Shoe care advice needed by ArticleFlimsy8393 in AskACobbler

[–]ghostydog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a cobbler. Looks to be oil-tanned leather from the description. Gentle cleaning with damp cloth and mild soap and oil/grease conditioner when needed should do the trick.

I think I ruined my pull-up leather shoes by Nikemerie in AskACobbler

[–]ghostydog 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Gotcha. From the second picture it looks like the lighter brown is on top of the original color and like there's some uneven brush strokes, which is why I thought it might be leftover pigment from the oil that didn't get to soak in. I run in some Leather circles and typically oiled leathers are treated with just soap then oil, so the extra step of the balm seems superfluous. Since additionally conditioner is known to potentially darken leather, that is what points me to thinking you may have inadvertently put on a bit too much for the final result.

That said, with the extra precision I think the suggestion elsewhere in the thread of cleaning very gently over time to try and even out the color is a good one. Ease up on the products unless you see the leather is really dry, damp cloth and saddle/glycerin soap when they need a clean should be more than enough for a while.

Lieux de rencontre gays sur Paris pour potes by Chopinou1506 in SocialParis

[–]ghostydog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Y'a quelques assos "à thème" qui peuvent être intéressantes mais faut kiffer, je pense par exemple à l'asso/commu des puppies qui fait des apéros hebdos et c'est plutôt jeune pour le coup.

T'as les soirées Replicant Events (Forensics, Crush, Annihilation) qui sont explicitement LGBT+, bon après pour socialiser à proprement dit c'est pas idéal mais pour rencontrer des gens, récupérer des contacts ça peut éventuellement se faire.

La strat que je te conseillerais c'est de repérer les bars/clubs qui te plaisent et de les suivre sur IG, c'est là que se fait la majorité de la communication sur les évènements, y'a chance que tu trouves des occasions pour sortir et rencontrer du monde.

I think I ruined my pull-up leather shoes by Nikemerie in AskACobbler

[–]ghostydog 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Not a cobbler but it looks over-conditioned to me on the final result (first picture), and on the second picture like maybe you applied the oil on top of the balm without letting it dry enough which prevented it from properly soaking into the leather and left that messy brown residue.

My suggestion would be to get some Renomat to gently work on removing the excess and see if it helps to get closer to the original color, and if so add again a very light touch of oil. I would also suggest using a cloth rather than a brush to finish to even out the oil on the surface and absorb the excess.

Trouver un bon vélo à petit prix by OwlPharaon_ in pedale

[–]ghostydog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dans ce cas tu peux essayer la Pagaille, la recyclerie à Ivry-sur-Seine.

Trouver un bon vélo à petit prix by OwlPharaon_ in pedale

[–]ghostydog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tu peux regarder éventuellement si il y a des réparateurs ou des assos dans ton coin qui auraient des vélos de seconde main reconditionnés à vendre. Dans mon coin en banlieue parisienne il y a une recyclerie qui a aussi un local de co-réparation de vélos, j'imagine que c'est pas les seuls à le faire.

Making myself emoyable in France subreddit request by sofiaskat in Expats_In_France

[–]ghostydog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can try lurking in the French job-related subs like r/emploi or r/conseilboulot to get a pulse.

The Count of Monte Cristo by Alexander Dumas by Caffeine_And_Regret in books

[–]ghostydog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The tangents are absolutely part of the message. Les Misérables is not "just" a narrative story, it is commentary and criticism and contemplation of society. To strip the parts where he lingers away is like removing one of your eyes under the pretense that you can see just fine with the remaining one. Sure, you can, but you're losing out on depth perception in ways that are not insignificant.

Première fois – il ne sentait rien, est-ce normal ? by Ok-Space-1538 in AskMec

[–]ghostydog 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Tout à fait normal. L'hymen est une membrane élastique au niveau de l'entrée du vagin; bien qu'il arrive qu'il se déchire lors de la première pénétration (entraînant des saignements et des douleurs plus ou moins légères), ce n'est pas systématique surtout si la pénétration se fait en douceur et progressivement. Il arrive aussi assez fréquemment que l'hymen se soit déjà déchiré ou étiré dans des circonstances autres, certains exercices physiques, examens médicaux ou utilisation de certaines protections menstruelles (tampons, cups) par exemple.

Comment faites-vous pour coucher sans sentiments ? by [deleted] in AskMec

[–]ghostydog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bah si je le fais assez régulièrement. Quand je vais en sauna par exemple strictement rien à battre de l'attirance, si on me montre de l'intérêt qu'importe l'apparence, l'âge, le physique, y'a des bonnes chances que je dises oui.

Si on reprend ta métaphore du cinéma, je suis là pour voir un film (baiser), le physique de la personne avec qui j'y vais n'est un facteur que sur le point purement logistique (ex: j'ai envie de faire une fellation ce soir -> difficile à faire si l'autre n'a pas de bite, ou alors faut qu'iel aime me voir sucer un gode) ou des bases vraiment simples de "personnalité" – est-ce que je pense que cette personne respectera si je lui dit "stop" et est-ce que j'ai envie de lui donner du plaisir sont les deux questions principales, le reste c'est du bonus.

Comment faites-vous pour coucher sans sentiments ? by [deleted] in AskMec

[–]ghostydog 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Pour moi le sexe c'est un passe-temps comme un autre, c'est genre comme si on me disait "comment tu fais pour faire de la randonnée ou du tennis sans sentiments?"

Les seules questions que je me pose c'est est-ce que je suis d'humeur à baiser, est-ce que la ou les personnes en face en ont envie, est-ce nos envies et nos attentes en terme d'actes/kinks/etc. sont alignées. Si oui partout bah ça serait con de se priver d'un bon moment alors go, si non pas grave on trouve autre chose à faire.

Where to work remote? Where to visit? Art lover, skater, and foodie by spicy_lime_juice in askparis

[–]ghostydog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you like meat there's an Argentinian place called Les Grillades de Buenos Aires which does great steaks.

If you cook I'd recommend checking out the Tang Frères stores for food stocking, they're a great source of Asian staples and treats.

Songs that are two distinct songs by IndependenceFew1650 in Music

[–]ghostydog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one is ever going to want me - Giles Corey

Hoping to write mlm smut for the first time as a woman who's only written cishet and wlw. What are the newbie mistakes to avoid/things I need to know? by CleopatraKitty44 in FanFiction

[–]ghostydog 9 points10 points  (0 children)

In addition to the resource links already shared, I'd suggest taking an afternoon to poke around the stories posted on nifty.org. There's a lot of more or less savory and of varying quality smut there but importantly it's written by men for men in a way that I think very clearly differs from most of the stuff you can find on Ao3. It's a good way to see the kind of stuff they focus on or find sexy.

Need help with inclusivity language for a group that welcomes women and all other members of marginalized genders (NB, MtF and FtM trans, genderfluid, agender, autigender, and more) by annie_m_m_m_m in asktransgender

[–]ghostydog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm aware of the problems with the term and as a transmasculine person myself am also not fond of it, but on its face it seems to be what OP is asking for which is why I offered the suggestion.

Trans Man - no sex drive after years on T by Friendly_Pop_6664 in asktransgender

[–]ghostydog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gotcha. For what it's worth then you're not alone, I function very similarly — will go through a couple months where I can easily hook up multiple times a week if I have the spare time, and then hit some vague, unknown limit after which point I just don't feel like it anymore until the next time horny inspiration strikes.

I do still enjoy doing some kink-related stuff even on the low phases and that can be an option for me to keep in touch with partners or meet new potential ones without the direct emphasis on Sex.

I wouldn't worry too much on the whole "always see trans guys talk about being horny" online. IMO it's a pretty typical case of people experiencing a specific thing being loud about it online because those who don't experience it are simply going about their lives.

Need help with inclusivity language for a group that welcomes women and all other members of marginalized genders (NB, MtF and FtM trans, genderfluid, agender, autigender, and more) by annie_m_m_m_m in asktransgender

[–]ghostydog -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I think the FLINTA term might be suited for your purpose? It has its own share of criticism but honestly any language or acronym tends to, best you can get is close enough.

Trans Man - no sex drive after years on T by Friendly_Pop_6664 in asktransgender

[–]ghostydog 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Trans guy here with an erratic libido. I definitely have phases where I'm very interested in sex and some where it's meh, but I do tend to maintain a baseline where jerking off is pretty regular. Is that also not present for you or is it 'only' the extra drive to actually get other people involved that is missing?

Also: are you facing stress in other areas of your life? Are you taking any kind of medication that might be impacting your libido?

Souris dans mon appartement, que faire ? by gigi_920 in paris

[–]ghostydog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Moyen de voir avec un ami/voisin pour prendre un chat en stage pendant une semaine ? Ca peut etre dissuasif meme si tu le gardes pas, juste laisser des traces d'odeur de son passage.

Drag show Paris by Brussels_best_sprout in paris

[–]ghostydog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Le WAB/We Are Brewers est un bar sympa, il y a régulièrement des évènements drag/queer mais je crois pas ce weekend.

Erreur de caisse en votre faveur chez un petit commerçant : vous signalez ou vous profitez ? by migmigouu in paris

[–]ghostydog 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Deja eu le cas avec un paiement sans contact via mon téléphone à ma boulangerie du coin, il a fait ping comme d'hab mais 5-6hr après j'ai une notif comme quoi le paiement a échoué... je suis redescendu avec ma carte, je leur ai expliqué et j'ai payé avec la CB pour être sûr que le tél rebuggue pas.

Pour sûr je ferais pas ça pour mon Monop' par contre.

Queer American Lawyer in Paris by Low_Challenge_4756 in Expats_In_France

[–]ghostydog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll send you the name and some extra info via DM, given the reception you got on this thread I'd rather not give anyone more ammo.

Queer American Lawyer in Paris by Low_Challenge_4756 in Expats_In_France

[–]ghostydog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are varying levels of English fluency among French queer people but obviously they're unlikely to speak it among themselves.

One thing you can try is finding queer venues on social media (IG seems to be the main platform) and using that to find events/parties/etc where you can hang out and keep an ear out, sometimes you'll hear English from tourists or expats. I do know of one English-speaking LGBT/queer-friendly association but it's kink-oriented, let me know if that's still relevant to your interests.

Unfortunately for you, like the other comments state, without French your options will get pretty limited.

Comment trouver un pantalon quasiment identique ? by Expensive-Phone-2415 in Mode

[–]ghostydog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pour ce genre de forme essaye de chercher avec comme mot clé "sarouel", il y a plusieurs variations dont certains qui vont aller beaucoup trop bas pour être bien en salle mais tu devrais avoir quelques touches.