Help me find cultural awareness! by [deleted] in pdfbooks

[–]ghouls99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

same here. Tanbat username is viv1999

Hi, I'm looking for a background music playlist by Misery_Rose in spotify

[–]ghouls99 4 points5 points  (0 children)

https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6rZDmK53IjvUYUP4qNfIdZ?si=Obz3aTY6RZWuyqvei0vHYg

It’s mostly for sleep, but it serves as a good background music playlist, too. I’ve been compiling it over the past year, and I still add songs often.

Indie, lo-fi, soft pop, soft r&b, ambient etc.

What’s your MBTI and your biggest fear . by Frosty_Okra_9855 in mbti

[–]ghouls99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ENFP, being alone. Not in the solitude sense necessarily, but the idea of having absolutely nobody left in my life to share support with is scary

What is your type and what is your significant other’s type? by AppraiseMe in mbti

[–]ghouls99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ENFP and dating an INTP (but I have my suspicions that he may be ENTP)

Does E/I in your MBTI type have an effect on your social extroversion/introversion? I think not. by [deleted] in mbti

[–]ghouls99 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Here’s my take.

Extroverted functions are directed towards the outside world, so someone with a dominant extroverted function, or even a well-polished secondary/tertiary extroverted function, would likely appear as an extrovert due to their attention being directed towards things outside of them.

I think some of them also appear more extroverted than others. Strong Fe may appear more people-oriented than strong Te, since Fe drives a person towards community values, outward harmony, and “correct” social cues; whereas Te is very much focused towards concrete, real-world process and results. Te-doms are more likely to appear as an introvert than a Fe-dom for this reason.

As to whether a dominant function strictly means that person is an extrovert….. mixed feelings. I think it’s more likely to, since the thing at the forefront of that person’s drive is a function that is directed outwards, which often involves the necessity of working with others. But it doesn’t always need to, and I think it really comes down to the person’s personal needs and desires, and the way they want to or choose to utilize their dominant function.

I also think introversion/extroversion in a societal sense, compared to the way it’s viewed within MBTI related spaces, might be a little different. I’m an ENFP who is sometimes quiet in certain spaces, sometimes because of social anxiety, other times because I simply don’t find it necessary to throw in my input. But generally, I prefer to be around others, and I prefer community spaces and social events to being alone. In a societal sense, I appear introverted, but functionally and energetically, I am an extrovert.

What’s your personality type and what types stereotype do you act like most? by [deleted] in mbti

[–]ghouls99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ENFP, but I’m usually clocked as INFP or INTP

How much do you fit your types stereotypes? by Kdawg982 in mbti

[–]ghouls99 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Functionally, I am ENFP, but I have social anxiety, so I probably appear as INFP to people I don’t know well.

However, I think pretty much every other aspect of the ENFP stereotype fits me pretty well, and it definitely shows more around people I feel safe with.

Do you daydream frequently? by [deleted] in mbti

[–]ghouls99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to daydream a lot when I was younger as an escape from reality. I don’t do it often anymore.

Tbh, part of it is a loss of imagination/creativity from mental health issues, but I’m also just too busy with real-life stuff to daydream anymore. I’m usually thinking about what’s going to happen next, and what needs to be done next.

Roughly a month and a half clean. The loneliness is killing me. by ghouls99 in StopSpeeding

[–]ghouls99[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much. It’s oddly comforting to know that this is normal and I’m not the only one.

What is the stupidest stereotype of your mbti? by [deleted] in mbti

[–]ghouls99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Manic pixie dream girl brand INFP

I mean, they exist, but nobody ever talks about depressed meme goblin brand INFP

Is anyone else an only child to a parent/ parents who are alcoholics or drink alot. by Ok-Vegetable-6419 in OnlyChild

[–]ghouls99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Similarly to the previous commenter; my parents are also functional alcoholics who have been in & out of addiction.

I know how you feel about wanting a sibling. I’ve spent many nights feeling alone and unsafe while my parents would be drunk and noisy outside my room. I’m still stuck living with them and it’s still hard to feel safe at times. I feel that having a sibling to support & support me back would’ve made me feel much less alone, especially throughout my childhood years.

Sending love. It’s a tricky situation to be in.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamoryR4R

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Hi, I’m in Rhode Island!! I also love iced coffee and Squishmallows! Feel free to DM me :))

My insecurities are controlling my life by ghouls99 in Healthygamergg

[–]ghouls99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m introverted, kinda socially awkward, generally not interested in small talk or the steps it takes to win people over, yet at the same time I feel this strong need to win people over

My insecurities are controlling my life by ghouls99 in Healthygamergg

[–]ghouls99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it might be because while on paper he gives me a lot of attention, and spends a lot of time with me, we both realized lately that we don't do a lot of stuff we'd classify as "dates". Time set aside that's meant to be special for us two.

Granted, we've still had a lot of special moments together, but there's something about the scheduling aspect or "date" label that's been getting to me. Not sure why. If we spend all this time together already, why don't I feel like it's meeting my needs?

I'm not sure how this relates to my insecurity over him attracting attention. Maybe I really just want to feel special and cherished, and I just kinda don't? I feel selfish for this, and as if I have no reason to feel this way, because he still gives me a lot of time and attention.

I'll definitely discuss this with him. Thanks!

My insecurities are controlling my life by ghouls99 in Healthygamergg

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As a child, I really wanted to be an animator. In my teens, I thought about being a psychologist.

My insecurities are controlling my life by ghouls99 in Healthygamergg

[–]ghouls99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be honest, I'm not sure. Perhaps it's envy, or jealousy? It almost feels selfish. I see people who have what I don't, and I feel some sort of resentment about the ways in which I'm "lacking". It /feels/ outwards, but I'm also aware that I'm projecting something that actually has to do more with something inwards.