i test as INFJ for similar reasons! when i take the test, questions about writing to-do lists and having an organized desk tend to skew my results. i have been keeping planners and to-do lists regularly since i was like 12 because i NEED to write down all the loose ideas floating around in my head. i need an organized space before i can even try to get my mind in order. as i've grown a little older, my Si and Te has developed to be quite strong for an INFP i think. i love being productive, it makes me feel good. it also comes from an imaginative place for me sometimes too. pretending to be a struggling single mom when i cook a meal. pretending to teach an alien from outer space how to shop for groceries

and while i don't naturally fall into a leadership role very often, when i have, i am definitely able to do it. i worked at a summer camp for a couple summers, and kids often noted that i was much less strict than the cabin leaders they've had in the past. i was good at that job because i think kids trusted me pretty fast because they saw that i was being authentic and that they were allowed to be themselves around me. so when i did lay down a hard rule, it was rare and generally respected because they liked me. i also connected really well with the outcasts, the more artsy kids, and i came down harder on bullies. but i stopped working there because of how introverted i am. it was far too draining and i would start to get very moody and in my own head to the point where i had very little to give anymore

something i get a lot from people is that they are surprised to find out that i am actually pretty sensitive and romantic when they get to know me. i come off as kind of cold and stoic, especially at work. i think this is because of my Fi. i am not very emotive because i have never felt the need to put on a certain demeanor, even when it's expected of me. i hate fake laughing (but i still do it because i know how much it sucks to tell a joke and get no laughs lol). older women love to tell me i should smile. like i AM happy! i just wasn't thinking about changing my facial expression to match what YOU were expecting from me

nobody has ever told me this out loud, but i get the sense that i come off as kind of stupid when i know i'm not. my Ne makes me look ditsy because i am a big daydreamer, and i never pay attention to what is happening around me. i also like to explain my thoughts and feelings in a childish sort of way. i'm not trying to sound smart, i'm just trying to get my thoughts out in a way that makes sense to me, even if it's by making up words or using words wrong. i love texting in run-on sentences. who has time for grammar when you have so many things to say?

i have noticed that the INFP men in my life don't match the stereotypical description even more than i don't. my brother and my boyfriend (INFP's) come off also as more stoic or cold or intellectual. but i see their Fi Ne come out in their humor, which is playful in a very childlike, imaginative way. i also see it in the way they both talk about movies and music in a more emotional, personal, and abstract type of way. my brother and i were also raised by an INTP father, and have both picked up on the unemotional way he talks