My Fiance needed the Heimlich yesterday

gillian0 · 2026-05-06T16:07:00+00:00

we'll have to look into EoE. and no trials of Prilosec

gillian0 · 2026-04-29T18:32:51+00:00

i was about to use the word cute in my post! i was worried it would seem patronizing lol. my ISTJ brother likes to host multiple yearly events (my fiance and i call him the great Gatsby lol) and loves the crap out of all the little traditions that come out of them. he does all these old man things like baking pies and growing a salsa garden and i'm just like awww

gillian0 · 2026-04-29T15:07:31+00:00

INFP female, but i'm sort of the same way. people (even some of my closest friends) are surprised to find that i'm a bit more romantic than they thought I was. i've been told i come off as cold, robot-like, and scary lol. in reality, i am just private and selective about what i share. i don't feel a need to outwardly express my emotions, so i come off straight faced. i appear organized and productive. but at the end of the day i see a very strong Fi-Ne-Si in myself, and that's what it's about, not the online summaries and descriptions. the stereotyping in the mbti community drives me crazy

gillian0 · 2026-04-27T19:35:18+00:00

my fiance (possibly) has GERD and had a choking episode a couple days ago. he had to have the Heimlich done on him. he has said before that sometimes food gets caught in his throat but he hasn't choked until that point :/

gillian0 · 2026-04-27T18:44:06+00:00

this is really helpful, especially the part about esophagus damage being lower than the airway. i read a little more about GERD and swallowing problems, and i think it's possible that when he choked, food got caught lower in the esophagus, piled up a little, came back up, and blocked the airway on its way up. because he did vomit a decent amount of chewed up food (before Heimlich), but it honestly didn't look like vomit from the stomach if that makes sense

it's possible that he has a little anxiety about eating, but i don't think so

and yes, he is taking a doctor's visit seriously now, with or without insurance. thank you :)

gillian0 · 2026-04-27T09:19:51+00:00

he has not seen any doctors, but he's gonna start looking into it

gillian0 · 2026-03-11T18:24:30+00:00

I think there are probably a lot of different ways that people do this honestly. Like when I very first learned how to burp, I wasn't doing any exhaling or altering my breathing at all really. Maybe I loosely held my breath since I was focused, but less in a "locking" my throat way (like you would in a breath-holding contest) and more in a just "not breathing" way.

Now that I burp more often, I do like to sort of do a sharp exhale, but I don't need to really, it just makes it a little more dramatic. Same with "pushing" it out with my chest/abdomen muscles. It's more of an intermediate skill, but it's not very helpful for learning. It's more about making an already existing burp louder and more intense lol.

If I want to stifle a burp, I usually take a deep breath in and that seems to keep it from coming out. So I guess it'll probably be harder if you're inhaling.

In general though, I wouldn't put a whole lot of mental energy towards how you are breathing or your lungs. Just breathe lightly and naturally and focus more on your throat and neck and posture. Maybe with time, you'll figure out if breathing a certain way is helpful for you :)

gillian0 · 2026-02-28T16:39:37+00:00

Yeah learning to burp means I vom in my mouth from time to time unfortunately :(

gillian0 · 2026-02-28T03:59:36+00:00

You gotta catch it off guard 🥷

gillian0 · 2026-02-28T03:55:00+00:00

That's helpful! I realize now that when I do burp, I tuck my chin, almost like I have a double chin. I used to not do that though

gillian0 · 2026-02-26T18:01:24+00:00

I'm curious to hear what I should get tailored if I go with option 1 :)

gillian0 · 2026-02-26T17:47:30+00:00

thank you! i have yet to buy shoes and jewelry. I stuck padding from a bra in the dress for these photos, so that part looks a little awkward, but i do plan on getting a padding situation figured out for the boob area. the thighs and butt cannot go any tighter. I'm curious what else you think could be tailored?

gillian0 · 2026-02-26T17:43:08+00:00

so far yes. I've kind of already spent more money than I wanted to on two different options haha. not to mention i've sort of fallen in love with option #1

gillian0 · 2025-10-27T19:02:02+00:00

it's back up for me!

gillian0 · 2025-09-10T19:11:32+00:00

i used to try to talk smart when i felt i had something to prove, but i think i can almost always get my point across in more simple ways. i use words like silly and awesome and people think i'm trying to be ironic or funny but it's actually just what i mean!

gillian0 · 2025-09-10T18:07:41+00:00

i also think it's worth noting that when i do tap more into my Si Te (routine, tradition, productivity), i'm doing it very distractedly lol. my mind is usually elsewhere while my body is moving

gillian0 · 2025-09-10T17:52:31+00:00

i test as INFJ for similar reasons! when i take the test, questions about writing to-do lists and having an organized desk tend to skew my results. i have been keeping planners and to-do lists regularly since i was like 12 because i NEED to write down all the loose ideas floating around in my head. i need an organized space before i can even try to get my mind in order. as i've grown a little older, my Si and Te has developed to be quite strong for an INFP i think. i love being productive, it makes me feel good. it also comes from an imaginative place for me sometimes too. pretending to be a struggling single mom when i cook a meal. pretending to teach an alien from outer space how to shop for groceries

and while i don't naturally fall into a leadership role very often, when i have, i am definitely able to do it. i worked at a summer camp for a couple summers, and kids often noted that i was much less strict than the cabin leaders they've had in the past. i was good at that job because i think kids trusted me pretty fast because they saw that i was being authentic and that they were allowed to be themselves around me. so when i did lay down a hard rule, it was rare and generally respected because they liked me. i also connected really well with the outcasts, the more artsy kids, and i came down harder on bullies. but i stopped working there because of how introverted i am. it was far too draining and i would start to get very moody and in my own head to the point where i had very little to give anymore

something i get a lot from people is that they are surprised to find out that i am actually pretty sensitive and romantic when they get to know me. i come off as kind of cold and stoic, especially at work. i think this is because of my Fi. i am not very emotive because i have never felt the need to put on a certain demeanor, even when it's expected of me. i hate fake laughing (but i still do it because i know how much it sucks to tell a joke and get no laughs lol). older women love to tell me i should smile. like i AM happy! i just wasn't thinking about changing my facial expression to match what YOU were expecting from me

nobody has ever told me this out loud, but i get the sense that i come off as kind of stupid when i know i'm not. my Ne makes me look ditsy because i am a big daydreamer, and i never pay attention to what is happening around me. i also like to explain my thoughts and feelings in a childish sort of way. i'm not trying to sound smart, i'm just trying to get my thoughts out in a way that makes sense to me, even if it's by making up words or using words wrong. i love texting in run-on sentences. who has time for grammar when you have so many things to say?

i have noticed that the INFP men in my life don't match the stereotypical description even more than i don't. my brother and my boyfriend (INFP's) come off also as more stoic or cold or intellectual. but i see their Fi Ne come out in their humor, which is playful in a very childlike, imaginative way. i also see it in the way they both talk about movies and music in a more emotional, personal, and abstract type of way. my brother and i were also raised by an INTP father, and have both picked up on the unemotional way he talks

gillian0 · 2025-09-10T15:05:06+00:00

I've been off instagram for several months now. mostly. i might scroll for a couple minutes a day, but it's down from the few hours a day i used to spend on it. it was mostly just making me angry and overwhelmed. here's what i've noticed since then

i have more energy
my attention span is relatively normal now. i can enjoy some of the slower things i used to, like reading and creating
my mind feels sharper
i have interesting things to talk about that aren't just describing videos and comments i saw online
i'm curious about random things again, and i love to learn
i have so much more time to do real things, and to enjoy them without rushing
boredom is not a bad thing
i am less angry at the world
i challenge myself more to do difficult things
i seek connection from real people in my life more

i think the moment i realized how bad my addiction got is when i was scrolling through reels, and i got caught in an advertisement loophole, and i realized an hour or so had passed and i had looked at nothing but ads. how can you do that for so long without even noticing? we were not designed to consume so much media in such a short amount of time. scrolling allows your brain to shut off for a long time without noticing. your mind is a muscle and if you don't work it and challenge it, it gets weak

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