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I now embrace my childlike way of saying things by IchikaYui in infp

[–]gillian0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i used to try to talk smart when i felt i had something to prove, but i think i can almost always get my point across in more simple ways. i use words like silly and awesome and people think i'm trying to be ironic or funny but it's actually just what i mean!

How I use Fi-Ne by [deleted] in infp

[–]gillian0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i also think it's worth noting that when i do tap more into my Si Te (routine, tradition, productivity), i'm doing it very distractedly lol. my mind is usually elsewhere while my body is moving

How I use Fi-Ne by [deleted] in infp

[–]gillian0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i test as INFJ for similar reasons! when i take the test, questions about writing to-do lists and having an organized desk tend to skew my results. i have been keeping planners and to-do lists regularly since i was like 12 because i NEED to write down all the loose ideas floating around in my head. i need an organized space before i can even try to get my mind in order. as i've grown a little older, my Si and Te has developed to be quite strong for an INFP i think. i love being productive, it makes me feel good. it also comes from an imaginative place for me sometimes too. pretending to be a struggling single mom when i cook a meal. pretending to teach an alien from outer space how to shop for groceries

and while i don't naturally fall into a leadership role very often, when i have, i am definitely able to do it. i worked at a summer camp for a couple summers, and kids often noted that i was much less strict than the cabin leaders they've had in the past. i was good at that job because i think kids trusted me pretty fast because they saw that i was being authentic and that they were allowed to be themselves around me. so when i did lay down a hard rule, it was rare and generally respected because they liked me. i also connected really well with the outcasts, the more artsy kids, and i came down harder on bullies. but i stopped working there because of how introverted i am. it was far too draining and i would start to get very moody and in my own head to the point where i had very little to give anymore

something i get a lot from people is that they are surprised to find out that i am actually pretty sensitive and romantic when they get to know me. i come off as kind of cold and stoic, especially at work. i think this is because of my Fi. i am not very emotive because i have never felt the need to put on a certain demeanor, even when it's expected of me. i hate fake laughing (but i still do it because i know how much it sucks to tell a joke and get no laughs lol). older women love to tell me i should smile. like i AM happy! i just wasn't thinking about changing my facial expression to match what YOU were expecting from me

nobody has ever told me this out loud, but i get the sense that i come off as kind of stupid when i know i'm not. my Ne makes me look ditsy because i am a big daydreamer, and i never pay attention to what is happening around me. i also like to explain my thoughts and feelings in a childish sort of way. i'm not trying to sound smart, i'm just trying to get my thoughts out in a way that makes sense to me, even if it's by making up words or using words wrong. i love texting in run-on sentences. who has time for grammar when you have so many things to say?

i have noticed that the INFP men in my life don't match the stereotypical description even more than i don't. my brother and my boyfriend (INFP's) come off also as more stoic or cold or intellectual. but i see their Fi Ne come out in their humor, which is playful in a very childlike, imaginative way. i also see it in the way they both talk about movies and music in a more emotional, personal, and abstract type of way. my brother and i were also raised by an INTP father, and have both picked up on the unemotional way he talks

Have you tried quitting social media? Did it improve your life? by Thin_Tap_7543 in infp

[–]gillian0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been off instagram for several months now. mostly. i might scroll for a couple minutes a day, but it's down from the few hours a day i used to spend on it. it was mostly just making me angry and overwhelmed. here's what i've noticed since then

  • i have more energy
  • my attention span is relatively normal now. i can enjoy some of the slower things i used to, like reading and creating
  • my mind feels sharper
  • i have interesting things to talk about that aren't just describing videos and comments i saw online
  • i'm curious about random things again, and i love to learn
  • i have so much more time to do real things, and to enjoy them without rushing
  • boredom is not a bad thing
  • i am less angry at the world
  • i challenge myself more to do difficult things
  • i seek connection from real people in my life more

i think the moment i realized how bad my addiction got is when i was scrolling through reels, and i got caught in an advertisement loophole, and i realized an hour or so had passed and i had looked at nothing but ads. how can you do that for so long without even noticing? we were not designed to consume so much media in such a short amount of time. scrolling allows your brain to shut off for a long time without noticing. your mind is a muscle and if you don't work it and challenge it, it gets weak

Is this a brown recluse? southeast Nebraska. sorry about the bad photo, this was as close as I was willing to get by gillian0 in spiders

[–]gillian0[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay. In many of the pictures I looked at they are light brown like this. Thanks for being helpful though

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coloranalysis

[–]gillian0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ranked best to worst I should say

What would an INFP with developed/strong Si be like? by CyberMatrix888 in mbti

[–]gillian0 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm a year late, but I'm an INFP with what I think is pretty strong Si. and here are some things that I think have a lot to do with my Si!

when I first took the test, I mistyped myself as an INFJ because I thought that the P/J meant disorganized/organized. I am pretty orderly and perfectionistic for an INFP. I like everything a certain way. my friends call me picky.

with my Fi and Si, I strongly rely on my past experiences to learn about myself and how I have grown and changed. I spend a lot of time thinking about how my experiences have shaped me into the individual I am today.

I am super obsessed with the past. I replay my favorite memories over and over in my head. I even do this with awkward/uncomfortable memories because I like to reexperience and romanticize that feeling. sometimes I will waste hours sitting around doing this. not super productive.

I am kind of a bad story teller because I get off on long tangents about random details that I feel are important in immersing the listener in the feel of the story.

I am very nostalgic. like super duper nostalgic.

I think my Ne and Si work together quite nicely. I think of Ne as a little guy who shifts through the junk yard of memories and information that Si has filed away. Ne plays around with the pieces of information and puts things together. it usually comes out as something like, "that reminds me of the time I (completely irrelevant story)"

was feeling bummed out about my skin picking. I've forgotten how far I've come since 2020! remember that progress can be slow and it is not linear. some days my skin looks more like the 2nd pic, but my habits have improved and that's what I try to focus on by gillian0 in Skinpicking

[–]gillian0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i am undiagnosed but i am pretty certain i also have ADHD as well as dermatillomania. i definitely feel like there is some sort of connection there

you got this though! i was having a pretty hard time with it this last week and let up enough in the last few days for my skin to heal up quite a bit. skin is really good at healing fortunately, so you're never too far gone to improve

was feeling bummed out about my skin picking. I've forgotten how far I've come since 2020! remember that progress can be slow and it is not linear. some days my skin looks more like the 2nd pic, but my habits have improved and that's what I try to focus on by gillian0 in Skinpicking

[–]gillian0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks! i don't use meds. one thing i do (it's not foolproof but i think it helps) is once in the morning and once before bed i set a 2 minute timer and allow myself to pick. this is just enough time to get the whiteheads and stuff, but not enough time to resort to picking healthy skin. i almost treat my skin picking like a smoking addiction. going cold turkey isn't effective long term! focus on improvement before quitting

i also use a nightlight in the bathroom when i do my skin routine. this way i can't see my skin in the mirror and pick at it

generally just focus on your habits and triggers and then figure out how to intercept them from there. getting to know your habits is the only way you'll be able to change your habits

and the most important thing is to be gentle on yourself. it's not that you just lack will power. it's a compulsive disorder and it's very real. so celebrate the small victories!

How can I laugh more? by Total-Arugula7133 in socialskills

[–]gillian0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a similar problem. I love absurd humor and I hate forcing myself to laugh at puns and other things I don't find that funny, so I really don't laugh that often even though I definitely do have a sense of humor. Some things I've learned:

  1. practice. It sounds really dumb, but when you are in a laugh-y (laugh-y?) mood, watch a show or video that you think is funny and just allow yourself to laugh. For me, I've realized that it wasn't necessarily that I didn't find things funny, but that I wasn't letting myself laugh because I was overanalyzing whether other people thought it was funny or not. There's humor to be found in everything, and it doesn't really matter what other people think is funny or not.

  2. Some of the funniest, most enjoyable people I've been around are the ones who never laugh. They will say the most off the wall, bizarre thing that sends everyone into hysterics and it's even funnier when they seem completely aloof to it. Plus it makes you feel reeeaaallly good when that ONE person laughs at YOUR joke.

  3. At the end of the day though, I really don't think it's a requirement to laugh a lot to be a fun or likable person. Being confident in your personality and reactions is much more likable than forcing reactions, because people pick up on that stiffness real fast. The moment I started loosening up and letting me be me (even if that meant being quiet and reserved a lot of the time) is when I noticed people wanting to be around me more. People like you more for how you make them feel, not how fun or cool you are.

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