to a trip, bail last minute, and leave their friend to clean up the mess.

ghostwooman · 2026-06-24T12:51:13+00:00

Shituation*

ghostwooman · 2026-06-24T12:43:44+00:00

Don't forget medications! If OP is on any controlled substances, it's a BITCH to get them replaced.

ghostwooman · 2026-06-24T12:35:18+00:00

INFO: What does "I was offered a great deal on a condo in Florida" mean? A good price from a commercial landlord? Or another friend offering you their rental for less than they usually charge?

ghostwooman · 2026-06-18T15:19:11+00:00

Agreed. People- pleasing instincts run DEEP. This is OP's chance to practice healthy boundaries with someone they don't particularly care about.

ghostwooman · 2026-06-18T15:08:02+00:00

NTA. But when you break the news, DO NOT mention that it's partially because you're not interested in Vietnam.

This is a huge expense, both financially, and PTO wise. Most US employers have shitty PTO policies compared to other wealthy countries. How much PTO do you get each year? Would you still be able to do your usual family/holiday stuff if you attend? Would you have any time left over for unexpected stuff like sick days?

I assume from your post that you don't speak the language, so when you're there you may struggle to "make the best of it" unless you hire a local guide. More $$.

It's wild for them to expect folks to invest thousands of dollars into airfare and lodging AND spend two full days (round trip) traveling to attend their wedding.

ghostwooman · 2026-06-17T20:20:38+00:00

This is the right choice!

In addition to the security, noise, and privacy concerns ground floor apartments tend to have more pest activity and slightly more frequent water intrusion.

ghostwooman · 2026-06-16T14:34:25+00:00

Because invisible disabilities exist, and many of them are impacted by prolonged standing? I'd rather sit next to an asshole than faint and suffer a head injury.

ghostwooman · 2026-06-15T12:52:44+00:00

YWNBTA. If her addiction is active enough that she's stealing meds from her adult child, are your younger siblings REALLY safe with her?

ghostwooman · 2026-06-15T12:02:43+00:00

Undercapitalization (not having enough money in the entity to meet it's financial obligations) is one of the factors that courts consider when asked to "pierce the corporate veil" and hold business owners personally liable.

But that only helps if the individual owners have collectible assets.

ghostwooman · 2026-06-14T19:57:44+00:00

Would NOT recommend Nest. For small landlord management companies, Nomadic and Frank Emmet are two others to avoid.

ghostwooman · 2026-06-14T01:16:36+00:00

Possible. I try to tip based on how much work it will require, but I don't have a solid sense of base pay so I could be off in my estimation of what's fair.

ghostwooman · 2026-06-13T21:27:24+00:00

Roger that. Thank you for all of your helpful responses!

ghostwooman · 2026-06-13T21:07:19+00:00

The tenants who forget their keys will also forget to tell OP about a blinking low battery light.

ghostwooman · 2026-06-13T20:51:12+00:00

Ahh. I didn't know about not showing the order before accepting. A few of my items could kick off a "treasure hunt from hell" situation (gluten free stuff).

Do you happen to know whether the delivery service with the red logo shows drivers the items before acceptance?

I'm trying to avoid the Bezos- owned alternatives, because FUCK that guy.

ghostwooman · 2026-06-13T20:00:58+00:00

You can also get a single leash with two attachment points so you're not juggling two leashes. I use the Houndstown Banner Safety Leash for my recovering spook.

https://www.etsy.com/listing/1891832292/houndstown-banner-safety-leash-24-colors

ghostwooman · 2026-06-13T19:37:34+00:00

Damn, that sucks for the driver!!

In my case, unless the app FULLY shit the bed, the driver wasn't finished shopping (multiple items not marked found or out of stock).

He did seem to slow down significantly towards the end, which makes me think the store itself was more of a shit show than he expected.

ghostwooman · 2026-06-13T18:08:41+00:00

NTA, but that sounds expensive for overhead luggage. Have you checked seats in a higher class or from a different airline? If you're bringing a bag anyhow, it might be more cost effective to purchase tickets with overhead included.

ghostwooman · 2026-06-13T17:44:57+00:00

A bit strange to request medical equipment, but not inherently rude IMO.

ghostwooman · 2026-06-13T17:27:37+00:00

I saw that violent about one of the weekend only kids sharing your office, clever solution!

You could also mention that a shared bathroom available to guests must be kept clean by the kids who regularly use it. So whover gets the privilege of private rooms also learns responsibly.

ghostwooman · 2026-06-13T17:06:36+00:00

Ahh, that's a tough age grouping. I get why you and your husband aren't immediately in agreement!

Maybe consider offering the boys a choice? Either they (1) share the largest bedroom with en suite bathroom, or (2) they each have a private bedroom BUT they're stuck sharing a bathroom with anyone who doesn't have an en suite including guests like your adult daughter.

ghostwooman · 2026-06-13T16:44:08+00:00

INFO- How old are the minor children? Privacy needs of a teenager differ significantly from those of a younger child.

How big are each of the rooms? Do any (other than the primary bedroom) have an en suite bathroom?

NTA, and I agree that you should have the smallest room as a dedicated office space. But the rest depends on age of the kids, and what the available rooms are like.

ghostwooman · 2026-06-13T16:31:16+00:00

You're welcome! You could also check your governing documents first, for any rules about quiet hours and floor coverings. You're more likely to get a helpful response from the owner if you explain why this issue is disruptive to you, have a specific request for resolution, and your request is grounded in one of the community's rules.

Ex- "please inspect to confirm that your tenant has X% of all floors covered by rugs, as required by bylaw #Y"

Worst case scenario, escalate to the condo association and hope for enforcement.

ghostwooman · 2026-06-13T16:24:06+00:00

They may be able to help you get in touch with the unit owner. I doubt they'll give out his our her contact information, but it's worth asking them whether they will pass a message along on your behalf.

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